Don’t feel pleasure from fingering

[HighStandards]

Okay so following up on my previous post I think that I found the hole LOL (emphasis on think...] because here’s the thing, I tried fingering myself but I didn’t feel any pleasure from doing so. Girls say that it feels good so I was really confused lol...could I be doing something wrong or have I not yet found the hole? XD

[Uniquemind]

Okay so following up on my previous post I think that I found the hole LOL (emphasis on think...] because here’s the thing, I tried fingering myself but I didn’t feel any pleasure from doing so. Girls say that it feels good so I was really confused lol...could I be doing something wrong or have I not yet found the hole? XD

Usually only the first 2-3 inches of the vagina have nerve endings, the rest of the sensory nerve endings in that part of the anatomy are pressure based (hence why we tend to like girth rather than length and why size doesn't matter too much), but more than that you need to be in the right mental space.

Inserting a tampon usually isn't a glorious thing, because your mind isn't necessarily turned-on.


This is what our school health class means about girls and women being more mentally-sexually linked, rather than how guys are where they're more visually-physically sexually wired in the brain.


For best results you really need to be mentally calm, but also in a dissociative state with reality where your mind is focused on a crush or some fantasy of falling in love and getting ravished or something, this is also a state of mind that can be induced from a good romance novel.


Once you have that mental state you should notice that the same physical actions you did before that provided no or little pleasure, now suddenly do.

But also look at where the clitoris is, that's the equivalent structure of what would've become a penis had you been born a male. Tons of nerve endings exist there and there are some studies that show how all the nerve endings of the body between the clitoris, the immediate top of the vagina, and the spinal column all are wired together.

What you learn when you take the knowledge from high school biology and anatomy courses to good use, as well as academic research databases your school provides....the library got a whole lot sexier didn't it?

[Alexis16]

You just have to learn what feels good for you. Keep exploring your body and you'll find what gives you pleasure

[Caycedilla]

Different ways of touching yourself work for different people. Some find that strictly clitoral masturbation works best for them, some enjoy a lot of fingering or vaginal stimulation. There are a lot of other places that people like to touch themselves (boobs, thighs, anally, etc) as well. A lot of people like a combination of these (plus imagination). It’s best to learn what works for yourself because not everyone reacts to the same things.

[PrincessCassie]

I was like that the first few times too but eventually I learned what feels good and what doesnt. Now I get pleasure from fingering so you just have to explore some more and find what works for you.

[StacyD]

Yes, as others have already said, just keep exploring and trying new things, exploring new areas and you will find what works for you. Not only can it be a fun experience just exploring and learning more about yourself, once you finally find what you like, then the real fun begins. Enjoy!

[Nicole4All]

Agree that everyone is different and you have to find what works for you. Fortunately in this case, the more you practice the better it will get.

[sara___]

Agree that everyone is different and you have to find what works for you. Fortunately in this case, the more you practice the better it will get.

:wow::wow::wow::woot::ohmy:

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I "DO NOT" enjoy fingering all that much and never have.
IT'S RUBBING FOR ME :)

[angelina]

Okay so following up on my previous post I think that I found the hole LOL (emphasis on think...] because here’s the thing, I tried fingering myself but I didn’t feel any pleasure from doing so.
Your doubt is reasonable..but good to start with the clitoris and when you feel blooming of orgasm move to vaginal fingering.The sensitivity depends on your mood and involvement.

[KatieCO2003]

For me, vaginal fingering has always been kind-of meh. I did finally find something that works. But yeah, if you're not mentally stimulated, no matter what you try will probably be meh.

[Triple k]

For me, vaginal fingering has always been kind-of meh. I did finally find something that works. But yeah, if you're not mentally stimulated, no matter what you try will probably be meh.

I totally agree:whoops:

[Candy in CT]

Fingering your self for some girls is like trying to tickle your self.

[angelina]

For me, vaginal fingering has always been kind-of meh. I did finally find something that works. But yeah, if you're not mentally stimulated, no matter what you try will probably be meh.
you are right ...i put it in other words.see my answer else where."The sensitivity and satisfaction depend on your mood and involvement." right?

[hayley2003]

For me, vaginal fingering has always been kind-of meh. I did finally find something that works. But yeah, if you're not mentally stimulated, no matter what you try will probably be meh.

You should win a VT Award for best answer! :)

[liane505]

A boy tried fingering me once and I had to stop him because I didn't like it. I tried doing it to myself after that but it's not been very pleasurable. Sometimes if I'm well aroused and can use my imagination involving a boy etc it is ok. But I prefer rubbing.

[Bluegrass]

Nothing beats masturbating my upper part.Sticking my fingers in is just alright.

[LucyCee]

For me, vaginal fingering has always been kind-of meh. I did finally find something that works. But yeah, if you're not mentally stimulated, no matter what you try will probably be meh.

Exactly. With a guy I need to be really aroused otherwise it can really make me sore.

[Maddy_17]

There are a lot of ways to masturbate. From fingering, rubbing your clit, humpping, anal, shower head/other objects and sex toys. You just have to find what works for you!!

[LexiBear]

When I first started it didn't feel good for me either, Just felt like I was poking myself but after doing some experiments and reading advice online and from friends I finally found the pleasure so sometimes it takes trial and error but you'll eventually find your groove like I found mine.

Still haven't had the Big O' tho :(

[scottishlooby]

Are you just going from nothing to putting your fingers in right away? Like other people said you probably need to get your head in the right place first and maybe start with some other ways. For me if I just go straight to it I get about as much please as scratching my ear unless I've already been doing other things first

[gymgurl]

Rubbing and things inside is paradise

[Sofiya02]

Keep trying or maybe use a dildo. Once u got it, it feels amazing.

[gymgurl]

Keep trying or maybe use a dildo. Once u got it, it feels amazing.

Theres other things then dildos, be adventures lol

[gina_g]

Theres other things then dildos, be adventures lol

I agree :yeah::yeah::yeah:

[Jordan99]

You just have to learn what feels good for you. Keep exploring your body and you'll find what gives you pleasure

This. Some girls prefer clitoral stimulation. Some prefer vaginal. I like both.

[gymgurl]

I agree :yeah::yeah::yeah:

Lol me and gina think alike haha

[gina_g]

Lol me and gina think alike haha

:yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah:

[Katrinchen]

:yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah:

hehe - yes, "me too" and i am curious now ;)

[Kiki03]

I "DO NOT" enjoy fingering all that much and never have.
IT'S RUBBING FOR ME :)

Same here. It just doesn't do much for me.

[Becca029]

I didnt at first but then i learned what works for my body and now i love it
-M

for me i still dont get much from it but its nice to change it up
-B

[len05]

I "DO NOT" enjoy fingering all that much and never have.
IT'S RUBBING FOR ME :)

same for me - touching on the outside is YEAH, fingers inside is just boring even when i'm like really aroused

[gurquenjen]

I'm usually much more of a clitoral stimulation girl, but if I'm really, really aroused, and work my g-spot, it's magical...but finding my g-spot took quite a lot of exploration, and sometimes even extra lubricant. Still, internal stimulation isn't for everyone, some girls just get off more from focusing on the clitoris, and if that's you're bag, then that's wonderful.

[Dalcourt]

This thread is getting more and more inappropriate :locked: