Disrespectful to Parents

[Southern_Cheer]

My mom and dad think it is disrespectful to correct your parents regardless of if you are right or wrong. They also think you are being rude and it is punishable if you do not submit to their ideas and ways of thinking despite it being different to what your school texts or teacher says.

I was wondering if anyone else suffers from this same thing?

[Fourth]

Sometimes, whenever I correct my parents, they get like pretty stubborn and have a very long conversation with me, I usually give up and wait for them to realize what their wrong was.

But my mom and dad admits that they didn't really get great education despite the fact that they both have undergrad degrees. They talk to us about stuff they want to know about especially now that there's so much happening it's honestly hard to keep up.

[Southern_Cheer]

my dad works builds houses and my mom stays home so neither of them are like well educated they just dont like being wrong or thinking that some how there kids are going to be better hten them

[Jake445]

Sounds though, no my parents, my sister and I often have nice arguments about all sorts of things. Especially when they talk about something that is incorrect but that almost never happens, as my sister and I are usually the ones being corrected.

[Tim the Enchanter]

My parents think its disrespectful to correct them too, unless of course its warranted.

[teenboyNathan]

The only time my parents would consider me being disrespectful when correcting them is when I would correct them using a hateful tone of voice. Other than that, my parents don't have much of a problem with it

[Tim the Enchanter]

The only time my parents would consider me being disrespectful when correcting them is when I would correct them using a hateful tone of voice. Other than that, my parents don't have much of a problem with it

Basically the same as my parents, I just didn't do a good job saying that right in my post.

[SethfromMI]

my dad works builds houses and my mom stays home so neither of them are like well educated they just dont like being wrong or thinking that some how there kids are going to be better hten them

Careful about being arrogant and ignorant yourself. Not any person can just build houses. It takes quite a bit of knowledge to build a house among the many other things I am sure your dad is able to do. I am also sure your mother is smarter than what you are giving her credit for (not only intellectually, but there is a lot of life experience she has picked up over the years).

It is true some people don't want to believe they are wrong and they can be stubborn even when they are, which could very well be the case with your parents. It can absolutely help how you approach them on certain topics (saying your father cannot be well educated because he builds houses is a very poor way to approach it for example).

It can also depend if it is their moral values and judgments. Even if your book says one thing, one, a lot of the crap which gets put in textbooks does not always give the best picture (there are still textbooks which paint Columbus in a positive picture). When it comes to morals and values those things are personable to people. Even when they are misguided or seem dark, those things are personable to them and most people don't want anyone telling them they are wrong when it comes to those things.

I don't have the full picture here. I am not exactly sure on which things you are trying to approach your parents on nor do I know how you are going about doing it (it is possible they are perceiving it differently, but it is also possible you are coming at it with an air of superiority, which, if you are, I would gently say that rarely ever helps. Trust me, I know).

At the end of the say you are their child living in their household. If you are being abused you can report them. If not, I hate to say this, but you got to respect them until you are out on your own.

[EvaNL]

You can disagree without being disrespectful.
If you disagree with what they're saying, try to see their side, take a few seconds to think about it, repeat their answers so you know you understand what they're saying ("So you're saying that..."), keep your voice at a normal level and pitch, start your sentences with "My opinion is .." or "I think that ..", use reasonable arguments, and try to find common ground.
If you can't find common ground, think about if it's worth fighting them about it. You can even say "let's agree to disagree" and do what they say, even though you don't agree.

Remember that they are trying to give you the best (start to) life they know how to. No parent is perfect; they're only human. Give them the benefit of the doubt. They're doing their best.
Also remember that teens in puberty can be a pain in the ass (nothing personal) and that it's difficult to try and give them the best advice you see fit: they might not accept any advice ;)

[Uniquemind]

My parents aren't like this.

However back-talking if it's done from a place of material selfishness and or pride I always got in trouble for.


After I learned maths, I was allowed to see the family financial cash flow intake and burn rate and that pretty much let objective household budget dictate the reality of what I'd have to do as an adult one day.

So my parents raise me with a sense of independence and realism.
They also aren't really religious, that's something I independently sought out myself due to personal supernatural life experiences.

So many teenage problems are about money, my parent's style of raising me quelled those debates.

Issues about me resisting putting my all into my education were not tolerated. However my
Parents went the extra mile to see specifically where certain teacher's might be giving a bad style of learning for me as a student and they were on-it on the school to make sure I got the understanding of a fair learning environment.

In return I was expected to not give my parents drug problems or coming home late problems.


When I was 9-10, they spent 6 hours a day memorizing my times tables with me, and wouldn't let me get a wii or any makeup til I mastered them.

My parents my tradition usually gave me their reasoning as to why they raise me the way they do and out of that I've come to trust them.

I recognize there is a danger in that if you raise children this way they'll hesitate until a reason is given, sometimes when someone says "MOVE!" you need to not question it and just listen.

(Got saved from being hit by a car in San Francisco, once because of this scenario).


But I find that kind of obedience is best created when there is a trust card played not the authoritative card. Parents do have the right to play either.


Religious families are the worst because I don't think their modeling of parenting relies on making that trust card, it relies on the hierarchal structure of family unit design, which has allowed abuse to fester and this dynamic also is the glue behind why religious cults work, despite obvious abused taking place. They rely on the authority card in the same way the Bible kind of implies that families rely on God on the authority card it's a bad model...and is actually an incomplete teaching of scripture but they aren't self-aware enough to realize it.


So I ask religious family this; isn't it prideful to assume you interpreted your Bible correctly? Yes; all scripture is god breathed and inspired but your interpretation is not.

Obviously if the issue of interpretation wasn't a problem Jesus wouldn't have had issues with the Pharisees or the Sadducees....obviously written text and traditions CAN be warped overtime, whose to say aspects of modern Christianity interpretation also didn't fracture (and it did fracture, we got baptists, non-denominations, Methodists, Anglican)

There's even more, originally the Catholic Church fractured, then Protestants came along, the Protestants fractured again...and then don't forget you had the Church of England whose sole purpose was so King Henry the 8th could murder his wives to womanize...

It is because religious communities don't acknowledge the ugly parts of their faith that nonbelievers think they have a bad credibility to even preach their faith. This is what Satan wants.


^hows that for a mind blowing revelation.