What would you say

[skittlesh]

What would you say to someone starting secondary school (11-12yrs) this time off your life where you changing schools and puberty is really taking its start.
What’s something you regret
Or wish you knew when you first began help those others out yo’know

Mine are

Be with in with the crowd you wanna be in throughout the rest of school
Take every opurtunity
Don’t be emmbarrassed about your body during puberty everyone’s looks like that
... But still try to get in shape its so worth it in a few years


So yeh

[ShineintheDark]

Be who you want to be. It's gonna seem like changing who you wanna be just to fit in is the best option but when you eventually become that person, you're gonna regret not being true to yourself.

As for puberty, don't hate your body. You may develop slow or really fast but never abnormal.

[Leena_2003]

Be who you want to be. It's gonna seem like changing who you wanna be just to fit in is the best option but when you eventually become that person, you're gonna regret not being true to yourself.

As for puberty, don't hate your body. You may develop slow or really fast but never abnormal.

I agree. Be yourself. Some people won't like you but others will like you. Accept yourself as you are.

[Barbara.]

I agree. Be yourself. Some people won't like you but others will like you. Accept yourself as you are.

I agree ,I just want to add. Just be yourself and be proud of who are. Be Confident in yourself and your body . I was told one time that I must love myself before I could be loved by others.:yes:

[jamie_n5]

I was never worried about going through puberty and have always thought my body looked alright. Just be confident and not so modest when you have to be naked in front of others.

[Fourth]

Be yourself, you'll find a circle of friends where you'll fit in.

Even if you're scared to try things, be it about school, relationships or etc., everyone is just as scared as you are, go out there and try things.

Don't let others let you feel bad about your body, it is yours, get to know it and be comfortable with it.

[Harrier]

Worry less. The goal is to be worry free. You will never get to that point but try. Don't worry if you have a zit or you are too big or too small or too dark or too light. Or your hair is too straight or too curly. Nobody cares since they are sadly worrying about all those things about themselves to even sometimes notice your hair or zit.

[ska8er]

Ur going to go through a lot of
changes in ur body and have a
lot of different emotions. Don't
let these things scare u. Just b
urself and don't worry about a
lot of the things some others
may taunt u with. We r all the
same no matter what is said.

[scott2002]

1. Regarding your puberty and your body and having to be naked around others at times, there is no reason to be embarrassed about anything you have no control over: How fast or slow your puberty development is progressing, how tall or short you are, etc. Don't worry about any of this stuff.
2. Promise yourself you will NEVER say anything bad about anyone, and you'll NEVER tease or bully anyone, and you'll get on your friends whenever you see them bullying someone or speaking bad about someone.
3. In making friends, pay more attention to being INTERESTED than in trying to be INTERESTING. Try to avoid talking about yourself, but be very interested in letting your friends talk about themselves.

[lliam]

I would say: "Son, if you have pros that you can't handle, come to me and we'll find a solution. Otherwise, stay as you are."

[Southern_Cheer]

This is actually a pretty cool thread, nice to see something so positive.....but still hating jr. high though

[Fishmaster]

Wear jeans or tight underwear..I learned from only owning sweatpants and shorts at a point in my life when i was hard about 5 times an hour

[Neha13]

Puberty is naturally njoyable period

[Brandon618]

Be yourself. Don't just do what others do if you really don't want to and are trying to just fit in. You'll find your friends that have the same likes and dislikes without you having to do things you don't want.

[Svladimere074]

My mistake was just trying to coast by. And not be notice. I didn't do anything extra or go for things I wanted. Like elective classes, or clubs or even sports. Practically about to graduate soon. And its like dang what was I thinking. I totally didn't use my time wisely. now I wish my freshman year I would tried the drama club, did more than one year of soccer, and more than a month of wrestling. Also wish i would have gotten into art more. Rather than being stuck drawing stick figures currently. LOL Don't hold back. And don't be scared to try something. You never know. You might end up enjoying it. Rather to try it and not like it. Then regret not taking the chance and missing the opportunity. As far as being with the in crowd. I always found those people to be fake. Not true to themselves and only doing what best for their image. The were the most miserable people and ignorant. Be you and don't be afraid to talk to somebody that looks weird. They might be the coolest person ever and your next best friend.

[gina_g]

I agree ,I just want to add. Just be yourself and be proud of who are. Be Confident in yourself and your body . I was told one time that I must love myself before I could be loved by others.:yes:

well put!

[Chris2005]

Be yourself. Don't just do what others do if you really don't want to and are trying to just fit in. You'll find your friends that have the same likes and dislikes without you having to do things you don't want.

that's really good advice.

[mick01]

similar to what others have said, I've seen a quote that I really like. "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." And when others are ready to criticize you, consider that they are only doing that to hide their own shortcomings and insecurities.

[jwags808]

Don’t let other people tell you how to live your life!

[Caro2004]

I changed not only schools but countries and language when I was 11. I felt very out of it. I didn't know anyone and I felt like a stranger every time I opened my mouth. For me, I tried to be cooler than I am, more knowledgeable about the world and life than is true. I made mistakes but in other ways it's helped me to grow up faster and, because I've needed to be, made me more confident as I've got older. It isn't easy but overall it's done me a lot of good.

Good luck!