New Girl and New Culture

[NewLeafsFan]

So there is this new international girl at my school (University). She is from India and she only arrived in Canada about 10 days ago. We met at a party on Saturday and we seem to have hit it off. I'm going to ask her out on a date soon and I am very confident that she likes me too.

I have no dating experience so I feel very unequipped to deal with the many challenges that I know are ahead. She doesn't even have life in Canada figured out yet such as a place to stay in the summer and money for the near future, ect. And I know almost nothing about her culture.

So I have a few questions. Is it too soon to put the pressure of a relationship off of her? Are there any Indian customs I should know about? I'm worried that shes going to think I'm in the wrong caste or something and I don't want to disrespect her.

[Stronk Serb]

Dude, ask her about it. Besides you are a foreigner, you belong to no caste. I know as much as you do about India so you can have her talk about her culture and cultural heritage. On the plus side, it says you show interest in her by trying to understand her and her people.

[mick01]

I wouldn't look at dating someone to be filled with challenges. Just the opposite. It could be awesome to get to know someone and his/her culture if different than my own. Also it's an opportunity to help her get adjusted to new people and surroundings. And I would ask her if she is interested in dating but if not, ask if you could still be friends. You never know what could develop.

[ska8er]

I think for now til the both of u
get to know each other better is
just to become friends. After that
then u can ask her if she would like
to date. If u don't know her customs
just ask her. It is something to get
talking more with her and u can then
become closer.

[jamie_n5]

I think it would be great to ask her out. You can spend the first part of your dating in a quiet place like going out to dinner or somewhere that you can sit and talk. Get to know each other and ask questions about her culture and answer her questions about Canada and life there. Things should progress automatically sort of as you spend more time with each other and then as time goes on you will feel and know when it's time for some intimacy like kissing and hugging and holding hands ect.. I think you will do fine. Just be yourself and I wish you loads of luck.

[NewLeafsFan]

I wouldn't look at dating someone to be filled with challenges. Just the opposite. It could be awesome to get to know someone and his/her culture if different than my own. Also it's an opportunity to help her get adjusted to new people and surroundings. And I would ask her if she is interested in dating but if not, ask if you could still be friends. You never know what could develop.

Thanks to everyone that responded but I love this answer here. I've often believed that you should try to look at challenges as opportunities.

[DanielleIU]

I wouldn't look at dating someone to be filled with challenges. Just the opposite. It could be awesome to get to know someone and his/her culture if different than my own. Also it's an opportunity to help her get adjusted to new people and surroundings. And I would ask her if she is interested in dating but if not, ask if you could still be friends. You never know what could develop.

Totally agree with this. My advice is to take it one step at a time. You'll find that time and talking will reveal everything you need to know.