My Curious Younger Brother.

[Sweeney05]

I know this isn't exactly puberty related per se, so I'm sorry if this doesn't really belong here. But I really wanted to talk about this and get peoples opinions on it and I didn't know where else to put it.

So, my little brother, he's only 10. He's a really shy and quiet kid. So, he doesn't really have many friends that he can hang out with. He usually ends up hanging out with me and my friends whenever we go out and do stuff. When I'm with my buddies the conversion tends to turn sexual at some point. Talking about girls we like, things we jerk off to, that sort of thing. But I think all this talk has made my brother curious about it all now too. He keeps asking me a lot of questions about puberty and masturbation, how my body is changing and stuff. Which, I understand he's curious, but I feel kinda weird about it. Partly because he's only 10 and partly because he's my brother. Plus, I've noticed something else now recently. It could just be me being paranoid, but it always seems like he's paying very close attention to me while I'm changing. Should I try and sit him down and talk to him and answer his questions, or could that just make matters worse?

[OldNewGuy]

I think talking to him would be a good idea.

[Tpyro]

Hey theres no harm in talking to him. Answering his questions and explaining things to him .would change his and your view and understanding on things. Hes trying to hang withbthe big boys and pick up things so he isnt out if the loop hanging out with you and friends

[ska8er]

Sit him down and talk to him. Ask
him if he has any questions and then
b honest with him. Hes curious and
looks up to u.

[rohancool]

Just have a talk with him.

[Sweeney05]

Thanks for the advice.

[ashdaniel]

I will say just talk to him. I think he may be bit young to understand everything. But it is good that he know you are there to support him.

[kro814]

You should be a good big brother and speak with him about it.

[Fourth]

You should talk to him. If you don't, there might be a chance that he will ask questions to other people. I mean it's much better to get to know things from you, his brother, rather than from other people who might misinform him.

[Sevro au Barca]

Transparency is key. Even if you don’t feel 100% uncomfortable telling hum everything, probably the worst thing you could do would be to lie to him or stretch the truth about it.

[teenboyNathan]

I'd say talk to him but try not to get into too many details since he's only 10

[Anthony17]

You could talk to him.

[Sweeney05]

Yeah, you're right. I'll have to sit him down and talk to him. Thanks guys.

[Fritz]

Dear God id not know what to say to my little brother it he were In the same position

[Harrier]

I had SORT of the same situation but also very different! My little bro has had to hear and see a lot of things from me and my friends and also his sisters that he probably shouldn't have heard at age 10. But so is life when you don't have a lot of friends and you have a 14 year old brother and a 13 and 15 year sister (we're all 4 years older now). The difference is that he wanted to know nothing about puberty until he was 12. He was pretty immature and nerdy. Even then all he seemed to want to know about was the female body. He never seemed to be concerned with the rest. That changed a little later and I have answered all of his questions he has had. But I have never went to him and asked him if he wanted to know stuff.

[jelly3000]

As a general rule, ask if he has any general questions. Answer then plainly and not in too much detail. Don't try and explain too much - as he might just have some simple questions...

[TheDudeJ]

I think it's ok to ask questions so you could talk to him

[Hermes]

I don't think talking to him will makes things worse. If you're worried that you may be pushing information at him that he's not ready for then the simplest answer to that is to let him set the pace by just answering his questions.

[SeansLittleBro]

Yes, he is 10, but he is hanging with you and your friends so he is picking up on things...that is not bad at all and can actually ehlp your relationship with your brother...I would agree with what has been said and that is to talk with him.....if he is asking questions don't put him off and be direct with him about things....let im know that you realize that he is growing up and may have questions...I don't know if you had the "talk" with your father, but you may want to talk to your dad to let him know that your brother is becoming curious about his own body...never lie to him and if you do talk...use proper terms for things....I had 2 older brothers that were always there for me and I and still close to them...the next older bro is about the same as you and your brothers difference and when I was 9 and 10 I bugged him constantly about things...

[mick01]

My older brother is 4 years older than me and he was/is a huge help when it comes to this stuff. From the first time I was curious about things, he was open and patient with me. I really appreciated that so maybe you could do the same for your little brother. It made us closer and I know I can talk to him about anything. And I do.

[Zachary G]

I agree with everyone else, sit him down, talk to him and open yourself up to any questions he might have. Better to hear it from you than to learn the wrong information from someone else or the internet. You have a special bond with your little bro and he seems to look up to you, so its your job to see him get on with life properly. Just don't lie to him and if you don't know the answer to his question, tell him you don't know, but will find the proper answer for him and get back to him.

[Hockeystar2020]

I would just talk to him

[TWDjacob]

Yeah he has a built in trust with you now and he's comfortable with asking you stuff. Maybe in the future try to get your friends to watch what they say or don't always bring him if you know it will be a problem just because he is moderately young

[zzzzzzzzzz]

Yeah, you're right. I'll have to sit him down and talk to him. Thanks guys.

Dear God id not know what to say to my little brother it he were In the same position

I hit puberty at 10, so I wish I had someone to help me. My bro is 18 moths older than me and we're close just not in that way. Just answer what you can and be honest. Even if it's pointing them in the direction of this site. They can't register yet, but can still read stuff. It could bring you closer to Ur bros. Even reassuring them that we all grow at our own rates and different is normal, even between brothers!

[wrestleboy13]

Yeah, you're right. I'll have to sit him down and talk to him. Thanks guys.

Let us know how things go

[abc91]

yup talk to him hes curious and he looks up to you

[NewLeafsFan]

Yeah, you're right. I'll have to sit him down and talk to him. Thanks guys.

It sounds to me like he is probably where you were 3 years ago (paying attention to changes in his body, curious about other guys naked) except that he is a lot more familiar because of what he's heard from your friends. I'm glad you are going to talk to him though because he he is unclear or confused about something it could lead to much bigger problems. Let us know how it goes.

[hairy balls]

You should be a good big brother and speak with him about it. but don't do any sex stuff with him .

[scott2002]

I think what's done is done and you can't go back and undo what he has seen and heard. But he's just 10 and I think there is a BIG chance he might say things to other people (kinda bragging about what he knows that others don't know) and some adult (like a teacher) could begin to think some older person or adult might me doing sexual things with him or to him (as in "is he being sexually abused at home?"). So I think you need to tell him that everything he has seen and heard from you and your friends is STRICTLY PRIVATE and not to be shared with ANYONE. He's still at least a whole year away from the very beginning of his own puberty - those first tiny little hairs sprouting.

[Henry333]

just talk to him and be honest. he should understand you

[Sweeney05]

Let us know how things go

I finally sat him down and had a talk to him. It was a little awkward at first, but everything turned out well.

[heymynameis]

i have a younger brother and u talk to him a lot about this kind of stuff. i think you should have a chat with him

[crushinator]

Wish I had an older brother to talk to.

[built chris]

I've got a younger brother to. Had the same issue. Things got better after I talked to him.

[InternetTeen]

I think you should sit down and just talk to him about the things you've experienced in Piberty and answer his questions. My brother asks me questions sometimes and i often answer

[sumatera]

Wish I had an older brother to talk to.

then talk to me :D hahaha

[sumatera]

I finally sat him down and had a talk to him. It was a little awkward at first, but everything turned out well.

and, what the conversation result? hahaha

[Sweeney05]

and, what the conversation result? hahaha

Well it didn't turn out to be anywhere near as awkward as what I was expecting. In FAC it turned out quite well. We can talk a lot more openly with each other now.

[sumatera]

Well it didn't turn out to be anywhere near as awkward as what I was expecting. In FAC it turned out quite well. We can talk a lot more openly with each other now.

are u and him in same bed room? or take a bath together? :D

[Sweeney05]

are u and him in same bed room? or take a bath together? :D

We do share a bedroom together.

[JamesCam]

I've got 2 younger bros and they had questions at times and especially when I started puberty they looked at me too. Tbh it's fairly natural that boys are inquisitive about other boys. You can easily tell him bits without needing to go into huge amounts of detail until a more appropriate time, if you feel he is too young for all the details that is.

[thatrandomguy01]

I know this isn't exactly puberty related per se, so I'm sorry if this doesn't really belong here. But I really wanted to talk about this and get peoples opinions on it and I didn't know where else to put it.

So, my little brother, he's only 10. He's a really shy and quiet kid. So, he doesn't really have many friends that he can hang out with. He usually ends up hanging out with me and my friends whenever we go out and do stuff. When I'm with my buddies the conversion tends to turn sexual at some point. Talking about girls we like, things we jerk off to, that sort of thing. But I think all this talk has made my brother curious about it all now too. He keeps asking me a lot of questions about puberty and masturbation, how my body is changing and stuff. Which, I understand he's curious, but I feel kinda weird about it. Partly because he's only 10 and partly because he's my brother. Plus, I've noticed something else now recently. It could just be me being paranoid, but it always seems like he's paying very close attention to me while I'm changing. Should I try and sit him down and talk to him and answer his questions, or could that just make matters worse?

Since he has heard your conversations and is curious about things and you 2 share a room, when was the last time you 2 have seen each other naked?

[strang]

Talk with him

[BoyOBoy]

Just answer his questions. Its nice that he comes to you.

[jerrion]

I know this isn't exactly puberty related per se, so I'm sorry if this doesn't really belong here. But I really wanted to talk about this and get peoples opinions on it and I didn't know where else to put it.

So, my little brother, he's only 10. He's a really shy and quiet kid. So, he doesn't really have many friends that he can hang out with. He usually ends up hanging out with me and my friends whenever we go out and do stuff. When I'm with my buddies the conversion tends to turn sexual at some point. Talking about girls we like, things we jerk off to, that sort of thing. But I think all this talk has made my brother curious about it all now too. He keeps asking me a lot of questions about puberty and masturbation, how my body is changing and stuff. Which, I understand he's curious, but I feel kinda weird about it. Partly because he's only 10 and partly because he's my brother. Plus, I've noticed something else now recently. It could just be me being paranoid, but it always seems like he's paying very close attention to me while I'm changing. Should I try and sit him down and talk to him and answer his questions, or could that just make matters worse?

The best thing to do is share your experience with your brother , he is one of the most important people in your life and as he is younger he looks up to you for information, its not bad , inapropriate or gay to tell him about jerking of or compare your bodies , its just normal preteen curiosity about the world

[tdog123]

you should probably talk to him

[SilverSM]

Talk to the kid man, It's better that he learns about this stuff from you as you're learning it yourself. To be honest I wish I had an older brother to have someone to look up too and ask questions, I can't ask anyone any questions cuz my family are a religious bunch :)

[fidgetykid]

i would talk to him cus its nice to have a older brother you can talk to about anything

[WeebOOF]

I think talking to him would be a good idea as the older brother im the younger bro and my big bro taught me stuff about puberty and that

[BigBurrito]

I believe talking to him would be a good move

[countryplowboy]

I am the younger brother here..I can tell you that my older brother and I are extremely close. He always took time for me and would include me. He always answered my questions and made me feel comfortable. He is still my best friend and I still look up to him. I am 16 he is 18