Crossing the line?

[Cognizant]

Ok. To cut this short, this guy who I've only talked to for 5 days asked me out on a date. Today was the date. It wasn't anything special, we just kind of chilled in a odd corner of school. We started off by just talking, but then he kept talking about how pretty I was. I didn't mind but then he started grabbing my cheeks (you know, in the romantic way not some weird way :P) and staring into my eyes and saying my eyes were beautiful. "A bit much for a first date" I say to myself, but whatever; the attention was nice as long as he wasn't planning on kissing me right then and there. Date goes on and while it's a really long story in itself, he eventually started to feel up my leg to my crotch. I didn't mind the attention, but that's when my internal alarm went off saying that we might be starting to take things a bit too fast for my comfort.

But is it too fast? I mean, even my ex boyfriend didn't get cuddly with me until our second or third date, and that was after about a month of knowing/talking to him. I just don't want to rush things through and have the relationship burn out fast, you know? Don't get me wrong, if this was our fourth date or whatever I would totally let him do as he pleased. I just want to get to know him better so I don't commit too early and realize he has quirks that just bother me too much. But maybe I'm just being a bit paranoid. What do you guys think?

[radsniper]

too fast maybe on the third date but no way on the first

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Well, I know a couple which had sex the first time they saw each other (sure enough they lived like, 3 hours apart, but whatever)

It does not matter how fast you go, but as long as you feel comfortable, then that's fine. If you don't want to be (for example) giving your boyfriend a blowjob until 1, 2, 4 or even 12 months, then you would have to talk to him about it. You know?

It's best to let him know rather than keeping quiet, otherwise, he will think it's fine to be doing these things even though you're not comfortable, and that's not what relationships are supposed to be like.

[ScottishCanary]

Yeah that certainly seems a bit quick to me. I would let him know that you feel that he was maybe a little too physical with you for the first date and that you'd rather take the physical part of your relationship (if you have one) slower. You need to be honest and communicate, otherwise he will never know how you feel.

[backjruton]

Personally any physical contact for me at all is "getting too close", I'm not a very big fan of it. Hate being patted on the back and stuff, I get an awkward feeling

Surely the more time you spend of the day together the more you will learn about eachother and the less days it will take for you to know eachother a lot. 5 days does sound too quick (not that I would know because I've never got into a close relationship with anyone) and you should definitely talk to him. Ask him to slow down or something if it's bothering you, ask more details about him, spend more time with him, you need to ask about these annoying quirks before you go any further if you're worried they will bug you. I have the potential in college to have a girlfriend and I'm not taking it because I already know about this girl's annoying quirks. Best friend-ship is all I want with a girl anyway, a girl's "Gay Best Friend"(?). You shouldn't have to ask us if the relationship is moving on too quickly, use your own possibly better judgement.

Sorry if some of this sounds like gibberish, I am very tired as it is now 5am XD

[DiamondsGirl]

With the risk of being shot down and contradicted, I'm going to be very honest here. You're not just being a paranoid by worrying. I'm a paranoid so if you want to hear a paranoid opinion, here goes:

There is no such thing as true love in five days. Heck, I know this guy (I'm a girl btw so can't stand in your shoes) for 5 months and when we started dating turns out he's nothing but a jerk. This person might as well simply trying to get into your pants. It's fine if you don't mind, but assuming you are seeking for a romantic relationship, this is definitely not the way to go. If I were you, I'd slap him and go home. I'm saying this because I don't want you to feel heartbroken/sad in any shape or form in the future. Not trying to insult anyone x