Is it ok that I call myself bi because I haven't decided

[Turbofan explosion]

Often on VT people ask about orientation, I haven't decided mine yet. I probably won't decide until I am like 15.

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?

[SethfromMI]

Well I try to tell people to not worry about putting a label on yourself. If you don't know, you can say I don't know or I am curious. I also say you can think your one thing but discover down the road that is not really the case and that's ok too.

[mick01]

I would say that you're just not sure yet. Undecided. Like Seth said, don't worry about a label yet. But if you feel like you want some identity, and bi is the closest you feel today, then go with that.

[EvaNL]

Tell them you don't know. You don't need to decide anything before you're ready. You don't even have to put a label on yourself.
If they can't handle you saying "I don't know (yet)", then that's their problem, not yours.

[ska8er]

U don't label urself. If someone
asks tell them its none of their
business. Theres a lot of time
before u can decide who or
what u r. For now-ur u.

[Atlantis]

Puberty for All :arrow: Teen Sexuality and Gender


Don't worry about putting a label on yourself yet, if at all.

[ImJulia]

I am straight but curious

[jamie_n5]

There is no rush to label your sexuality. You will know for sure in your mind and heart someday. If it makes you feel better to call yourself Bi then do it. We are also all somewhat curious about other guys and girls and it's a normal part of puberty and growing up. You could also call yourself straight curious if you wanted to.

[Max the Disenchanter]

outside of VT, practically speaking, your life will be easier if you just tell people you're straight until you know otherwise. people will just assume you're gay if you say "none of your business" or "curious". i mean, unless you go to a super inclusive school like i do.

[Shamal]

I don't think you should get at all hung up on labels - you can choose and change whenever you want. However, maybe saying 'not sure' would be better than telling people you're gay unless you are sure you are, because otherwise it can get a bit complicated.

[rohancool]

Often on VT people ask about orientation, I haven't decided mine yet. I probably won't decide until I am like 15.

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?

You do not need to put a label or assign a particular age to put it. Just enjoy the life, that' s what our age is about. Don't feel the peer pressure and just live the way you want to live. your life, your rules.

[Dalcourt]

As the other said it isn't necessary to label yourself.
At your age being undecided is sorta normal so I don't think there's a need to call yourself anything.

[TWDjacob]

Yeah you don't need to label yourself especially this early on but if you feel the need to label yourself it's not like you can't change your mind and you are stuck in that category

[azurzg]

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?

Human :D

[Stanley02]

Often on VT people ask about orientation, I haven't decided mine yet. I probably won't decide until I am like 15.

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?

Just say haven’t decided

Or non decided

Undecided

Please don't multipost like that use the "Edit" button next time
~ Dalcourt

[azurzg]

bell yourself

best typo ever :yeah:

:wub:

[abc91]

dont label urself yet - youre young. you may just be in a 'phase' also. heck we all wanna compare dicks at some point

[NewLeafsFan]

I think that labelling yourself as bi would be wrong. Not that there is any reason to label yourself at this young age or possibly ever, but if you insist on it say that you are currently investigating your sexuality. It's true and it's not guessing as to what it might be. It is very misleading to anyone that might be interested in you to make up a label because you feel like you needs one.

[Ragle]

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?

I human! I me!


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[NeonBlueButterfly]

I'm jumping on the bandwagon here to say that there's no rush to label yourself. If you don't know, it's perfectly fine to say so. I cannot remember what book it was I was reading, but one character said "you don't owe anyone a label" to another, and I have to agree with that. If you find a label you are comfortable with and want to use it, great. If not, don't stress about it, because it's quite normal to not be sure.

[Just JT]

It’s nit something you decide. It’s something you just are
It’s a matter of realizing it and coming to terms with it
You don’t decide to be blind, black, gay, blond hair, or anything else
It’s just who you are
So don’t label yourself. People change hair colors, and might take some time

[sumatera]

Often on VT people ask about orientation, I haven't decided mine yet. I probably won't decide until I am like 15.

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?

are u ever fall in love with girl, or just thinking some male school's friend is looks cute?

[abcdeqwe]

well, I did that with my friends in like 7th and 8th grade, I lead to some confusion when I said I was gay, but you don't really have to label yourself if you don't want to.

[ImAPerson]

Often on VT people ask about orientation, I haven't decided mine yet. I probably won't decide until I am like 15.

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?

Same dude

[MasonBA]

I've never had anyone ask what my sexuality is and I don't know yet. I think girls are pretty and I've seen a few pictures of naked women that made me tingle down there. I also think some boys are cute and like seeing them in the shower at school, and also like being naked with my friends and playing around with them. I don't think that defines anything as I'm just starting puberty

[jwags808]

You don’t have to decide dude, sexuality is so flexible

[scott2002]

I think the majority of the responses have been to either not label yourself, or call yourself bi or 'straight but curious'.
But my question is, who is asking? You don't have to announce your own sexuality to anybody. Told to very close friends, any answer other than "I'm straight" would imply you have some real interest in same-sex activity. If you don't want anyone to think you're keeping the door open to playing with another guy's dick (which is perfectly fine), then the best answer might just be that, "it's personal, okay?"