The girl

[Henry333]

I know I've posted a lot recently but I'm just confused and I really care about this girl. We've been going out 3 months now and over the past month something has happened on her end. I love her and I feel the same towards her as I always have but it seems as if she may be having second thoughts. This is both of our first relationships. We went to a party and she pretty much ignored me and she'd dance with anyone but me. This especially upset me cause that was the day I was finally gonna kiss her. I talked to her and she said she was just overwhelmed by being in a relationship and she just wanted to dance with her friends. But even since then she's seemed down, yet if I ask if everything is ok she just says she has a headache or something. I can tell something is up and I wish I could help because I care about her so much. I'm just worried and I'm probably over thinking because I really care about her and our relationship. I just want some idea of why she's being like this. She is so sweet and kind and genuine, so I assume it's something I've done or said but I can't think of anything

[mick01]

Just trying to offer an honest perspective here. You seem to be obsessing in a way that she could find to be a turn off. You were going out for only two months before things started to change so maybe she wasn't ready to get in so deep so fast.
As hard as this will be, I really think you need to talk to her about taking a break from the relationship. Give her some room to think this through. If she comes back, you'll know she wants to be with you. If she doesn't, it was never going to work out anyway.

[Just JT]

I agree with mick01
I’ve read your other posts on this issue you have. And I’m not sure if you don’t like what’s being said to you or don’t understand what’s being said to you
Either way, you seem to know what’s up, you posted it.
My suggestion is go back and read all the posts for this in your previous threads on this with an open mind as if you’ve never posted in the thread and it’s not other you who started the thread. Just put it outa your mind
Then think about what’s being said by you and others, including what yiunsaod she told you.

It’s all right there bro, I get it’s hard to swallow sometimes but so,times there’s just nothing else to understand in it.
If they feeling whatever way than that’s that, accept it and move on
If you really truly love her you’ll want her to be happy, even if it’s without you

[Axrow]

Yeh, unfortunately girls sometimes get to a point where they don't know what they want anymore and are unhappy with the familiar. If you smother her, then it will only feed that potential for her to withdraw from you.

[Just JT]

Yeah ^^
Sometimes I think if thats why some guys chill with guys
Just sayin......sorry

[jamie_n5]

I think that you need to talk to her and flat out ask her if she wants to continue with the relationship. You are 15 and people usually have several relationships in their younger years before they find the right person. She may want to be free to see or do whatever she wants to again. In this fast moving high tech world of ours today young people are getting into so serious relationships at even 13. They are heartbroken if they break up. You are way too immature at 13-16 both mentally and physically to be in such a deep relationship. My mom tells me that she wasn't allowed to date until she was 16. I know that I lucked out starting a serious relationship at 14 but we had been best friends since we were 3. I think you should talk to her and if it ends move on and you will find someone else. Good luck.

[NewLeafsFan]

The first thing that you need to do is stop blaming yourself. Even if she's fallen out of love with you, she owes it to you to tell you that. Keeping you in the dark makes it sound like she isn't so kind and sweet.

You know her better than I do. Is there something wrong or are you just done with the honeymoon phase of the relationship? Keep trying to communicate about how you feel about her recent behaviour. Instead of asking if something is wrong, be direct. Ask her directly what you have asked us and see what she says.

[Henry333]

I'm not sure but I think she might just be rethinking being in a relationship at all because this is her first. Of course I would prefer it not to be but that's what I think it looks like. If she tells me she doesn't think she's ready for a relationship I will be upset but I'll move on. I just hope I won't have to. I've asked her if she's OK and of anything is up but she seems quite closed about it. And I agree with what people are saying after reading my posts I can seem obsessive so I'm going to try and step back a bit and not be so reliant on her for a bit. I think it will help clear my head

[mick01]

That is a very good decision, dude.

[RickySparks]

Good for you pal. I hope everything goes well.