So confused

[Henry333]

My girlfriend of 3 months and I were at a party. Spent the whole night with her trying to dance with her. I didn't think that would be hard. At the start of the night I decided that I was finally gonna kiss her tonight. That went to shit. I tried to spend time with her but every opportunity she turned and danced with one of her mates. Over 3 and a half hours, not at one point were we alone or did we dance together. I love her and she means so much to me but I really have no clue why she seemed to avoid me at the party. I just need some understanding into why she didn't seem to want to spend time with me

[Just JT]

Parties are kinda a social thing right?
Maybe she was just trying to be social?
Did the two of you leave the party together?

[Henry333]

We've been to parties before and been alot closer than we were tonight. No she left first and barely hugged me when she said bye. She's such a sweet girl there isn't a bad bone in her body so I assume it's something I've done but I can think of nothing

[Dalcourt]

If she behaved different from other times you two have been together I would say you maybe should talk to her?
Just tell her that you have the feeling age wasn't happy with your at the party and ask if you did something wrong or so.
She might be unhappy with something in your relationship or she might just have had a bad day or many other things in between
Just thinking about it alone won't solve anything you have to talk to her about it.

[NewLeafsFan]

As mentioned above, parties are a social gathering where there are lots of people. It would probably have been a bad choice to have your first kiss there. It's just not an intimate or romantic setting.

As far as her behaviour is concerned, she could have been trying to be social. Dance, hang out, and have fun with people that she doesn't see very often outside of work and school. Or maybe it is an indication that your relationship is not as valuable to her as it is you. You need to communicate with her and figure out what her intentions were at the party. If it turns out that this is the end of your relationship, don't take it personally. It sounds like she might just not be ready to be in a committed relationship. If she isn't, do NOT wait for her to be ready. Move on and don't waste time.

[Henry333]

It's just we've been much closer at previous parties and she means so much to me. I just need to ask her about it then figure out how to feel

[mick01]

It's just we've been much closer at previous parties and she means so much to me. I just need to ask her about it then figure out how to feel

This is it exactly. Make sure you understand her thoughts and feelings and then you decide what's best for you.

[Henry333]

She said that she was just overwhelmed by having a relationship at the moment (it's both me and hers first) and just wanted to spend time with her friends. I should have just got the memo and left her alone but I was just selfish and only thought about myself and what I wanted. I feel like a twat now

[azurzg]

My girlfriend of 3 months and I were at a party. Spent the whole night with her trying to dance with her. I didn't think that would be hard. At the start of the night I decided that I was finally gonna kiss her tonight. That went to shit. I tried to spend time with her but every opportunity she turned and danced with one of her mates. Over 3 and a half hours, not at one point were we alone or did we dance together. I love her and she means so much to me but I really have no clue why she seemed to avoid me at the party. I just need some understanding into why she didn't seem to want to spend time with me

Have you tried asking her about this? Does she want to break up?

[ImJulia]

Try again in a more intimate setting

[jamie_n5]

She may feel trapped and wants to dance, mingle and interact with other people. That is what social events are for. It's not unusual at a younger age to have several relationships and a lot of people prefer to remain unattached until they are out of high school. You should talk to her and ask her if she wants to continue your relationship or break up. Don't take it too hard or feel bad if she wants to end it.