Something really stupid I did

[Verminicious Knid]

Basically, my friend went to a mental hospital for a few weeks and I had no idea until a couple of days ago. I was really worried before I knew and had talked about it with another friend of mine.

Basically when my friend told me where he'd been, I mentioned it to my other friend when he asked where my friend had been. I'd asked him to keep it to himself. Apparently, somebody else knows and now my friend is angry at me.

I want some advice on how to make things right, what I did was really shitty.

[MechaSniper]

Wait who? which friend? you need to be more descriptive of who's who.

[Verminicious Knid]

Sorry XD

Basically my friend who went to the mental hospital is angry at me, because he didn't want people knowing. But I had told my other friend assuming he'd figure this is a private thing and not to tell people, in a really short sighted move on my part.

[MechaSniper]

Oh thats a tough one. Well the only thing I know of is apologize. Thats the best protocol for now.

[Verminicious Knid]

Thanks, I appreciate the advice.

[Croconaw]

That was actually wrong of you. You shouldn't have told anyone. All you can do is apologize to your friend and hope for forgiveness. Don't be angry if he doesn't forgive you at first, because things like that take time.

[Tarannosaurus]

Sorry XD

Basically my friend who went to the mental hospital is angry at me, because he didn't want people knowing. But I had told my other friend assuming he'd figure this is a private thing and not to tell people, in a really short sighted move on my part.

I can understand why you did it, something like that is really hard to deal with by yourself. You've already realised that it wasn't right so there's no point in me going on about that, it will only make you feel worse. You need to talk to your friend, explain why you did it and apologise. There's no guarantee that he will forgive you straight away, but I'm almost 100% positive that he will forgive you eventually if you talk to him about it :)

[Dalcourt]

That's really tough, you really shouldn't have talked to anyone about it if your friend didn't want others to know. But what's done is done now, right? The only thing you can do is tell your friend that you didn't do it to harm him/her?. You can only apologize and hope for forgiveness now...

[radsniper]

yeah apologizing to your friend is the best thing to do

[ksdnfkfr]

Yep apologize and admit that you really screwed up and promise it will never happen again. For some people with mental disorders, it can take them a very long time to get over something, so don't expect instant results. Just be sure to display a lot of genuine sincerity and remorse.

[Verminicious Knid]

Just an update, I apologised and I'm not really sure if he's accepted it. But he sent me a link to a funny video, so I take that as a good sign that he may be cooling down a bit.

I would like to thank you all for your great advice and I really appreciate none of you really laying into me about what a shitty thing I did (Though my intentions weren't bad, it was a stupid thing to do and completely went against his wishes). It's been of great help.

[TheRedViper]

I found myself in a somewhat similar situation last year when one of my close friends tried to kill herself and went to hospital. We were texting constantly and she asked me to tell two of my other close friends, but no one else. So I told them, and outright refused to tell anyone else what happened with her, since everyone knew I was very close to her. I guess in your situation the best thing to do is just sincerely apologise and say you didn't mean for it to get talked about. Hopefully he forgives you, but I can understand why he wouldn't. It's a very serious thing.

ETA: Just read your new post. It seems that he's okay with you, if he sent you a funny video. I've been in situations like yours before and even when it seems like they haven't forgiven you, they may actually have. I have several stories, but they're all quite long and slightly off-topic. Anyway, I'm glad it's resolved between you two.