gay thoughts

[benlodge123]

I am 16, currently in year 12 at sixth form.
Every now and again if I see a guy that i know is gay on like instagram, i have thoughts of "being gay" But whenever I see girls I always think to myself "Woah she is hot" If i am out in the street and i see a guy, i dont look at him and think "your hot" Its only when its on a screen. I have masturbated to gay porn 2 times, but mostly lesbian/straight. Is it normal to question your sexuality at my age. We was always brought up to be interested in girls. Personally I think I am questioning my sexuality because I haven't found the right girl yet.

What do you people think?

[ska8er]

Ur dealing with ur hormones. I'm going
through the same feelings right now. I
don't think it is time to make a decision
on who or what u r. Possibly u r waiting
for the right girl and curious bout guys.
There is nothing wrong with thinking bout
it. In time u may be able to make all of it
out but right now u don't need question it.

[benlodge123]

Ur dealing with ur hormones. I'm going
through the same feelings right now. I
don't think it is time to make a decision
on who or what u r. Possibly u r waiting
for the right girl and curious bout guys.
There is nothing wrong with thinking bout
it. In time u may be able to make all of it
out but right now u don't need question it.

Thank you man, made me feel a lot more informed. We never talk about puberty or anything in my house and I really feel i should. Although I have asked my dad if he ever had gay thoughts, he said no. I mean some of us wont, some will i guess.

[mick01]

Ya, Andy is right. No need to make a decision right now or even worry about your thoughts. They are all natural. But just follow your feelings and you'll get to where you're supposed to be. And at our age, it's totally normal to be both curious and questioning.

[Max the Disenchanter]

maybe you haven't met the right guy

[Alex669]

benlodge123
(English is not my native language, sorry for any mistakes)

Hey man! Look, someday I was talking with a straight friend and he explained me the meaning of the pride flag (or rainbow flag or the name you want). He told me that they choose a rainbow because the rainbow contains ALL the colors the human eye can see.

You see, the spectrum of sexuality is as big as the spectrum of colors. For example, there is not one tone of "red" or "green" or whatever you like, there are many greens and many reds, it´s the same with sexual preference.

The way I see it it would be very hard to find one person COMPLETELY straight (or gay), I belive most of us are a different "tone", the situation is that almost our entire life society tells us that there are only two options: being straight or gay, and there is only one that is "correct". The way I see it a man can prefer girls and don´t feel anything about other men, but if he meets a VERY feminine guy he may like him. That doesn´t mean he´s gay or bi or whatever (the way I see it). He can even like something on certain age and then change his mind, and is perfectly fine. Or what could happen is that that person gets turned on watching any kind of gay porn and jerking off to it, or even capable of having any sexual dessire to people of the same sex and only feeling love with people of the opposite sex (what I mean is that some people may be cappable of having sex with a same sex person but only being able to feel LOVE with an opposite sex person).

In summary what I think is that you shouldn´t worry about this. When you get older you may define yourself in one "tone" or maybe not, and it´s ok. Just enjoy life man.

Btw, i checked on internet what my friend said about the meaning of the flag an didn´t found anything of what he said (lol), but I think that what he said would be a better explanation.

[SeansLittleBro]

There is no need to label yourself -- EVER -- tbh....just go with your feelings....if you want to go with the girl that is great, and so is with a guy...Too much emphasis is put on being either gay or straight or bi...we can all go all over the spectrum throughout our lives...

[crushinator]

Sounds normal to me.