Why do girls always fall for the jerks? (long post)

[death-metal]

I have always been wondering about this. Why do most of the sweet and innocent girls fall for the jerks, douche and players who only want them for their body not their love? It's the same thing every freaking time. They get treated like shit then say "all the boys are the same" -.-

Last monday, at school, a girl tried to kill herself just because the guy who she was dating left her for some cheerleader. The guy was two and a half years older than the girl. She knew about the guy's past one night stands and all but yet she fell for him knowing that he'd do something that'll completely break her down. They always ignore the guy who treats them like they should be treated, not like a vending machine which you only use when you want some fizzy drinks.
The girl who tried to kill herself was my neighbour's crush since eighth grade. He did ask her out like 10 months ago and she said she wasn't interested in relationship and wouldn't date anyone till college. But 6 months later, she dates the school's basketball player and now she tried to kill herself. When my neighbour tried to be there for her, she called him a jerk and yelled at him saying stuffs like "All guys are the same!! You too are after me because you want to nail me not because you care about me." I mean seriously, the guy had feelings for her since middle school and was friends with her since the beginning of high school...
I was also in a similar kind of situation but I was blamed for the break up. I'm not calling myself a good guy but the guy she was dating was an absolute arsehole..

So why do girls always fall for the jerks and treat the "nice guys" like shit? Like everything's the bice guys' faults? I know 5-6 more incidents like this but this happened more recenlty so "you can't just say this because of two incidents" thing wont work.

[Body odah Man]

I hear you man. I don't understand why girls only like guys who treat them like shit and only want to use them to satiate their own sexual desires-yet they do. It's just not right and really really odd. Someone should explain that.

[Emerald Dream]

I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences with this. Speaking for myself - not all girls like jerks. I'd much rather talk to a quieter (and smarter) guy. Any guy who is an overbearing asshole (and popularity seeker) is not going to get my attention.

There are girls out there that are very much turned off by the behavior you describe.

[Body odah Man]

I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences with this. Speaking for myself - not all girls like jerks. I'd much rather talk to a quieter (and smarter) guy. Any guy who is an overbearing asshole (and popularity seeker) is not going to get my attention.

There are girls out there that are very much turned off by the behavior you describe.

Sounds awesome. Now if those girls would actually be findable :(

[Danagal]

I guess raging hormones. lol

[Meganium]

I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences with this. Speaking for myself - not all girls like jerks. I'd much rather talk to a quieter (and smarter) guy. Any guy who is an overbearing asshole (and popularity seeker) is not going to get my attention.

There are girls out there that are very much turned off by the behavior you describe.

To find one like you is like finding a hay in a needlestack.

[Tarannosaurus]

So why do girls always fall for the jerks and treat the "nice guys" like shit?
I'm sorry, but that is a huge generalisation. All of the ~3 billion girls girls in the world are not the exact same. This does not just happen to girls, some guys go out with girls that end up treating them like shit.

You know, there are other good qualities besides 'sweetness and innocence', changing your priorities might help you find someone.
And also why is it fully the girls' fault for liking guys that treat them like shit, and not the guys' fault for being the ones who treat them like shit?

Though you may not have meant it, victim blaming won't get you far with girls either.

[jombo]

I'm sorry, but that is a huge generalisation. All of the ~3 billion girls girls in the world are not the exact same. This does not just happen to girls, some guys go out with girls that end up treating them like shit.

You know, there are other good qualities besides 'sweetness and innocence', changing your priorities might help you find someone.
And also why is it fully the girls' fault for liking guys that treat them like shit, and not the guys' fault for being the ones who treat them like shit?

Though you may not have meant it, victim blaming won't get you far with girls either.
I don't think he's trying to say that. He's just saying a lot of girls fall for the "wrong" person, basically.

[Karkat]

I'm sorry, but that is a huge generalisation. All of the ~3 billion girls girls in the world are not the exact same. This does not just happen to girls, some guys go out with girls that end up treating them like shit.

You know, there are other good qualities besides 'sweetness and innocence', changing your priorities might help you find someone.
And also why is it fully the girls' fault for liking guys that treat them like shit, and not the guys' fault for being the ones who treat them like shit?

Though you may not have meant it, victim blaming won't get you far with girls either.

Agree with this 100%

I used to date those kinds of guys, but a lot of it was out of peer pressure, and insecurity about my sexuality and gender.

Then, after I was horrendously abused, and even raped by one of these jerks, I just kept getting into those kinds of relationships, because I didn't know how else to feel. I didn't know what else to do. I pretty much figured that I deserved the abuse at that point.

In freshman year of high school, I developed a crush on one of my best friends, who was a senior. It turned out that he liked me as well, and we ended up dating for almost two years. We were even engaged at one point. And I'm still friends with him, because even though things didn't work out between us in that way, he's a great guy, and an amazing friend.

My current boyfriend is one of the most amazing men I've ever met. He has never mistreated me, he loves me, supports me, tries to help me through my battles with substance abuse, and gender dysphoria. Early on in our relationship, I actually ended up getting pregnant, but I miscarried just a few weeks later. To be honest, I don't think I could've made it without him by my side.

If my current boyfriend and my ex fiance can't be considered "good guys", I don't know what to tell you. I mean, if you want my honest opinion, they're probably the ones falling for the wrong person. (because I'm kind of a piece of shit)

I mean, lo and behold, here I am, an alcoholic, emotionally unstable, anger issues, etc.

The thing is, I wouldn't put myself on the same plane as toxic women, because I'm never going to date someone to play with them. I'm a firm believer in fidelity, I give my all in relationships. I may be a piece of shit, but I'm an ethical piece of shit, so really.

[Zenos]

Look it's not that Girl always fall for jerks but the sad fact that most nice guys let their niceness turn into a ride into WEINERVILLE!

Face it the nice guys that don't get the girl and then wail wail wail on and on about girls falling for jerks are well real WEINERS who don't have the ..as my grandfather puts it GUMPTION to get out there and actually get the girl to noticing them as anything other then a friend!

[Karkat]

Look it's not that Girl always fall for jerks but the sad fact that most nice guys let their niceness turn into a ride into WEINERVILLE!

Face it the nice guys that don't get the girl and then wail wail wail on and on about girls falling for jerks are well real WEINERS who don't have the ..as my grandfather puts it GUMPTION to get out there and actually get the girl to noticing them as anything other then a friend!

Damn, I actually have to agree with Zenos here for once.

I mean, not all guys are this way, but you just so perfectly described the "friendzone" mentality.

[Zenos]

Damn, I actually have to agree with Zenos here for once.

I mean, not all guys are this way, but you just so perfectly described the "friendzone" mentality.

hey what can I say listening to grands advice plus reading this among other things kinda helped but mostly it was grands advice


http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-alpha-male-without-becoming-stereotype

[sqishy]

That might be a stereotype made by TV and film. For sure though, risk-taking and ignorance is seen as an attractive quality to quite a few people...

[ninja789]

that girl sounds really odd

to answer your question
jerks tend to be attractive in a more primitive sense
sorta like protectors

[WeAreOneRepublic]

I think you will find this going for 'jerks' is mostly a faze brought on by raging levels of hormones, peer pressure, experience and so forth.

Most girls grow out of this when they are older(like I said, most) once the hormones are settled.

I probably consider myself the 'good boy' type and from my own experiences the good guys can get girlfriends, they are just not the ones who go for the jerks.

[radsniper]

it all depends on the girl

[Saint]

"Jerks" exert confidence. They are often viewed by others as someone who knows his shit(when it really isn't the case.) That would naturally be a trait that's attractive to some girls,especially teenagers. It just takes time for them to figure out that he's just an asshole overall.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Okay, this is really a huge generalisation, but you can also say the whole "Girls always want nice guys, but they friendzoned them ages ago" and stuff like that however, there are a lot of reasons why you take risks like that being a girl.

1. Well, you've get hormones and sometimes you like people which you look back at 10 years later and laugh. We've all been there. You've also got things like peer pressure and "taking what you've got."

2. Sometimes you want to take that risk. You tell yourself "maybe it'll be different" but then it's not. You know that person is nice but you know that they (let's say for example) they like to flirt with other people, and you hope you will be good enough to change them, and most of the time, it doesn't work.

3. Some people like guys with that kind of attitude. I would assume that they like that kind of thing, but they wouldn't want it happening to themselves (and it happens)

And hey, it happens to guys as well, you wouldn't think it, but it does.

[death-metal]

I hear you man. I don't understand why girls only like guys who treat them like shit and only want to use them to satiate their own sexual desires-yet they do. It's just not right and really really odd. Someone should explain that.
Yeah! 7/10 girls are like that..
I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences with this. Speaking for myself - not all girls like jerks. I'd much rather talk to a quieter (and smarter) guy. Any guy who is an overbearing asshole (and popularity seeker) is not going to get my attention.

There are girls out there that are very much turned off by the behavior you describe.
:) There are very (veryx100) few girls like you
To find one like you is like finding a hay in a needlestack.
Exactly
I'm sorry, but that is a huge generalisation. All of the ~3 billion girls girls in the world are not the exact same. This does not just happen to girls, some guys go out with girls that end up treating them like shit.

You know, there are other good qualities besides 'sweetness and innocence', changing your priorities might help you find someone.
And also why is it fully the girls' fault for liking guys that treat them like shit, and not the guys' fault for being the ones who treat them like shit?

Though you may not have meant it, victim blaming won't get you far with girls either.
I'm not exactly looking for 'sweet and innocent". Like I said, the post is not about me. And I'm not exaclty blaming the girls, I was just asking why they liked them. It's very stupid and disrespect to girls when they get treated like that. It really makes me mad.
Agree with this 100%

I used to date those kinds of guys, but a lot of it was out of peer pressure, and insecurity about my sexuality and gender.

Then, after I was horrendously abused, and even raped by one of these jerks, I just kept getting into those kinds of relationships, because I didn't know how else to feel. I didn't know what else to do. I pretty much figured that I deserved the abuse at that point.

In freshman year of high school, I developed a crush on one of my best friends, who was a senior. It turned out that he liked me as well, and we ended up dating for almost two years. We were even engaged at one point. And I'm still friends with him, because even though things didn't work out between us in that way, he's a great guy, and an amazing friend.

My current boyfriend is one of the most amazing men I've ever met. He has never mistreated me, he loves me, supports me, tries to help me through my battles with substance abuse, and gender dysphoria. Early on in our relationship, I actually ended up getting pregnant, but I miscarried just a few weeks later. To be honest, I don't think I could've made it without him by my side.

If my current boyfriend and my ex fiance can't be considered "good guys", I don't know what to tell you. I mean, if you want my honest opinion, they're probably the ones falling for the wrong person. (because I'm kind of a piece of shit)

I mean, lo and behold, here I am, an alcoholic, emotionally unstable, anger issues, etc.

The thing is, I wouldn't put myself on the same plane as toxic women, because I'm never going to date someone to play with them. I'm a firm believer in fidelity, I give my all in relationships. I may be a piece of shit, but I'm an ethical piece of shit, so really.
But then why call all the guys the same when there's always someone who treats them 100000 times better than anyone else. It's like after every relationship, the "nice guys" are told that and again the girls fall for the jerks.
Look it's not that Girl always fall for jerks but the sad fact that most nice guys let their niceness turn into a ride into WEINERVILLE!

Face it the nice guys that don't get the girl and then wail wail wail on and on about girls falling for jerks are well real WEINERS who don't have the ..as my grandfather puts it GUMPTION to get out there and actually get the girl to noticing them as anything other then a friend!
What if the "nice guys" actually didn't care about them being in a relationship with that girl? What if some guys actually are sad just because the girls get treated like that and they hope the girls find someone who they deserve?
Damn, I actually have to agree with Zenos here for once.

I mean, not all guys are this way, but you just so perfectly described the "friendzone" mentality.

that girl sounds really odd

to answer your question
jerks tend to be attractive in a more primitive sense
sorta like protectors
So, it's natural?
I think you will find this going for 'jerks' is mostly a faze brought on by raging levels of hormones, peer pressure, experience and so forth.

Most girls grow out of this when they are older(like I said, most) once the hormones are settled.

I probably consider myself the 'good boy' type and from my own experiences the good guys can get girlfriends, they are just not the ones who go for the jerks.

Okay, this is really a huge generalisation, but you can also say the whole "Girls always want nice guys, but they friendzoned them ages ago" and stuff like that however, there are a lot of reasons why you take risks like that being a girl.

1. Well, you've get hormones and sometimes you like people which you look back at 10 years later and laugh. We've all been there. You've also got things like peer pressure and "taking what you've got."

2. Sometimes you want to take that risk. You tell yourself "maybe it'll be different" but then it's not. You know that person is nice but you know that they (let's say for example) they like to flirt with other people, and you hope you will be good enough to change them, and most of the time, it doesn't work.

3. Some people like guys with that kind of attitude. I would assume that they like that kind of thing, but they wouldn't want it happening to themselves (and it happens)

And hey, it happens to guys as well, you wouldn't think it, but it does.
Well, it kinda does...

[ScottishCanary]

First of all, I'm sorry that your friend had these bad experiences with girls. Obviously I am only 14 so I can't really even pretend to be an expert on why girls get attracted to certain men. I personally would rather have a relationship with a quieter boy who would respect me for whop I am (that's my ideal guy). However I do sometimes feel as if a relationship with a more 'wild' or popular guy would be a little more interesting. I think that is one of the main problems here, generally the type of guys that are just going to use and abuse women are the more popular ones with their guy friends too and no girl wants to date a loner. Though obviously I am now going well into generalisation land! Just keep your chin up and keep being nice to girls and eventually you will find someone!

[Karkat]

But then why call all the guys the same when there's always someone who treats them 100000 times better than anyone else. It's like after every relationship, the "nice guys" are told that and again the girls fall for the jerks.


I feel like you didn't even read my post, because I don't understand how you could get this from what I said.

1. I never said all guys are the same. That's kind of a stupid, sexist generalization to begin with.
2. Yeah, my boyfriend and my ex fiance. They both have treated me better than literally my own parents. Meanwhile they're less than half the age of my parents.
3. Um, once more, that does not always happen, and I'm living proof of it. (Though arguably I am disqualified as a girl, but I feel like the "girlfriend" to begin with- I don't see why it should matter.)
4. Your so called "nice guys" seem to be part of the same group that worships the infamous idea of the "friendzone".

Yes, there is a problem with the way some guys treat girls, and that girls become attracted to that, and fall into that trap.

No, it does not make you entitled to a relationship, sex, or anything, really. If a girl decides she wants you, good for her. If she is not interested in you romantically or sexually IT IS HER DECISION TO NOT BE WITH YOU. Technically, she doesn't even owe you a friendship, but she can absolutely choose to be friends.

If you have feelings for a girl, or want to pursue a relationship THERE HAS TO BE COMMUNICATION INVOLVED. Because communication is THE number one thing all relationships should have. Relationships without communication are relationships doomed to fail. If you can't communicate something as simple as your feelings for her, how are you going to communicate anything at all? Women are not psychic. They can't just tell that you're into them for the most part. Also, women do not usually take the initiative- especially in the teen years. They tend to get shut down.

The same goes for women, however, you are not a woman, so I'm not really going to be addressing that.

Point being that being a nice guy because you're innately a nice guy is different than using kindness as a form of manipulation. The latter is certainly not very nice.

[Synyster Shadows]

That is such a huge stereotype. There are girls who like nice guys. I think it's because biologically, humans are programmed to find mates that will be the best when it comes time for child-rearing. In those prehistoric times, personalities meant nothing. It's just hardwired into our DNA and sometimes, that makes the girls (or anyone, for that matter) overlook personality

[ninja789]

Yeah! 7/10 girls are like that..


So, it's natural?



...

it can be yes
more so now than when we get older

[death-metal]

I feel like you didn't even read my post, because I don't understand how you could get this from what I said.

1. I never said all guys are the same. That's kind of a stupid, sexist generalization to begin with.
2. Yeah, my boyfriend and my ex fiance. They both have treated me better than literally my own parents. Meanwhile they're less than half the age of my parents.
3. Um, once more, that does not always happen, and I'm living proof of it. (Though arguably I am disqualified as a girl, but I feel like the "girlfriend" to begin with- I don't see why it should matter.)
4. Your so called "nice guys" seem to be part of the same group that worships the infamous idea of the "friendzone".

Yes, there is a problem with the way some guys treat girls, and that girls become attracted to that, and fall into that trap.

No, it does not make you entitled to a relationship, sex, or anything, really. If a girl decides she wants you, good for her. If she is not interested in you romantically or sexually IT IS HER DECISION TO NOT BE WITH YOU. Technically, she doesn't even owe you a friendship, but she can absolutely choose to be friends.

If you have feelings for a girl, or want to pursue a relationship THERE HAS TO BE COMMUNICATION INVOLVED. Because communication is THE number one thing all relationships should have. Relationships without communication are relationships doomed to fail. If you can't communicate something as simple as your feelings for her, how are you going to communicate anything at all? Women are not psychic. They can't just tell that you're into them for the most part. Also, women do not usually take the initiative- especially in the teen years. They tend to get shut down.

The same goes for women, however, you are not a woman, so I'm not really going to be addressing that.

Point being that being a nice guy because you're innately a nice guy is different than using kindness as a form of manipulation. The latter is certainly not very nice.

I did haha..just wanted to ask that since no one answered it. It kinda seemed to be directed at you but it wasn't...sorry!
I didn't think I meant using kindness to manipulate someone. That is wrong, very wrong. Nice guys, in my point of veiw, are the guys who respect girls, not that guys who do the girls' homeworks or other favours and later expect the girls to be with them. That is evil. The guys who treat every girls the same..not in THATway (you know what I'm talking about) but like respecting them and stuffs like that.
And no, the guy I was talking about wasn't even desperate to be in a relationship with her. He did ask her out a couple of times (twice..maybe) and then respected her decision and didn't talk about it. The girl kinda started to get closer to him.
Anyway thanks for replying. You certainly know what's going on :) (if what I just said made any sense..)

[Karkat]

I did haha..just wanted to ask that since no one answered it. It kinda seemed to be directed at you but it wasn't...sorry!
I didn't think I meant using kindness to manipulate someone. That is wrong, very wrong. Nice guys, in my point of veiw, are the guys who respect girls, not that guys who do the girls' homeworks or other favours and later expect the girls to be with them. That is evil. The guys who treat every girls the same..not in THATway (you know what I'm talking about) but like respecting them and stuffs like that.
And no, the guy I was talking about wasn't even desperate to be in a relationship with her. He did ask her out a couple of times (twice..maybe) and then respected her decision and didn't talk about it. The girl kinda started to get closer to him.
Anyway thanks for replying. You certainly know what's going on :) (if what I just said made any sense..)

Alright, seems I've misunderstood you as well. We seem to be on the same page. Thanks for understanding/clearing that up. :)

[Dwemer]

I believe its not that they like the bad guys better. Its that those guys tend to get there attention more often. The good guys are easily overlooked or taken for granted.

Sometimes people like the 'bad boys' cause thye believe there life will be more fun, more excitement.

[laurakitty]

Me n my ex had been together for a whole like 3-4 months (long distance not met yet) . I'm really upset about my bf breaking up with me cos he hasn't had much time to talk to me and as a result things have been awkward between us. But since Feb everything was amazing he was the best kiddest bf ever he made me feel really special so was it just the end for us or could we be amaze balls again if I apologise n explain I will support him through his exams then we can have fun again. Some of you will be thinking you can't love him blah blah blah but if you're gonna be like that go just because you haven't experienced something doesn't mean it's fake. I also feelbad for not being more understanding about it before we broke up because he was the best bf ever! And I admit I was a jerk towards the end at Times too. So when you say guys are jerks girls can be acting like jerks too meaning we can all be jerks at Times sometimes we act like baddies it doesn't mean we are evil it means we're human. All I want to know is should I try and ask for a second try and explain myself? I have written a letter doing so but don't know if to show it him.

[Melodic]

I have always been wondering about this. Why do most of the sweet and innocent girls fall for the jerks, douche and players who only want them for their body not their love?

1) I'm sweet and innocent and last time I checked I go for nice guys. So not all girls go for jerks.
2) Not all jerks want them for their body.. Some jerks just might be jerks without motives. And I can also state that nicer guys could also want them just for their body.


Last monday, at school, a girl tried to kill herself just because the guy who she was dating left her for some cheerleader.

I'm not gonna make assumptions, because I don't know her.. but did she say that? Sometimes there's more reasons then what people see or hear.




She knew about the guy's past one night stands and all but yet she fell for him knowing that he'd do something that'll completely break her down.

Okay, I know a girl who is dealing with the same things, except worse and probably more abusive.. And yes they usually know what's happening, but they're too afraid to leave, they think they deserve it, or think they'll be lonely. It's really sad to think about it.




They always ignore the guy who treats them like they should be treated, not like a vending machine which you only use when you want some fizzy drinks.
That was a really good example.. But still, we don't all do that and some of us would rather be treated respectfully.



So why do girls always fall for the jerks and treat the "nice guys" like shit?

I've already explain the stereotypical girls fall for jerks. But saying they treat them like shit? Look, I'm not gonna say they don't treat guys like shit, cuz I've known plenty of girls to do so, but if that's their personality to bully, they don't do it to just a specific person or gender, and honestly those girls shouldn't even have attention from anyone. But why is a girl treating a guy like shit by not dating him or falling in love with him? Girls should be able to like who they want without this crowd of guys telling her she's treating them bad cuz she likes someone that's not them.

[death-metal]

1) I'm sweet and innocent and last time I checked I go for nice guys. So not all girls go for jerks.
2) Not all jerks want them for their body.. Some jerks just might be jerks without motives. And I can also state that nicer guys could also want them just for their body.




I'm not gonna make assumptions, because I don't know her.. but did she say that? Sometimes there's more reasons then what people see or hear.





Okay, I know a girl who is dealing with the same things, except worse and probably more abusive.. And yes they usually know what's happening, but they're too afraid to leave, they think they deserve it, or think they'll be lonely. It's really sad to think about it.





That was a really good example.. But still, we don't all do that and some of us would rather be treated respectfully.





I've already explain the stereotypical girls fall for jerks. But saying they treat them like shit? Look, I'm not gonna say they don't treat guys like shit, cuz I've known plenty of girls to do so, but if that's their personality to bully, they don't do it to just a specific person or gender, and honestly those girls shouldn't even have attention from anyone. But why is a girl treating a guy like shit by not dating him or falling in love with him? Girls should be able to like who they want without this crowd of guys telling her she's treating them bad cuz she likes someone that's not them.

@bold: I never said anything like that. If you re-read my post, you'll know what I was actually saying.
I know it's a long post so I'd just quote it here so you won't have to go through it all over again.

she dates the school's basketball player and now she tried to kill herself. When my neighbour tried to be there for her, she called him a jerk and yelled at him saying stuffs like "All guys are the same!! You too are after me because you want to nail me not because you care about me."

I mean, she knows how the guy feels about her but why say stuff like that when he was just trying to help?

[Melodic]

@bold: I never said anything like that. If you re-read my post, you'll know what I was actually saying.
I know it's a long post so I'd just quote it here so you won't have to go through it all over again.

Oh okay. I misunderstood that part.. Sorry about that.

[DiamondsGirl]

I'd rather not talk about girls in general because everyone has shown their opinions regarding that... but I'd like to speak a little about that girl in particular. She's heartbroken. She needs some time alone, and believe me when those people say "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" they're not kidding you. Don't talk to a lady wrapped in emotion. Her "all guys are the same!" is just probably an expression of anger right there. Give her some time. If she's a mature individual she'd soon rethink and rephrase that.

[Stronk Serb]

Several (read: several, not all) of my girl friends are in those situations. They think he is a nice guy, but when he finds some morebattractive girl/victim (they kinda use or abuse them), they dump my friends and leave them crying. I comfort them when I can, but most of the time they suck it up alone without looking like they need help, but they do.

[Syeuenevhuwi]

I honestly believe most girls generally want a jerk simply because they want to be seen as more popular or they see the guy as unattainable. Not all girls are like that though.

[wildabeast]

I'm sorry, but that is a huge generalisation. All of the ~3 billion girls girls in the world are not the exact same. This does not just happen to girls, some guys go out with girls that end up treating them like shit.

You know, there are other good qualities besides 'sweetness and innocence', changing your priorities might help you find someone.
And also why is it fully the girls' fault for liking guys that treat them like shit, and not the guys' fault for being the ones who treat them like shit?

Though you may not have meant it, victim blaming won't get you far with girls either.

No they aren't the sam but 3/4 of them are man I've been hurt way to many times to count girls say on the outside they want a nice guy blah blah blah but they don't they want a "bad boy" to be good for them and when the dude hurts them they are surprised. It's bs I've anonymously posted on the app called whisper and I pretty much described all the stuff I do naturally just like my personality and so on. And hundreds of girls tried to talk to me but when I found out I was black and didn't fit the physical appearance they imagined they all left. Lesson of the story girls are shallow

[Tarannosaurus]

No they aren't the sam but 3/4 of them are man I've been hurt way to many times to count girls say on the outside they want a nice guy blah blah blah but they don't they want a "bad boy" to be good for them and when the dude hurts them they are surprised. It's bs I've anonymously posted on the app called whisper and I pretty much described all the stuff I do naturally just like my personality and so on. And hundreds of girls tried to talk to me but when I found out I was black and didn't fit the physical appearance they imagined they all left. Lesson of the story girls are shallow

You had bad experiences, have you tried seeing it from their side? I'll tell you, out of the hundreds of girls I know maybe 5 are like that and they have huge insecurities and don't think they deserve any better. In fact I know more boys that are like that. Like I said, it's the fault of the person that does the bad thing, not the victim that should be blamed. It's kind of like saying if only the girl. It's a little offensive to say 'girls are shallow'. I don't consider myself shallow. Or the majority of the girls I know. And boys can be shallow too, it's not gender specific.

[wildabeast]

From their side it always seems like they date a messed up dude to begin with and the trend continues. I've helped a lot of girls and heard their life story and it usually seems like it's the same story just told differently. Maybe it's just me