What should I have done?

[gdude]

Im not sure if this belongs here but it kinda has to do with why I was sexually awoken.

When I was 10 years old, one of my friends (also 10 years old) would take his older brother (14 years old) to my house and we would hang out. My friend's older brother was way more matured than my friend and I, he had crazy pit hair and a mustache growing already. One day it was extremely hot (over 100 degrees) and we decided to just chill on a couch that we had outside my house, we just talked and ate some snacks for a while. After a while, it got really quiet and we didn't do or say much, except for my friend's older brother. My friend's older brother, from what I can remember, was playing with his pubes and the only reason I could really tell was because he was wearing shorts and freeballing. After a while, he admitted to be doing that because it felt good and he even went on to raising his shorts just enough so that his penis and testicles could freely hang fro out his shorts. Being ten, me and my friend were astounded at how massive" his penis was. After a while he even got an erection and that made a huge (or what we thought was huge) tent in his shorts, he pulled his penis out after about a minute of having an erection. There it was. His penis. The thing was huge, remember I was 10 so it appeared to be massive for me. He specifically told me and my friend to look at it and gaze at its glory. I could not believe it. A full grown penis in front of me. If I remember correctly, it was dripping in precum. (I had no clue until later that it was precum dripping down his cock) I was unable to produce such substance at that age. I was amazed honestly. That whole summer was insane the way I spent it masturbating trying to do what he could.

After a couple years, I learned that what he did may have not been right. I did and still do consider my friend's older brother a great friend, however, I am unsure of the effect of what he did with us. I have no idea if it was a good thing that helped us and served as a learning experience or a bad thing, maybe even harassment?
What do you all think? (Sorry for making it sooo lengthy)
Before hand, thanks for the help.

[Shamal]

You guys might have been a bit young for it to be honest, but I don't think he really did anything too bad, considering you or your friend didn't touch it and I guess he didn't force you to do anything. If you all felt comfortable doing it, I don't really see the issue other than your age. He was pretty young too so he might have just got caught up in the moment. I doubt it is harassment, but I'm not sure how useful as a 'learning experience' it was - you can't really expect a 10 year old to make the right decision in such circumstances but, as I've said, you all enjoyed the experience (I assume you did at least) so, in that respect, it's probably just a bit of fun.

[breaux]

I doubt he was trying to harass you, sounds like he was trying to impress. Still wrong though.

[ska8er]

The way I c it he was just showing off and
wanted to c what kind of reaction he would
get from exposing himself. At 14 he was
proud of his new toy and being macho. I
don't c anything bad coming out of it as
he didn't ask u to do anything further. If
u were a 10 year old girl I think it would
b considered more of a morals issue.

[Hermes]

So I am guessing you are wondering if you should have told him to put it away instead of letting him continue. Maybe you are wondering that because you were uncomfortable at the time, or maybe because someone has said later that he was doing something wrong.

The first thing is to realise that however you felt at the time is what was right for you and shouldn't let anyone come along later and convince you that you should have felt different. So if you felt uncomfortable then no-one should be telling you that you should have felt at ease and if you felt excited then you should not let someone come along later and tell you that you should have felt uncomfortable.

If you did feel uncomfortable then this is a perfect example of why, if he were an adult, it would have been considered a crime because, when we are with someone who is older like that we can be swept along and not have the courage to say "no, that's not what I want". It even happens between adults when one is older and in a position of power, for example the actresses who went along with Harvey Weinstein's abuses because the alternative seemed to be to limit their careers.

The most important thing, I think, is not to feel guilty about what happenned. It was something he, not you, did and it is unreasonable for anyone to hold you responsible for that including yourself.

[SeansLittleBro]

I understand a bit about how you feel, but it seems that your friends big brother was sort of showing off....his hormones were working, thus he got hard as far as showing you, as long as he didn't force you to do anything but look it was an innocent show and tell to me..was it wrong? Probably for him, but not for you....you were curious when you saw him....my question though is how did you, at 10, how, unless someone showed you, did you spend the summer masturbating?....did you already know...you did not mention anything about him showing you that which might put a different take on what happened....

[gdude]

I understand a bit about how you feel, but it seems that your friends big brother was sort of showing off....his hormones were working, thus he got hard as far as showing you, as long as he didn't force you to do anything but look it was an innocent show and tell to me..was it wrong? Probably for him, but not for you....you were curious when you saw him....my question though is how did you, at 10, how, unless someone showed you, did you spend the summer masturbating?....did you already know...you did not mention anything about him showing you that which might put a different take on what happened....

At that age I already knew what erections were (I had already had a cousin describe what "horny" meant) so I kinda already knew why he got a boner. I actually had already been getting boners myself, probably since I was 9. My goal was to get something like the precum he had. Something I may have just realised is that he was not only playing with his pubes under his shorts. I think he may have actually been fondling his penis as well. At that age I had very little pubes, I could see them and they were darker than baby hair. I think what I did was play with my penis instead of my pubes, because my pubes weren't long enough to play with. And thats how I learned the pleasures of masturbation haha. I dry cummed so much that summer.

[jamie_n5]

I would regard what happened as experimentation and an older brother teaching his brother and you about masturbation. You weren't inappropriately touched or any physical contact. So it was basically a normal part of being a boy in my opinion.

[Chetz]

I don't have any siblings, but I have jacked off together with my four cousins (all were younger than me).
Two of them were brothers, they asked how to masturbate and I taught them.
Another cousin (11) caught me masturbating last December because I forgot to lock the toilet. I taught him that it is normal.
I also caught another cousin (ten months younger than me) watching porn. We end up masturbating together.

[gdude]

I don't have any siblings, but I have jacked off together with my four cousins (all were younger than me).
Two of them were brothers, they asked how to masturbate and I taught them.
Another cousin (11) caught me masturbating last December because I forgot to lock the toilet. I taught him that it is normal.
I also caught another cousin (ten months younger than me) watching porn. We end up masturbating together.

Dude that actually sounds fun

[Chetz]

Dude that actually sounds fun

I think it's pretty common.

[gdude]

I think it's pretty common.

The closest I've come to that is one time with a cousin of mine when we took turns jerking off in my restroom and we held onto our cum to compare and see who could make the most we didnt see each other

[Chetz]

The closest I've come to that is one time with a cousin of mine when we took turns jerking off in my restroom and we held onto our cum to compare and see who could make the most we didnt see each other

That's cool too. Who has more cum?

[gdude]

That's cool too. Who has more cum?

Me by a lot hahah he's a couple years younger thats why

[Chetz]

Same with my three cousins, although the last one who is ten months younger than me, got almost the same amount.

[gdude]

If he wasn’t making you then I guess it’s ok

MaKing me look at it?

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

After a couple years, I learned that what he did may have not been right. I did and still do consider my friend's older brother a great friend, however, I am unsure of the effect of what he did with us. I have no idea if it was a good thing that helped us and served as a learning experience or a bad thing, maybe even harassment?
What do you all think? (Sorry for making it sooo lengthy)
Before hand, thanks for the help.

You guys might have been a bit young for it to be honest, but I don't think he really did anything too bad, considering you or your friend didn't touch it and I guess he didn't force you to do anything. If you all felt comfortable doing it, I don't really see the issue other than your age. He was pretty young too so he might have just got caught up in the moment. I doubt it is harassment, but I'm not sure how useful as a 'learning experience' it was - you can't really expect a 10 year old to make the right decision in such circumstances but, as I've said, you all enjoyed the experience (I assume you did at least) so, in that respect, it's probably just a bit of fun.
This is pretty much my exact sentiment, he was young and so were the rest of you. It wasn't the best thing to do but that's how hormones and puberty are sometimes unfortunately. I would try to leave it in the past and move on with your friendship.

[NewLeafsFan]

If a friend of mine had done that when I was ten, I would have looked at is as an educational experience. And tbh, I would have enjoyed it like you did. But I'm really confused as to what kind of effect it had on? What was the effect? He wasn't an adult and you enjoed seeing it so it's not sexual abuse I don't think.

[kro814]

I don't think he really did anything wrong. But I guess perhaps you thought it was weird.

[Dalcourt]

This isn't appropriate :locked: