Bullied

[DiamondsGirl]

Hi.

I'm going to college in the US this August. By that time I would be an eighteen-year-old Asian virgin. I do not mind being a virgin and feel very strongly against sex without love. Do you think this would make me a bullying target? As someone raised with Western culture, would you see me as a 'freak'?

Thank you for your time.

[tundravortex]

Not really but becarefull some guys might try to drug you because your a virgin

[Hollywood]

I doubt it, despite what everyone says it's really not uncommon for eighteen year olds to be virgins for a variety of reasons. I'm one, for instance. I don't think you have anything to worry about, just stick to your guns and don't let other people make decisions for you.

[NotShortButFunsized]

If you were a virgin boy in an all boys high school yes you might be bullied. My boyfriend had a horrible time with that in high school. However, immaturity is as immaturity does.
But I frankly see no reason why people in college would care, since in my experience colleges are more accepting of people. It's not that uncommon to have virgins even in the junior and senior classes. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, and since you have such strong convictions it sounds like it may be a point of pride for you. It's just part of who you are and if your friends in college are malicious about it (vs genuine lighthearted teasing) then you simply need better friends.

Oh and being a virgin makes you no more of a target for roofies than being an attractive girl does in the first place, since no one at a party would really know that. Just be smart and cautious and you'll be fine, but don't let being a virgin create extra paranoia that ruins your fun for you

[ninja789]

I know in the UK if you are a guy its a problem sometimes but not really with girls

[deregisterme]

I think boys can be worse with "smartalec" comments. However, I think it's quite admirable to still be a virgin. For anyone that tries to get you to do it, only do so when you're good and ready. I think by the time of college, people should recognise we are all different. Some people want to loose their virginity young, others don't.

[MechaSniper]

no your fine. The main targets are the ones they are jealous about. Or the ones with low self esteem or confidence.

[sweet_girl24au]

Hi.

I'm going to college in the US this August. By that time I would be an eighteen-year-old Asian virgin. I do not mind being a virgin and feel very strongly against sex without love. Do you think this would make me a bullying target? As someone raised with Western culture, would you see me as a 'freak'?

Thank you for your time.

When you are 18 - no one makes you a "target" - you make yourself a target.

Just play your cards right, maybe dont advertise it.

[DiamondsGirl]

thanks a lot :)

[Justincredibad]

In today's day and age, being a virgin your age is somewhat of a good thing.

Unless you, you know, don't WANT to be one.

[Plasma]

Girls really don't have anything to worry about. That's something that a lot of guys like, actually. Guys do have a bit more of a challenge with that though. It's not exactly good to be inexperienced, or desired I dont think