Am I bi? Help

[hiker17]

Hi, so I’m an 18 year old guy and I’m a little confused about my sexuality. I know for sure I like girls but in a way I’m also attracted to guys I think. Like I’ll be attracted to a guys body but that’s it. I don’t have any desire to go any further, and the idea of having sex with a guy does not interest me at all. I also don’t have any emotional or romantic attraction to guys.

However it really bugs me feeling this way because it just feels weird. I’d be ok if I was gay or not gay but I don’t like this feeling of being in between.

What I’ve been thinking is that maybe it’s because I’ve been jealous of many guys bodies because I wasn’t always comfortable with my body but idk if that’s how this works..

I’d love to know why I might be feeling this way. Thanks!

[TheMagicPotato]

Probably the hormones, although, you gotta see, experiment and decide what's the best for you.

I'm not the best guy to talk about this issue, they'll come here soon.

[azurzg]

I’d be ok if I was gay or not gay but I don’t like this feeling of being in between.

Why?!?! Just relax and explore your sexuality!


Sexuality is fluid:
- for most people, at least in some part of their life,
- for some people, most of their life.

Take it easy…
Don't force yourself to do anything you are not comfortable with.
It's your life, you're in charge! Do what you like (as long as that does not hurt other people).

Any finally, there's nothing wrong with being bisexual. I am bisexual.

[mick01]

Just because you admire a guys body doesn't make you gay. If you have no physical or emotional attraction to males, it is likely that you are straight. I can admire guys' bodies and it not be sexual or be based on sexual orientation.

[ImJulia]

You might be curious

[SethfromMI]

It sounds like if your being honest with us you just are able to admire other guys looks without being sexually attracted to them. As mick01 said that doesn't make you bi. While many guys are afraid to admit they are able to tell a guy is good looking for fear of others might think or say about them, it is fine and a lot of guys actually do it on some level.

[SeansLittleBro]

All good answers and I have to say you are not alone in how you feel or are feeling....many guys admire other boys bodies...you find them attractive...that does not make you bi/gay in the least....just do whatever you want to do that makes you feel right....don't try to label yourself at all....life is full of different experiences and you will have those experiences as we all do as we get older

[Alex669]

I posted this in another thread. Might be useful (or not).

(English is not my native language, sorry for any mistakes)

Hey man! Look, someday I was talking with a straight friend and he explained me the meaning of the pride flag (or rainbow flag or the name you want). He told me that they choose a rainbow because the rainbow contains ALL the colors the human eye can see.

You see, the spectrum of sexuality is as big as the spectrum of colors and, as in the rainbow, preference may vary. For example, there is not one tone of "red" or "green" or whatever you like, there are many greens and many reds, it´s the same with sexual preference.

The way I see it it would be very hard to find one person COMPLETELY straight (or gay), I belive most of us are a different "tone", the situation is that almost our entire live society tells us that there are only two options: being straight or gay, and there is only one that is "correct". The way I see it a man can prefer girls and don´t feel anything about other men, but if he meets a VERY feminine guy he may like him. That doesn´t mean he´s gay or bi or whatever (the way I see it). He can even like something on certain age and then change his mind, and is perfectly fine. Or what could happen is that that person gets turned on watching any kind of gay porn and jerking off to it, or even capable of having any sexual dessire to people of the same sex and only feeling love with people of the opposite sex (what I mean is that some people may be cappable of having sex with a same sex person but only being able to feel LOVE with an opposite sex person).

In summary what I think is that you shouldn´t worry about this. When you get older you may define yourself in one "tone" or maybe not, and it´s ok. Just enjoy live man.

Btw, i checked on internet what my friend said about the meaning of the flag an didn´t found anything of what he said (lol), but I think that what he said would be a better explanation.

[crushinator]

You can appreciate a guy that is good shape without be sexually attracted to him.

[TWDjacob]

Just because you appreciate their body doesn't make you gay especially if you aren't romantically or sexually attracted. That's like a gay guy saying a girl is cute not because or romantic attraction but they appreciate their form and that they look good for example.