Melodic
December 30th, 2017, 02:53 PM
So basicially, I've been interested in this girl for five months now. I've always had the feeling that she was interested. When we worked together (which was how we met), she used to bring me cupcakes and was always helping me out even when I didn't ask or really need her too. We were always flirting. There was one incident where I accidentally said something along the lines of "I only am nice to people I like" and she looked and me and smiled and was like "Oh?"
Fast forward, I went out to eat with her once with another co-worker. Then a few weeks ago, we went to a concert 2 1/2 hours away with two of my best friends. There was an incident where the musician said something like "How many of you are in love tonight?" and we both just froze. She actually stared at me for a minute afterwards but I couldn't look at her. I felt terrified to confess how I felt.
Fast forward a couple days, I finally got the nerve to ask her on a date. A real date. I asked her to go to a movie, she read & ignored my message. Then she responded to plans I was making with my friends to go see lights and asked if she could come. I got really upset over this and decided just to go with my two best friends.
Finally, I realized that was immature and I finally sent a final message about how I felt telling her that she wasn't required to feel the same way but I wanted to get it off my chest. She didn't respond for a day but she read the message. She finally responded apologizing that she was socially awkward which is why it took her long to say something because she didn't know exactly what to say. Then she explained to me that she isn't interested in dating because she had a really bad experience with dating someone previously and she hasn't wanted to date anyone since.
I want to be patient and help her get over her trust issues because I really do believe that she's interested in me, she is just scared. But I'm also unsure if she'll ever get over them.
What should I do?
Fast forward, I went out to eat with her once with another co-worker. Then a few weeks ago, we went to a concert 2 1/2 hours away with two of my best friends. There was an incident where the musician said something like "How many of you are in love tonight?" and we both just froze. She actually stared at me for a minute afterwards but I couldn't look at her. I felt terrified to confess how I felt.
Fast forward a couple days, I finally got the nerve to ask her on a date. A real date. I asked her to go to a movie, she read & ignored my message. Then she responded to plans I was making with my friends to go see lights and asked if she could come. I got really upset over this and decided just to go with my two best friends.
Finally, I realized that was immature and I finally sent a final message about how I felt telling her that she wasn't required to feel the same way but I wanted to get it off my chest. She didn't respond for a day but she read the message. She finally responded apologizing that she was socially awkward which is why it took her long to say something because she didn't know exactly what to say. Then she explained to me that she isn't interested in dating because she had a really bad experience with dating someone previously and she hasn't wanted to date anyone since.
I want to be patient and help her get over her trust issues because I really do believe that she's interested in me, she is just scared. But I'm also unsure if she'll ever get over them.
What should I do?