Any Advice?

[markerman0013]

So I'm 17 and I'm gay.... i think. Lately ive been catching myself thinking about girls and things i would want to do with them. since i was in 8th grade i was convinced that i was gay and i only liked boys because that's what it seemed like at the time. well now i have a boyfriend and i love him to death the only thing is that ive been wanting to possibly have sex with a girl. im going off to college next year and the thought of having sex with a girl when im away has popped into my head MANY times i just don't want to cheat on my bf but i also want to know how it feels to be with a girl. idk what i should do should i have sex and just not tell him or should i try to avoid thinking of girls all together?

[TheMagicPotato]

Talk to him.

[ska8er]

Wait u don't even have a girl yet. Once
u get to college many things will probably
change for u since u will b away from ur
surroundings at that time. Then u can c where
ur life is going. I wouldn't rush into sex with
a girl if u r not ready and don't do it just to
do it cause it will not work. Right now u have
a boyfriend-make that work.

[TWDjacob]

Well it's definitely okay to think about it and have second thoughts because you could be bi, you haven't done anything with a girl. I don't think it's right to just go ahead and have sex though behind his back if you are happy with him and that is cheating which is messed up again if you are both happy.

[NewLeafsFan]

You have some stuff that you need to figure out. I think that Gr 8 is way too young to label yourself as gay or straight. I say this because I went through a bi phase at the beginning of puberty and I'm glad that I didn't prematurely come out of the closet.

You say that you are "thinking about it" and you seem curious. So you need to decide if you are sexually attracted to females or if you are just looking to satisfy your curiosity. This is something that you need to take your time figuring out. Regardless of that, you need to figure out what to do with your relationship. I know many people that are making it against the odds but long distance relationships have a fairly low success rate and are strenuous emotionally. It might be best if you took a brief separation from your bf. The way I look at it, if you are meant to be together, it will work out that way in the end.

Good luck and keep us updated. We care.