How can you identify your orientation?

[TheMagicPotato]

I've been having lots of pressure with this. I simply say I'm Bi, but, inclined to women. I personally think I didn't have enough experience to decide.

But, I want to stop supposing and actually be sure about this.

[Bull]

My friend, I experienced sexual feelings for male and female for two years until I came to the conclusion that gender was not important to a sexual relationship. During that time I was mostly with girls. Then I was in a two year relationship with a most wonderful guy. We are apart only because we now live many miles apart. My preferred label: sexual. Do not rush to a label. Let it evolve.

[TheMagicPotato]

Thanks for the advice, mate.

[Diverperry]

Wait for you hormones to calm down before you fully decide your sexual orientation. In the middle of puberty anything can turn you on and you might do just about anything to get your rocks off, so don’t be too worried at this stage in your life

[TheMagicPotato]

Wait for you hormones to calm down before you fully decide your sexual orientation. In the middle of puberty anything can turn you on and you might do just about anything to get your rocks off, so don’t be too worried at this stage in your life

Now, I have a good response, thanks a lot.

[Atlantis]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality and Gender

Don't worry about putting a label on yourself. There's absolutely no need to put yourself in one category or another.

[TheMagicPotato]

Thanks a lot for the change, I didn't realised I posted it in the wrong subforum after I posted it here.

[jamie_n5]

You are only 13 and at that age it's normal to want to experiment with other boys and compare and jerk off and things like that with other boys. So don't be concerned you will know eventually.

[ska8er]

I consider myself Straight. Girls sexually
turn me on- Guys physically if that makes
any sense-Idk sometimes I wonder y But
I'm not letting it mess with my mind. I
suppose I will turn out after all this time
Bi but I don't consider it to b wrong.
Anyone having probs with their conscious
should think of it as such. U wait it out til
ur ready to decide how u r.

[andrea03]

i'd rather be confused than asexual, which i seem to be becoming.

[NewLeafsFan]

When I was in the early teen years, I thought that I might be bi. Now at 18, I am entirely straight. There is no reason to label yourself. For now, just deal with every sexual opportunity on a case-by-case basis. If you want to, say yes, and no if you don't want to.

[Martainfey96]

You're only 13 so you shouldn't worry about your sexual orientation and just focus on being a kid and finding out who you like. This is something that defines you so I wouldn't rush into something and break someone's heart when you tell them you're attracted to the opposite sex.

[Max the Disenchanter]

just watch porn. how you respond tells you what you like.

[Alex669]

TheMagicPotato
Hey! I´ve been posting this on different threads because there are many people that have the same doubts. Hope you find it useful:

(Before answering. English is not my native language, sorry for any mistakes)

Hey man! Look, someday I was talking with a straight friend and he explained me the meaning of the pride flag (or rainbow flag or the name you want). He told me that they choose a rainbow because the rainbow contains ALL the colors the human eye can see.

You see, the spectrum of sexuality is as big as the spectrum of colors and, as in the rainbow, there is not just one kind of color. For example, there is not one tone of "red" or "green" or whatever you like, there are many greens and many reds, it´s the same with sexual preference.

The way I see it it would be very hard to find one person COMPLETELY straight (or gay), I belive most of us are a different "tone", the situation is that almost our entire life society tells us that there are only two options: being straight or gay, and there is only one that is "correct". The way I see it a man can prefer girls and don´t feel anything about other men, but if he meets a VERY feminine guy he may like him. That doesn´t mean he´s gay or bi or whatever (the way I see it). He can even like something on certain age and then change his mind, and is perfectly fine. Or what could happen is that that person gets turned on watching any kind of gay porn and jerking off to it, or even capable of having any sexual dessire to people of the same sex and only feeling love with people of the opposite sex (what I mean is that some people may be cappable of having sex with a same sex person but only being able to feel LOVE with an opposite sex person).

In summary what I think is that you shouldn´t worry about this. When you get older you may define yourself in one "tone" or maybe not, and it´s ok. Just enjoy life man.

Btw, i checked on internet what my friend said about the meaning of the flag an didn´t found anything of what he said (lol), but I think that what he said would be a better explanation.

Edited out the Spanish. As this is an English speaking forum writing posts in other languages is not allowed.Sorry~Dalcourt

[TheMagicPotato]

TheMagicPotato
Hey! I´ve been posting this on different threads because there are many people that have the same doubts. Hope you find it useful:

(Before answering. English is not my native language, sorry for any mistakes)

Hey man! Look, someday I was talking with a straight friend and he explained me the meaning of the pride flag (or rainbow flag or the name you want). He told me that they choose a rainbow because the rainbow contains ALL the colors the human eye can see.

You see, the spectrum of sexuality is as big as the spectrum of colors and, as in the rainbow, there is not just one kind of color. For example, there is not one tone of "red" or "green" or whatever you like, there are many greens and many reds, it´s the same with sexual preference.

The way I see it it would be very hard to find one person COMPLETELY straight (or gay), I belive most of us are a different "tone", the situation is that almost our entire life society tells us that there are only two options: being straight or gay, and there is only one that is "correct". The way I see it a man can prefer girls and don´t feel anything about other men, but if he meets a VERY feminine guy he may like him. That doesn´t mean he´s gay or bi or whatever (the way I see it). He can even like something on certain age and then change his mind, and is perfectly fine. Or what could happen is that that person gets turned on watching any kind of gay porn and jerking off to it, or even capable of having any sexual dessire to people of the same sex and only feeling love with people of the opposite sex (what I mean is that some people may be cappable of having sex with a same sex person but only being able to feel LOVE with an opposite sex person).

In summary what I think is that you shouldn´t worry about this. When you get older you may define yourself in one "tone" or maybe not, and it´s ok. Just enjoy life man.

Btw, i checked on internet what my friend said about the meaning of the flag an didn´t found anything of what he said (lol), but I think that what he said would be a better explanation.


Thanks a lot for writing in Spanish and English for me, appreciate it.

[Just JT]

Don’t pressure yourself to choose an orientation. It’s not something people choose, rather discover based on what they like or dislike. Only way to know that is to try it out. So enjoy that and have fun. One day it’ll be clear what you like the most or more or whatever. Everyone’s sexuality is different. So is yours

[TheMagicPotato]

Don’t pressure yourself to choose an orientation. It’s not something people choose, rather discover based on what they like or dislike. Only way to know that is to try it out. So enjoy that and have fun. One day it’ll be clear what you like the most or more or whatever. Everyone’s sexuality is different. So is yours

Thanks for the advice.

[Ragle]

actually be sure about this.


Forget that. I've already read of adults who first discovered at 40, 50, or even 60 that they are homosexual, asexual, or conversely, straight - or at least simply bi.

I agree with the users who say: forget all the label stuff. Just chill.

[crushinator]

Give it time u'll figure it out.

[skittlesh]

I think if your friends ask you till your a little older say straight cause you can always come out later but it’s much harder to go back. Sure tell your close friends that your not sure I tell my three closest but my expanded school group I just say I’m straight cause idk and I don’t want to say lm bi then not be