Sevun
December 25th, 2017, 07:21 AM
Okay, sorry for this overload of threads. I've posted like 4 in the past few days? Sorry!
I have an issue with my sister, I don't know if she's narcissistic or has a personality disorder, but I find times with her quite unenjoyable. I really would like to actually like her but whenever she comes down from her city where she lives to where I live at home with our parents, I feel dreadful. She is a control-freak, and being a doctor, she always fusses over minor injuries like bumping her tooth on a bowl and fussing over it for days. She gets into fights with my mum from 2 times a month to 1 time every two months, and they're always quite loud and fierce. This happens mostly over the phone when my sister isn't physically here, and they trade a lot of rude remarks, wishes that the other would die, and swear words.
I've been caught in their nonsense before. We visited a tennis tournament when I was 13 (I'm 15 now, so it's pretty fresh in my mind), and on the way home at night afterwards, they had this massive fight. My mum went to the apartment we were staying at and my sister forced me to stay with her in the city. I couldn't go home by myself because my sister told me the city was unsafe at night and that it was dangerous, but I feel like it was more for her own personal motive, in that me going home would mean her defeat in this fight. We spoke to my Dad on the phone who was back in my hometown for advice, and he told my sister to stop being crazy, and it was really traumatic for someone who had come from such an enjoyable event. My sister threatened to call the police and it was really horrible. Eventually, at like 12-1 AM in the morning, they reconciled things, and I could finally go home to the apartment. It has scarred me ever since. I want to trust my sister, and not live like this.
Peace, Sevun
and merry christmas !
EDIT: I probably should also factor in my family. Mum is retired and that puts stress on dad, as he has to raise the family income. This means that we never go out to the coast as a family or holiday together, because he has work or overseas commitments that overlap with assessment period at school etc. I'm not sure if my mum is depressed or anything, but I did catch her borrow a book called "Dealing With Unemployment 101" something along the lines of that, and she can be impulsive as she buys a lot of machines (bread maker, sewing machine, food) from online at home whilst Dad and I are at school/work. Dad also says stuff behind her back, like how she always is on the computer screen and sleeps all day (not really, but she sleeps more than me or my Dad because we have to get up and go to school/work) and does nothing at home etc. Mum gets annoyed at Dad for leaving scraps of food around.
I feel like our family is so dysfunctional. My room is practically a dumpster for all the delivery boxes that mum buys her stuff online from as well as just old school bags etc. I really like them, and I want to be able to confide in themI just don't know how to make it work...
I have an issue with my sister, I don't know if she's narcissistic or has a personality disorder, but I find times with her quite unenjoyable. I really would like to actually like her but whenever she comes down from her city where she lives to where I live at home with our parents, I feel dreadful. She is a control-freak, and being a doctor, she always fusses over minor injuries like bumping her tooth on a bowl and fussing over it for days. She gets into fights with my mum from 2 times a month to 1 time every two months, and they're always quite loud and fierce. This happens mostly over the phone when my sister isn't physically here, and they trade a lot of rude remarks, wishes that the other would die, and swear words.
I've been caught in their nonsense before. We visited a tennis tournament when I was 13 (I'm 15 now, so it's pretty fresh in my mind), and on the way home at night afterwards, they had this massive fight. My mum went to the apartment we were staying at and my sister forced me to stay with her in the city. I couldn't go home by myself because my sister told me the city was unsafe at night and that it was dangerous, but I feel like it was more for her own personal motive, in that me going home would mean her defeat in this fight. We spoke to my Dad on the phone who was back in my hometown for advice, and he told my sister to stop being crazy, and it was really traumatic for someone who had come from such an enjoyable event. My sister threatened to call the police and it was really horrible. Eventually, at like 12-1 AM in the morning, they reconciled things, and I could finally go home to the apartment. It has scarred me ever since. I want to trust my sister, and not live like this.
Peace, Sevun
and merry christmas !
EDIT: I probably should also factor in my family. Mum is retired and that puts stress on dad, as he has to raise the family income. This means that we never go out to the coast as a family or holiday together, because he has work or overseas commitments that overlap with assessment period at school etc. I'm not sure if my mum is depressed or anything, but I did catch her borrow a book called "Dealing With Unemployment 101" something along the lines of that, and she can be impulsive as she buys a lot of machines (bread maker, sewing machine, food) from online at home whilst Dad and I are at school/work. Dad also says stuff behind her back, like how she always is on the computer screen and sleeps all day (not really, but she sleeps more than me or my Dad because we have to get up and go to school/work) and does nothing at home etc. Mum gets annoyed at Dad for leaving scraps of food around.
I feel like our family is so dysfunctional. My room is practically a dumpster for all the delivery boxes that mum buys her stuff online from as well as just old school bags etc. I really like them, and I want to be able to confide in themI just don't know how to make it work...