Blue Christmas

[Just JT]

Christmas isn’t supposed to be a really good and happy time for people. But that’s not always the case. There’s many things that can make any holiday not so happy for them. Maybe a traumatic event or bad memory, or some family issues that cause people to fight when there all together.

It’s usually not so great for me either. The holidays remind me of my dad’s death. It’ll be 3 years this New Years. And last week my foster brother I became realty attached to over this last year moved back with his parents. I’m really happy for him but it’s also really sad for me. I miss him already so much

I just wish all this loss could maybe spread out some so it’s not always around Christmas and the holidays.

So I do hope everyone has a great Christmas and New Years this year. It isn’t a really special time of year.

But if it’s not so hot for you, feeling sad around the holidays for whatever reason,maybe share it here so others may know how you feel and so that those not feeling do happy holidays know they aren’t alone

[ImJulia]

It is a rough time for me because I miss my parents.

[Just JT]

It is a rough time for me because I miss my parents.

Can I ask where they are?

[ImJulia]

Can I ask where they are?

They passed

[Just JT]

They passed

My dad did to
Who do you live with?

[ImJulia]

My dad did to
Who do you live with?

My aunt and uncle

[Just JT]

My aunt and uncle

That’s cool. Your lucky you have family to take you in like that

[Sailor Mars]

Sorry about your guys’ losses. My mom moved to France so this is gonna be my first Christmas without her. Previous years haven’t been so hot either because it just reminds me of being poor and her being sick but... hopefully that will change this year...

[Just JT]

Sorry about your guys’ losses. My mom moved to France so this is gonna be my first Christmas without her. Previous years haven’t been so hot either because it just reminds me of being poor and her being sick but... hopefully that will change this year...

Well hey you are t alone Mars. We’ll be here for ya

[LRSSS02]

This is my tenth christmas without my father.

[Just JT]

This is my tenth christmas without my father.

Does the hurt ever go away or does it just get easier or what?
I feel like it’ll never go away
It’s not just it’s christmas it’s the whole holiday season cause he does during the holiday. Not sure if that makes it different or not. I’m sure everyone who’s lost someone will feel sad now no matter when they lost someone

[LRSSS02]

it gets better over time
the anniversaries are the worst though,
i.e. my father died on 8/20/07 that date every year sucks for me
same with his birthday
so, yes it gets better

[Just JT]

it gets better over time
the anniversaries are the worst though,
i.e. My father died on 8/20/07 that date every year sucks for me
same with his birthday
so, yes it gets better

1/1/14

[LRSSS02]

wow...

[ImJulia]

it gets better over time
the anniversaries are the worst though,
i.e. my father died on 8/20/07 that date every year sucks for me
same with his birthday
so, yes it gets better

Thanks bby xoxo

[Vilnius]

This'll be the last Christmas I spend with my family. Between that, some personal issues, and just seasonal depression, it's been a rough last few days.

I hope you're all doing well. Let's try to enjoy this Blue Christmas together.

[Just JT]

wow...

Yeah so i5s still kinda fresh.
I hope it does get easier. Cause it still feels like yesterday sometimes.
Especially around the holidays

[Fritz]

This january will be one year since my brother and mum died

[Just JT]

This january will be one year since my brother and mum died

That’s pretty fresh to bro. What I do when stuff gets me worked up like that is take a day off from school and stuff. But I’m already off for Christmas break anyways.

You know what you’ll do to get past that?
What day in January?

[Sevun]

I'm suffering from some personal issues as you might know so I'm not the most eager this year (not to mention our family doesn't really celebrate it and all our family is in China), but I still really enjoy the festivities and love spread during Christmas. Love you all, and I hope you guys find closure, happiness and success in your life. Merry Christmas!

[Dalcourt]

I don't really celebrate Christmas much, so it isn't a special time for me to make me sad.
I am not sure if I miss having a Christmas like other people or like you see on TV and such. It's just something I don't really know.

Nevertheless I hope everyone around here finds some days of piece and happiness.

[ImJulia]

It should be a good day despite the sad side

[tsman]

Christmas can be super hard if things aren't going well with your family

[ImJulia]

Christmas can be super hard if things aren't going well with your family

Very true. I can relate.

[lliam]

My decision not to spend Christmas at home, or at least with my girlfriend, has been somewhat disappointed some of those folks who are affected by this decision. But I wanted to avoid the stress of packing, travelling and such, and the holidays are too short to be able to really relax at home or with my girlfriend.


I usually need at least a week to acclimatize myself. So I asked myself:

Where the heck exactly should I spend my holidays? At home, with my girlfriend or at both places? This and a lot more reasons led me to the decision not to waste my time waiting on air ports until I get from A to B and a few days later from B to C, and shortly after returning from C to A.

All in all, I would have spent my holidays traveling about 16500 km.

Although my gf understood my reasoning, she commented it like this: "I wish you would decide such thing more with your heart and less with your head."

My stepmother is even more worried. She thought I would spend Christmas alone suffering of depression. Not even close, smom. I got snow ... lots of it. And I spend part of the time looking after an Astmath dog and other pets (part of a school project).:D


So, the case is, I don't have a blue Christmas, but apparently the people who care about me. Hopefully they will not get depressed and have a good time anyway.

[Just JT]

Just a re-thought considering the season...

[ska8er]

I had a violent death of a great friend
earlier in the year. I remember going
out New Year Eve to spend with his
Grandmother and other residents in
an assisted living facility. We got a
few of our friends and held a party
for them-balloons-noise makers an
served sparkling grape juice and a
lot of snacks. I miss him much. It
took me a while to get over what
happened. I was supposed to go
out with him the day he was in an
accident. Anyway things like this at
holidays come back in memory. Im
having Christmas spirit for the sake
of my family but really my mind is
on another level. Midnight Mass will
b difficult for me but I find peace of
mind during the service. Holidays r
difficult and probably more so for
older adults that maybe have lost
some or most of their family or
friends. Sometimes remembering
the good times hurt even more.