Want help! Not judgement

[Jmm9372]

Hi! I'm 14 and I decided I want to stop masturbating. Of course it feels amazing but I want to stop! But how? Everytime I try I end up watching porn (gay (I'm Gay)) and end up doing it!
Do you know any way to stop doing it?
Please if you are just going to say it is ok to do it, thank you, but don't mind even answering :yes:

[jamie_n5]

Well masturbation is as addictive as heroin or nicotine. So it would take your full willpower to stop doing it. I would suggest not looking at porn anymore either. I am not judging or anything of you. You do know it is perfectly natural and normal for boys and girls to masturbate. I wish you good luck on something that will be extremely hard to achieve.

[ska8er]

Hi! I'm 14 and I decided I want to stop masturbating. Of course it feels amazing but I want to stop! But how? Everytime I try I end up watching porn (gay (I'm Gay)) and end up doing it!
Do you know any way to stop doing it?
Please if you are just going to say it is ok to do it, thank you, but don't mind even answering :yes:

I'm not judging u But at 14 u don't
want to end up going insane. U stop
cold turkey like any other habit if u
intend to alter ur hormonal instincts.

[FawksRunner]

I think you should top viewing porn as a start, I think it would take some time since this has been habitual on your part I would that it it not impossible for you to do it.

[jerrion]

Hi! I'm 14 and I decided I want to stop masturbating. Of course it feels amazing but I want to stop! But how? Everytime I try I end up watching porn (gay (I'm Gay)) and end up doing it!
Do you know any way to stop doing it?
Please if you are just going to say it is ok to do it, thank you, but don't mind even answering :yes:

Tbh you should not stop it but try to control how many times per day you do it , because masturbation is good for your body and mental health :)

[Turbofan explosion]

It is very difficult to quit. You could try things like doing more other things that will give you less time to masturbate (Like play some video games, so that you have less time). There are some other ways. There are really many ways people have tried to do to quit.

[Sevro au Barca]

Well, I'll do my best not to judge you for it. My best friend is trying to do the same thing, and we actually got into a fight about it... but anyway, like any form of addictive activity, the best way to stop is to slowly ween yourself off of it. Let's say you masturbate once a day. Set a goal to only do it every other day. When you can manage that with no problem, try once every three days, and so on. While I'm not entirely sure that you can (or should) make it past a month or two, by that point you should be in a much better position to evaluate your options. Best of luck to you!

[bastile23]

Well, I'll do my best not to judge you for it. My best friend is trying to do the same thing, and we actually got into a fight about it... but anyway, like any form of addictive activity, the best way to stop is to slowly ween yourself off of it. Let's say you masturbate once a day. Set a goal to only do it every other day. When you can manage that with no problem, try once every three days, and so on. While I'm not entirely sure that you can (or should) make it past a month or two, by that point you should be in a much better position to evaluate your options. Best of luck to you!

I tried it once and ended up on the once on week mark, but then i said screw it and came back to every day/whrn i feel like it
Srsly y stop it? Its perfectly normal and harmless

[Fritz]

Yeah like everyone else said, firstly try to not watch porn at all, then slowly "ween" off of it

[pauly]

I agree with pretty much everything that's been said. Your number one goal is to stop looking at porn.

But even if you succeed - which you surely will - you'll find it hard to give up masturbating. And there's no short cut to stopping except a great deal of willpower and the ability to force your mind to think about other things not related to masturbating or sex.

Of course, if you fail, there's absolutely nothing wrong with masturbating anyway. So you mustn't consider yourself a failure.

Good luck.

[NewLeafsFan]

If I wanted to stop masturbating I would not be watching porn. That is only going to increase the chances of you doing it.

I find that when my regular routine changes that I do it less. For example when I am on vacation or when I moved to university I went a few days without doing it. Obviously, you can't plan a vacation right now to stop masturbating but you can try eating and sleeping at different times. Also, my friends have told me that they workout more and when they do they do it less.

[noah.whynot]

Like others have said, the most obvious first thing to do is to get yourself out of the habit of watching porn. At our age, puberty and the hormones that come with it are going to be working against you. At the end of day it's going to take a lot of mental strength to keep from giving in to the desire you're going to feel. I don't know how similar this will be, but a friend of mine is a marathon runner and he's told me that at some point when the runs get really long, it's more of a mental thing than a physical thing. He says that his brain will try to 'convince' him that he should just stop, I guess maybe they call that 'hitting the wall'. Anyway, the point is that our minds are pretty powerful at convincing us to do something even if another part of our mind is trying to do the opposite. My guess is that if you can get through some initial period of not doing it (not sure how long that would be), then it would get easier. I'm guessing you'll inevitably need to deal with some wet dreams if you are able to stop masturbating. Maybe if that happens, then that could also help control the hormone levels in your body that might drive you to masturbate. Don't know if this helps, but it's the best I could think of. No judgement.

[Harrier]

If you want to stop you can't watch porn dude.

[OldNewGuy]

Well, if you are gonna end up doing it while watching porn, i would just not watch porn!

[Second Chance]

Hi! I'm 14 and I decided I want to stop masturbating. Of course it feels amazing but I want to stop! But how? Everytime I try I end up watching porn (gay (I'm Gay)) and end up doing it!
Do you know any way to stop doing it?
Please if you are just going to say it is ok to do it, thank you, but don't mind even answering :yes:

I agree with the others that you have to gradually ween yourself off masturbating and porn, and you cannot do so cold turkey. I think you should do the following:

a. Take things week by week and set realistic goals for yourself. For example, if you masturbate everyday currently, then on week one see if you can reduce it to six days a week; week two five days a week; and so on and so forth.

b. Block all porn websites on your computer and other electronic devices. Keep all electronics in a public part of your house so that you do not have the urge to masturbate using them.

c. Keep your bedroom door open at all times so that you do not get the urge to masturbate.

d. If you masturbate in the shower, then try to get in/out as quickly as possible and to take showers in lukewarm water so that you do not get tempted.

e. Keep anything sexual related such as posters or anything that would get you horny out of your bedroom.

f. When you feel the urge to masturbate, then force yourself to engage in some other activity at that moment preferably something that would tire you out. Exercise would be an obvious option.


I would say that if you do not masturbate, then prepare yourself to have a periodic wet dream which should be fine because that is not conscious masturbation. The fact remains is that you'll have them because of the semen build up you'll have.

If your issue is that you feel that masturbating is making you gay because you can only orgasm to gay porn, then masturbating is not the issue. If you have feelings towards other guys and know that is all that you like, then you're not broken or somehow defective. There are plenty of guys who are gay, and it does not mean you are doomed to an unhappy life. If you stop masturbating and think that will stop making you like guys, then you are in for a rude awakening. If this is the root of your problem, then talk things out with a counselor or a trusted adult to find out how best you can come to terms on how you feel.

Masturbating is totally optional, and you can stop if you truly want to do so. Just keep yourself occupied, and avoid anything sexual so that you do not feel the need to do so.

[TWDjacob]

I would start obviously by not watching porn. Then realistically you won't be able to stop jerking off everyday so maybe start by cutting a day out each week if you do it everyday. If you feel the urge to do it then maybe get up and do some jumping jacks or start cleaning to take your mind off it

[wrestleboy13]

Why would you want to stop something that feels good?

[TheMagicPotato]

Why would you want to stop something that feels good?

He probably feels ashamed about it. I have been there too.

Also, I agree... The best way to stop masturbating is stop watching porn. Then you evolve slowly.

[xXCaptainteemoXx]

You need a huge amount of self control to stop masturbating, trust me. The longest I've gone without masturbating is about one month and honestly I can't say there's anything better about it. I was hornier all the time and definitely took more risks than usual, but honestly I would suggest starting small before completely stopping if that's what you want to do.

Start with doing it every other day, then every 2 days, then every 3 days, and so on. Teaching yourself the self-control necessary to stop is key in stopping altogether. I just want to add that there's nothing wrong with masturbating, and there's nothing wrong with watching porn. Just learn self-control and you will be ok.

[crushinator]

I did it once. made it a month. I just made sure to be around people as much as I could. At night I would leave my laptop and phone in the living room so I couldn't get to them to watch porn.

[Diverperry]

Be sure to leave all tech out of your room. Try to avoid being alone or bored for extended periods of time, especially at night. It’s tough, but I did it and I Know you can too

[gdude]

Masturbation is healthy dot stop! And if you enjoy watching it then just do so just dont make it an addiction, its fine dude

[Alex669]

As some people said. If you want to stop doing it you should get busy. What I would recommend is to go to the gym or do a sport. Masturbation helps you with many thing, being the principal stress relief. If you engage in some physical activity then you would be relieving your strees, plus that will keep your hands -and your mind- busy.

[Blond1999]

Hi! I'm 14 and I decided I want to stop masturbating. Of course it feels amazing but I want to stop! But how? Everytime I try I end up watching porn (gay (I'm Gay)) and end up doing it!
Do you know any way to stop doing it?
Please if you are just going to say it is ok to do it, thank you, but don't mind even answering :yes:

please keep doing it, is such an amazing experienced and good for your help, why do you want to stop? any trauma?