How do I remove her from my life?

[Solvez18]

Long story short for you VT. I had a girl I met, I loved her, we were together for a couple months. She was my first and so far only. She decided she was uncomfortable with being in a relationship. 3 years later we're still friends and she's in her first relationship since we were together. It's killing me, I realised I still have strong feelings but I'm pretty sure she's moved on. How do I explain to her I'm no longer comfortable with being friends? I want her back but I'm sure it wont happen. I just want to move on it's just giving me painful anxiety and slowly depressing me more and more.

[Uniquemind]

I think you deal with this in 2 ways or a mix of both if she pressures you into discussing it.

Passively you should keep yourself busy with activities that put distance between you and her but also allow you to meet other friends and potential lovers. Time will solve the rest in time including jealousy providing your making progress in life.

[Solvez18]

I think you deal with this in 2 ways or a mix of both if she pressures you into discussing it.

Passively you should keep yourself busy with activities that put distance between you and her but also allow you to meet other friends and potential lovers. Time will solve the rest in time including jealousy providing your making progress in life.

I want to keep my hopes up, I tried telling her recently I still had interest in her. But she's after somebody else now. I got texts from her every now and then throughout the past 3 years where she showed interest in me but I was afraid she would break my heart again so I wanted to really give it sometime before I gave it another try. Looks like I was just a little too late. I'd like to hope you're right so I'll consider that. But you must understand because we're friends she texts me almost everyday with small talk and I find lately I'm living some long nights sitting here upset that she doesn't seem to have that kind of interest in me anymore. I like to think she's the most attractive girl I've ever seen, I don't know if that's just because I like her or I truly believe it anymore.

[NewLeafsFan]

She's with somebody else so she is currently off the market unfortunately. You have the right idea of distancing yourself. As long as you are friends your feelings will only get stronger.

Here's a challenge for you: as part of moving on, why don't you ask a different girl for there number? Part of holding on to your past could be that it's all you've ever known. If you need to talk or need more advice feel free to PM me.

[jamie_n5]

You can try to just avoid her and ignore any texts or things like that. If you see her and can't avoid her just say hi and keep on walking away. I think she will get the message in not too long.

[FawksRunner]

It is complicated since you still have a thing for her, But I guess try seeing other girls you know just try to distract yourself from her.

[Solvez18]

I appreciate the advice guys, I really do. I think I'll start out by just replying to her texts if she starts a conversation. I wont text first and I'll try keep them short. She doesn't have many people to talk to other than me or her new 'bf' so i'll give it a go. As for speaking with other girls.. I don't really know any, I don't meet new people often either. Unfortunately.

[Paige_ob34]

i understand how you feel. ive been there before (on both sides). while just cutting out any communication full stop might be easier for you, its not very kind on her. especially given she thinks of you as a super close friend.

if you really cant be around her / talk to her without feeling bad, you need to tell her that and explain it to her. at the very least she needs to know why you have to pull back. i know thats easier said than done.

[NudistFun]

Long story short for you VT. I had a girl I met, I loved her, we were together for a couple months. She was my first and so far only. She decided she was uncomfortable with being in a relationship. 3 years later we're still friends and she's in her first relationship since we were together. It's killing me, I realised I still have strong feelings but I'm pretty sure she's moved on. How do I explain to her I'm no longer comfortable with being friends? I want her back but I'm sure it wont happen. I just want to move on it's just giving me painful anxiety and slowly depressing me more and more.

You just have to swallow your pride and address her directly. Tell her that you still love her and it tears you up to see her with someone else so , for your own sake, you can't be friends.

[donoble]

Hi there, I know how are you feeling right now. But you need to tell her directly that what you are thinking about her. If you are confused you can also visit some psychic who can guide you well and take you out of this problem.

[lliam]

Just loosen your bond to her step by step.

[Henry333]

You need to be up front with her. If she's with someone why does it matter what she thinks of you afterwards anyway? Tell her you love her and can't take being close to her when she's with someone else

[Gamer98]

Just get over it. Learn to love yourself. Who needs people anyway