Coming out to a friend

[Aidoon123]

Hey guys, so anyway I think it would be fairly ridiculous with the amount of stuff I have done towards guys to make me say ''I think I am straight'' so I am just going to officially say I am bi *crowd cheers* lol, anyway I just wanted you guys opinion on something. Since going to secondary school I have made this really good friend, we talk like all the time in school, I am really close to him and I want to tell him I am bi, as my first official person you know. The only problem is, I am afraid he might tell someone as we have only been friends for 3 years, I guess it's because I kind of like him that I am leaning towards telling him first more than anyone else, but he has some homophobic tendencies! A very camp guy walked up to us and he got really close to me, and pushed me so we would go further away from him and said ''Phew, that was close'' and then shuddered. Like, he is a very nice guy (usually) and especially towards me. So, although I am a bit apprehensive I still want to tell him, so what do you think?

Okay, so I told him and he is 100% supporting I am so happy, he even said its fine if I say to him I think a guy is hot!!! BEST.FRIEND.EVER!!!

[Tarannosaurus]

I'm not really sure whether it's a good idea or not, if he found out that he has a gay friend it might change his mind. My best friend is entirely supportive of me being gay but she was a bit weird about it for the first few months. So if you do tell him I think that maybe you should expect that for a short while, and probably lots of questions. If he's a true friend though he will support you. Good luck :)

[pjones]

this is really difficult to answer. if you think he might not react well i'd say don't tell him yet.

[Luminous]

If you don't think he'll take it well, Don't Tell Him! It could backfire badly. Wait until it comes up in a conversation or he says he is an ally or something like that. Think this through. Is it better to tell him and lose him, or have him and keep the secret? That is your choice.

[ksdnfkfr]

Either you can trust him or you can not. Not really any in between with trust.

[Karkat]

Either you can trust him or you can not. Not really any in between with trust.

Exactly. If you feel like you can trust him, and he's there for you, go for it! If not, let it go for now. However, sometimes people's views change, so even if you don't tell him now, remember that it doesn't mean you'll NEVER be able to tell him.

Hope that made sense. :whoops:

[sqishy]

It would be a better idea ot first ask him what his opinion is on LGBT in general and if he's ok with it, see if you can go from there.

[Aidoon123]

Okay, so I told him and he is 100% supporting :D I am so happy, he even said its fine if I say to him I think a guy is hot!!! BEST.FRIEND.EVER!!!

[LiamC]

If you're not sure, then I wouldn't tell him. I guess it's completely different for everybody but I couldn't do it until I was 100% sure I could trust who I told and that they would react ok. Well, you never can be 100% sure about anything but still! Once you do tell the first person it's such a relief and then it feels so much easier to take the next step, and the next step and the next ^_^

[Croconaw]

Congratulations.

[backjruton]

Okay, so I told him and he is 100% supporting :D I am so happy, he even said its fine if I say to him I think a guy is hot!!! BEST.FRIEND.EVER!!!

Haha... I out of the blue told my friend I'm really attracted to him and because everyone in college knew I prefer guys it didn't come as a shock and he's started being nicer to me since I told him how I feel :whoops: