Destructive Friendships

[ImagineRepublicCity]

So does anyone here have/used to have a destructive friendship?

It could be full on bad (peer pressure, bullying, etc) or somewhat, I'm not sure, anything you define as a harmful friendship.

I'm sure I do. I always begin fights with my friends (especially one of them) and I tell myself I will never talk to them ever again but then we do. It's a phase thing. Sometimes we are the bestest of mates, sometimes we're just like oil and water.

^Any advice for that?

[JamesSuperBoy]

I had one friend at school and he wanted me to steal stuff from shops - just sweets and cans of coke but I said no and he wanted to make trouble for me.

He is not a friend anymore -

[Tarannosaurus]

I used to be friends with two people that encouraged me to self harm. I don't talk to them anymore they made my self harm escalate and made me feel horrible about myself.

[Croconaw]

I used to be friends with a girl named Emily. It didn't turn out well.

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[Body odah Man]

I ahevn't had any of these thankfully. Do feel sorry for those that have, tho.

[Menzis]

I have had a friend that one time was being my best friend and other times was unpleasent to be around, because of hitting or hate towards me..
He smokes weed everyday, so that might be one of the reasons why he had these "mood changes" against me.
I haven't talked or seen him in a long time and I kind of miss him..

[Katzen]

When I was 12 and entered high school, a couple of (trusted) friends suddenly turned against me and just wanted to harm and dismiss me. Stopped talking to them and the rest of that year was rather awkward; Thankfully one moved away in a year, and the other did as well a couple of years later.

Now am 19 and passed just about all teenage. A teacher back then told us that is was a great but shitty time as well, and I agree... Sometimes you have to move on, and the future can be much better without some people.

I do however have a classmate with whom I share commute as well (college can be quite different). He lives quite close but he kept me pushing away from creating a deep friendship (I tried at least).
He is a nerdy jock (indeed a weird combination!) and his grade obsession was affecting me (you wear out after so much academic complaining commutes). I've learnt to put distance inbetween and move on with other mates.

[backjruton]

All I know is my relationship with my best friend in college isn't a very good one XD I think our whole friendship is based on making fun of eachother. Neither of us mean it, it's just joking and usually we don't get offended by eachother either XD "she's a pig and I'm a whale"... :D

[KaraaaHope]

I think its something everyone will/does deal with at some point. Some people just dont see it for what it is and it goes for too long and turns out bad.

[ninja789]

I used to be friends with a girl named Emily. It didn't turn out well.

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crap she is horrible :( why where you guys friends?

gotta love the grow some balls part as there is surely no way you can do that lol

[Croconaw]

crap she is horrible :( why where you guys friends?

gotta love the grow some balls part as there is surely no way you can do that lol

I have no idea. I was desperate at the time. I hate her, but I don't have to see her anymore. I changed schools.

[ninja789]

I have no idea. I was desperate at the time. I hate her, but I don't have to see her anymore. I changed schools.

I can understand that. It isn't a good situation to be in
glad things have worked out ok for you though :)

[Desuetude]

Yep definitely. I had 3 best friends and at the moment I'm still best friends with 2 of them, the other just didn't work.

We both didn't like each other for months before a massive, overblown argument happened that sealed the fact that we would never go back to the way things were. Honestly, I know it's hard, but it's not worth it. You just need to let them go and move on. There are, surprisingly, better friendships than what you're experiencing. If you feel the need to fight with them then it's obviously not working, picking out their flaws and insecurities to get them worked up isn't how a friendship should be.

The girl I thought was one of my closest friends would constantly overdramastise her problems to make them seem like they were worse than everyone elses. Baring in mind one of my other friends has psychotic depression, aspergers and had recently attempted suicide her petty (and more often than not) non-existant problems weren't my top priority. We kind of resented each other because I was becoming closer to my other friends where as she was being left behind. A friendship can't stay like this and eventually it will blow up, which is did and it wasn't (and still isn't) pretty. Ignoring and hating each other works a lot better for us now though.

[Babiole]

I was friends with this guy named Enzo who was in my literature class. He tried to get me to smoke marijuana. I told my parents and they forbade me from speaking to him.