Getting over your ex?

[Solvez18]

Hey guys, just gonna try keep this brief. I'd like to know how any of you cope with a break up and how you try to get over it.

I didn't have a proper relationship in the first place, but it was very on and off but didn't work out (don't ask why, I have no clue why) in the end. Its been about 2 years now and she seems to have moved on just fine but we still chat a little now and then but I struggle. I've not met anybody since and she was kind of my first girlfriend. I don't like to think it was a real relationship and I wouldn't say it 'counts' as one. But I've still got feelings there I'm trying to get over and its just not working. I think if I can find somebody else then I'll be able to move on alot easier, however I don't see that happening anytime soon.

[Abyssal Echo]

I know you're not going to like what I say... beings that she was your first you'll prob always have some feelings for her... as they say time cures all. do yourself a favor and don't take your thoughts and feelings for your EX (aka baggage) into another relationship.

[ska8er]

Its hard to let go but u have
to move on. As I told someone
else here its not going to help
eating at u. The first relationship
breakup is always not easy. I did
experience that. Keep chatting with
her and maybe things might turn
around. If not look for someone else.

[Stronk Serb]

What helped me get over the breakup is stopping all contact and alcohol. Lots of it. When I think about it, I was drunk for four months. With all the drinks I've forgotten even why. Then I told myself that enough is enough and that I need to sober up and get my shit straight. Distance yourself from her, maybe not cut all contact like me. I did because she cheated on my and acted like a bitch after breakup. Try to find sonething to occupy your thoughts, a hobby, or devote yourself to studying more. My grades improved when I stopped thinking about her and started thinking about the future.

[Solvez18]

What helped me get over the breakup is stopping all contact and alcohol. Lots of it. When I think about it, I was drunk for four months. With all the drinks I've forgotten even why. Then I told myself that enough is enough and that I need to sober up and get my shit straight. Distance yourself from her, maybe not cut all contact like me. I did because she cheated on my and acted like a bitch after breakup. Try to find sonething to occupy your thoughts, a hobby, or devote yourself to studying more. My grades improved when I stopped thinking about her and started thinking about the future.

My situation is somewhat similar. Except I've been trying to get over it for around 2 years and my feelings feel stronger than ever right now because I haven't found anybody/anything else to distract myself with. At this moment I feel more angry with her than I do attracted, but I wouldn't be surprised if that all changed in the next day or so. I really want to make a ditch effort but I feel pretty hopeless about it. Low Self-Esteem I guess.

[Stronk Serb]

My situation is somewhat similar. Except I've been trying to get over it for around 2 years and my feelings feel stronger than ever right now because I haven't found anybody/anything else to distract myself with. At this moment I feel more angry with her than I do attracted, but I wouldn't be surprised if that all changed in the next day or so. I really want to make a ditch effort but I feel pretty hopeless about it. Low Self-Esteem I guess.

Don't do it. Also getting in a relationship to heal yourself from the previous one is bad too. You need to get out one sunny Saturday morning, take a walk in the park, sit on a bench and think about the problems you have and to see how to solve them. Be calm and look for the most realistic solution and the one that seems good to you.

[Solvez18]

Don't do it. Also getting in a relationship to heal yourself from the previous one is bad too. You need to get out one sunny Saturday morning, take a walk in the park, sit on a bench and think about the problems you have and to see how to solve them. Be calm and look for the most realistic solution and the one that seems good to you.

I guess you're right. Honestly I'm just a train wreck. I had a conversation with my ex today for the first time in a bit and found out she's heavily interested in someone else (I think might even be in an early relationship with) and I had the worst panic attack of my life. It killed me inside and I couldn't function whatsoever for an hour and I honestly thought I'd have a heart attack. I thought I was somewhat over her by now but I'm really not. I don't know what to do with myself anymore y'know?