How do i stop loving someone?

[Daniel ARB]

For a while now i have been involved in the biggest fight of my life.
Im going to sum up my relationship with this girl pretty quickly.
She sent me a message a few years ago. We began chatting frequent and she built up feelings for me. Originally i did not. Some where along the time i too built feelings but became to scared to show them.
Soon enough we both knew we liked each other but just didnt talk about it.
Well now she has moved on to other people. But i cant get her off my mind.
We are still great friends but i cant stop loving her and at this point its not healthy for me.
I need a clear mind right now but i cant get one. Could someone help me?
How can i stop loving her?

[Nikki_1]

I don't think that you can ever stop loving someone, love isn't something that we can switch on or off depending on what mood we are in at the time.
You mention that you and her chatted a lot and you both built up feelings for each other, the bit I can't understand is that you never TALKED about how you felt and how she felt in her heart. If you (and her) had been more open about your feelings for each other then maybe things would be different. It's never too late, just open your heart to her and tell her how you feel!! I don't know but maybe its a guy thing and not macho to confess love but, believe me... it does work!!!

Hope this has helped and I hope that you make the right decision.

[ska8er]

How can u not build up feelings for her
if u say u liked her? Maybe she sensed
this and that is y she moved on. If u had
no feelings y did u frequently chat with her.
The only thing I can say is that if Now u have
feelings for her-get in touch with her and tell
her so. If u cant do that or if she says she no
longer chats-let her go.

[Daniel ARB]

Yeah i tried but what i meant was is that she has moved on.
She understands now how i feel but its way too late.
And i need help getting over her because i cant love someone who doesnt love me back you know.

[Daniel ARB]

How can u not build up feelings for her
if u say u liked her? Maybe she sensed
this and that is y she moved on. If u had
no feelings y did u frequently chat with her.
The only thing I can say is that if Now u have
feelings for her-get in touch with her and tell
her so. If u cant do that or if she says she no
longer chats-let her go.
I dont fall in love with every girl i chat with and i have plenty of female friends its just that this girl made me fall in love you know?
Weve been in touch and shes said shes moved on despite how i feel.
I dont want to know how to get her back i want to know how to get over her and how to stop loving her.

[Fritz]

I dont fall in love with every girl i chat with and i have plenty of female friends its just that this girl made me fall in love you know?
Weve been in touch and shes said shes moved on despite how i feel.
I dont want to know how to get her back i want to know how to get over her and how to stop loving her.

Kinda hard mate, but you have to kill the emotion if you understand me, its definitely do-able

[Max the Disenchanter]

find another girl to obsess over

[Lillynet]

I dont thik you ever stop love someone you just keep your life and move on for some new adventure and love. you wil still care for him/her but you will keep doing your life and date with other people :) . that what i think :)

[Kacieboo2003]

You can't actually stop loving someone completely unless something happens in the friendship that causes you two to leave each other. The only thing I can tell you to do is occupy your mind with other things. Focus on hobbies and life goals. It'll help take your mind off of her. I've been through the same thing. I broke up with my ex and still thought about him all the time, but learned to just drop him out of my life and focus on other stuff. Hanging out with your friends also helps. Go to them for help, if they're true friends they'll give you support

[ska8er]

I dont fall in love with every girl i chat with and i have plenty of female friends its just that this girl made me fall in love you know?
Weve been in touch and shes said shes moved on despite how i feel.
I dont want to know how to get her back i want to know how to get over her and how to stop loving her.

I know it is hard to do. U had ur
chance and u didn't act on it so
now shes gone and u have to
move on. It eating away at u is
not going to help u ease the pain.
U say u have a lot of female friends.
Y not ask one of them if they know of
someone who would b interested in u.

[Daniel ARB]

I know it is hard to do. U had ur
chance and u didn't act on it so
now shes gone and u have to
move on. It eating away at u is
not going to help u ease the pain.
U say u have a lot of female friends.
Y not ask one of them if they know of
someone who would b interested in u.
There is a girl who is intrested in me and weve been talking. Do you thinking investing in her would help get this other girl out of my head?

[Daniel ARB]

Kinda hard mate, but you have to kill the emotion if you understand me, its definitely do-able
Yeah i get you and im trying thanks for the help :)

[Daniel ARB]

You can't actually stop loving someone completely unless something happens in the friendship that causes you two to leave each other. The only thing I can tell you to do is occupy your mind with other things. Focus on hobbies and life goals. It'll help take your mind off of her. I've been through the same thing. I broke up with my ex and still thought about him all the time, but learned to just drop him out of my life and focus on other stuff. Hanging out with your friends also helps. Go to them for help, if they're true friends they'll give you support
Yeah i see what you mean. Thanks.
Its just a real difficult time in my life and emotions are not something im good with so im just struggling you know? But thanks anyways

[ska8er]

There is a girl who is intrested in me and weve been talking. Do you thinking investing in her would help get this other girl out of my head?

Yes-Just take it easy getting to know her
til u r both comfortable with each other.
Any kind of new change will get ur mind
off of something. :)

[Kacieboo2003]

Yeah i see what you mean. Thanks.
Its just a real difficult time in my life and emotions are not something im good with so im just struggling you know? But thanks anyways

Trust me Ik what youre going through. Always here if you gotta talk!

[SethfromMI]

There is a girl who is intrested in me and weve been talking. Do you thinking investing in her would help get this other girl out of my head?

It is hard to stop loving someone. part of you may always love her to some degree. but if you find someone of your own, someone you love and loves you back, I do think that will go a long way in helping you.

[Just JT]

Lots of good advice but my thoughts are.....
How can you love someone who doesn’t love you back?
Love is a forever thing, and doesn’t come on and off like a light. It is something that’s built, then never goes away. It’s an automatic thing. But can also change.
So maybe you misundersood your feelings for her?
Maybe?
Or your love for each other changed or is changing
Either way sounds like your heading in the same direction with another girl
Don’t make that same mistake again

[Daniel ARB]

Lots of good advice but my thoughts are.....
How can you love someone who doesn’t love you back?
Love is a forever thing, and doesn’t come on and off like a light. It is something that’s built, then never goes away. It’s an automatic thing. But can also change.
So maybe you misundersood your feelings for her?
Maybe?
Or your love for each other changed or is changing
Either way sounds like your heading in the same direction with another girl
Don’t make that same mistake again
yeah i hear you, Im having an easier time getting past it and figuring out how i feel
thanks for the advice

[Daniel ARB]

Trust me Ik what youre going through. Always here if you gotta talk!
Yeah thanks, would be nice to have someone to talk to

[Just JT]

Yeah thanks, would be nice to have someone to talk to

We’re all here to talk and listen
And welcome to VT

[Daniel ARB]

We’re all here to talk and listen
And welcome to VT
thanks

[Kaeneus]

Time and space. It’s such a cliche but you really do heal from things, feelings dull, become bareable... wish there were an easier short cut but sometimes you just have to deal with it until it passes, but know that one day it will

[FawksRunner]

I would try seeing other girls and try new things just to distract yourself from here and eventually forget or moved on from her.