Advice?

[anonymous3434]

3 people have been bullying me for a while now, but earlier today some really offensive things were said, I got angry and threw phone, it broke. When my parents found out, I told them about the bullying (they didn't know until then),
hey just shouted at me, and blamed me for "showing off". All my parents said about the bullies was: "Don't let them get to you!!". To which I replied "It's not easy". My Mum then called me stupid and walked off. What should I do??

[Just JT]

Is this happening at school?

[NewLeafsFan]

Your parents are clearly not supporting you emotionally through this difficult time. Do not expect that to change. Find other people to talk to. You know how your parents act when you talk about it. Don't hug a porcupine and expect to not get pricked.

As far as the bullies go, if it is at school you need to speak with a staff member asap. And try to avoid them.

[Uniquemind]

I recommend getting a stress ball and also ask you parents to proactively help develop coping strategies that make sense given the specific ways in which the bullies are targeting you.

Ask them to help you from losing your cool like you did recently.

At the end of the day you damaging your own property hurts you and your family more than anything else.

[Fritz]

Dude Id sock those bullies right on their ears

[Atlantis]

Oh god. I feel you. The exact same thing happened with my parents, they just tell you to "put up with it" or "try and ignore it" which is really difficult to do when the bullies are constantly at it. You really need to talk to someone about this, like a guidance counselor or a teacher you get on well with or anyone like that since you're clearly not getting anywhere with your parents. I also agree with what Uniquemind said, getting a stress ball will not only help to calm you but also to avoid you damaging anything else.

[Just JT]

Dude Id sock those bullies right on their ears

On their ears?

[Dalcourt]

To understand how bad bullying can be isn't always easy if it doesn't happen to yourself, so I guess your parents didn't want to be mean or show no interest it's just hard to understand.

Talk to them again and interest to the bullying happens at school talk to a teacher uou trust or the school counselor.

I understand that not getting provoked by bullies is hard but it's important not to give in to it by doing stuff like throwing your phone. This just makes things worse. So yeah, as your parents said don't let them get to you is most essential since that is what bullies live off. But you cannot do this alone you need your family's and friend's support here and you have to make that clear to your parents.

[larasimos]

Take up courage and stand against these bullies. Maybe your mom and dad didn't understand the seriousness. Make them sit and understand and seek their help.

[DragonflySphere]

Hi. There is a few options you can use that I can think of. First one is ignoring them which can be hard and often doesn't work (in my opinion). The second is by getting someone you truely trust to help you deal with your problem. Another one is fighting back (not recommended even if you are stronger than all of them). Next one is trying to outsmart them but this often is unlikely to work. And lastly keeping away from them. A simple way to relieve stress and anger without taking it out in the bullies. I hope this problem can be fixed soon.

As for your parents. The only thing I can say is discuss it with them. It may seem hard but it's a good option. I'm sure they would of had a bully at least once and they probably were just angry at you at the time for breaking your phone.

[TheMagicPotato]

Please, talk with a RESPONSIBLE adult that ACTUALLY supports you.

Don't throw punches, that'll only make the situation worse. Keep seeking for help. It's hard to not response, but, it's worth it, dawg.

[ImJulia]

Please, talk with a RESPONSIBLE adult that ACTUALLY supports you.

Don't throw punches, that'll only make the situation worse. Keep seeking for help. It's hard to not response, but, it's worth it, dawg.

Very well said.

[Just JT]

Please, talk with a RESPONSIBLE adult that ACTUALLY supports you.


Don't throw punches, that'll only make the situation worse. Keep seeking for help. It's hard to not response, but, it's worth it, dawg.

Very well said.


Good advice. Try your best to ignore it. Bullies want to see you struggle and want to know they got under your skin.

But also if it gets to a point where your back is up against the wall you need to defend yourself. And that may not seem like something you like or wana do.
So it they attack you and you fight back their less likely to do it again. They like easy targets
But fighting back is a last resort
You might wana learnt a few techniques on how to defend yourself

[TheMagicPotato]

Good advice. Try your best to ignore it. Bullies want to see you struggle and want to know they got under your skin.

But also if it gets to a point where your back is up against the wall you need to defend yourself. And that may not seem like something you like or wana do.
So it they attack you and you fight back their less likely to do it again. They like easy targets
But fighting back is a last resort
You might wana learnt a few techniques on how to defend yourself

Correct, use fighting back as a last option.

[Martainfey96]

Does this happen in school????

[WeebOOF]

Please, talk with a RESPONSIBLE adult that ACTUALLY supports you.

Don't throw punches, that'll only make the situation worse. Keep seeking for help. It's hard to not response, but, it's worth it, dawg.

Well said

[Max the Disenchanter]

um... beat the shit out of them after school? or at least try. but do it one on one.