How Do I "Prepare" Myself?

[Gudetama]

So me and my boyfriend have been getting closer recently, and we started talking about sex. We agreed that im the bottom, and I want to know if there is anything I can do to be ready to take it? Is it painful? :what:

[Second Chance]

I would say the most important thing you can do to prepare yourself is to make sure that both you and your boyfriend are safe. What I mean are the following:

1. Make sure both you and your boyfriend are clean of diseases especially if one or both of you are not virgins. If the person who is not a virgin does not want to take a STD test and share the results, then definitely do not have sex with the guy even if that means he breaks up with you.

2. Make sure you both have condoms and that you both know how to use them. The issue here is more along the lines of cleanliness though you both need to be protected from diseases, too.

3. I would make sure you have plenty of lube and make use of it.

4. Make sure you're honestly ready for sex and that you are not just doing this to keep your boyfriend happy. If for whatever reason you're not ready and your boyfriend does not respect that, then he is not worth your time.

5. Stay relaxed during sex because if you are too nervous or overthink things, then you'll be really tight down there which causes pain.

6. If your boyfriend is really big downstairs, then you have to make it clear he has to take it slowly and gradually especially if this is your first time.

7. There needs to be feedback between you two as you both are having sex and that you both respect each other's words and feelings as you're having sex otherwise it is not going to be fun.

8. If this is your first time, then understand that it might not be all that good which is normal because it's going to take a couple of tries for you to find out what works for you.

9. Make sure you have access to healthcare just in case things do not turn out as planned and that you are comfortable with telling the medical staff how your issue came about (through sex).

10. Just make sure that if you encounter pain that you make that clear to your boyfriend and that he backs off it you are not enjoying yourself.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

Good advice from second chance!
Communication is good. If it hurts, let him know and take it slow

[kierbirmboy]

Really great advice from second chance. The only thing i would add to that list is if you are going to be the bottom, then you may want to consider douching yourself an hour or so before you have sex. There are helpful vids on Youtube on how to do this.

[jamie_n5]

I would say the most important thing you can do to prepare yourself is to make sure that both you and your boyfriend are safe. What I mean are the following:

1. Make sure both you and your boyfriend are clean of diseases especially if one or both of you are not virgins. If the person who is not a virgin does not want to take a STD test and share the results, then definitely do not have sex with the guy even if that means he breaks up with you.

2. Make sure you both have condoms and that you both know how to use them. The issue here is more along the lines of cleanliness though you both need to be protected from diseases, too.

3. I would make sure you have plenty of lube and make use of it.

4. Make sure you're honestly ready for sex and that you are not just doing this to keep your boyfriend happy. If for whatever reason you're not ready and your boyfriend does not respect that, then he is not worth your time.

5. Stay relaxed during sex because if you are too nervous or overthink things, then you'll be really tight down there which causes pain.

6. If your boyfriend is really big downstairs, then you have to make it clear he has to take it slowly and gradually especially if this is your first time.

7. There needs to be feedback between you two as you both are having sex and that you both respect each other's words and feelings as you're having sex otherwise it is not going to be fun.

8. If this is your first time, then understand that it might not be all that good which is normal because it's going to take a couple of tries for you to find out what works for you.

9. Make sure you have access to healthcare just in case things do not turn out as planned and that you are comfortable with telling the medical staff how your issue came about (through sex).

10. Just make sure that if you encounter pain that you make that clear to your boyfriend and that he backs off it you are not enjoying yourself.

This is excellent advice. Just take it slow and easy and talk to each other. Condoms and lots of lube too.

[SeansLittleBro]

I would say the most important thing you can do to prepare yourself is to make sure that both you and your boyfriend are safe. What I mean are the following:

1. Make sure both you and your boyfriend are clean of diseases especially if one or both of you are not virgins. If the person who is not a virgin does not want to take a STD test and share the results, then definitely do not have sex with the guy even if that means he breaks up with you.

2. Make sure you both have condoms and that you both know how to use them. The issue here is more along the lines of cleanliness though you both need to be protected from diseases, too.

3. I would make sure you have plenty of lube and make use of it.

4. Make sure you're honestly ready for sex and that you are not just doing this to keep your boyfriend happy. If for whatever reason you're not ready and your boyfriend does not respect that, then he is not worth your time.

5. Stay relaxed during sex because if you are too nervous or overthink things, then you'll be really tight down there which causes pain.

6. If your boyfriend is really big downstairs, then you have to make it clear he has to take it slowly and gradually especially if this is your first time.

7. There needs to be feedback between you two as you both are having sex and that you both respect each other's words and feelings as you're having sex otherwise it is not going to be fun.

8. If this is your first time, then understand that it might not be all that good which is normal because it's going to take a couple of tries for you to find out what works for you.

9. Make sure you have access to healthcare just in case things do not turn out as planned and that you are comfortable with telling the medical staff how your issue came about (through sex).

10. Just make sure that if you encounter pain that you make that clear to your boyfriend and that he backs off it you are not enjoying yourself.

Couldn't have done better. As a top there are some things that are different, but yes, the above is a good system to follow. #8 8s so true as is the fact that communication between both of you, prior and during the act.. It may take time until you are totally satisfied with doing anal but if it is done right with the right person you will be happy that you did.

[mick01]

I'd also suggest that you use some lube on either your fingers or your boyfriends and simulate anal sex for a bit to get used to having something in there and to get loose.

[mick01]

Oh, to answer the pain question, at first it will hurt some until you get used to it. And then after a few times of doing it, it will be all pleasurable.

[Tap27future]

USE LUBE! There's nothing else more important than that lol.
If you're too embarrassed to buy KY Jelly then just use Vaseline lotion.

[InternetTeen]

take it slow and USE A CONDOM!

[Zachary G]

I havent seen nayone mention it, but you shoud make sure that you are totally clean inside (and out) before getting into it. Once you have acheived that, then you can proceed -- lots of communication, lots of lube, and condoms. Its going to hurt at first until you get used to it, but it gets better the more you learn to relax and enjoy yourself.

[Fritz]

I couldnt imagine having sex with another guy, i just dont understand

[heymynameis]

I would say the most important thing you can do to prepare yourself is to make sure that both you and your boyfriend are safe. What I mean are the following:

1. Make sure both you and your boyfriend are clean of diseases especially if one or both of you are not virgins. If the person who is not a virgin does not want to take a STD test and share the results, then definitely do not have sex with the guy even if that means he breaks up with you.

2. Make sure you both have condoms and that you both know how to use them. The issue here is more along the lines of cleanliness though you both need to be protected from diseases, too.

3. I would make sure you have plenty of lube and make use of it.

4. Make sure you're honestly ready for sex and that you are not just doing this to keep your boyfriend happy. If for whatever reason you're not ready and your boyfriend does not respect that, then he is not worth your time.

5. Stay relaxed during sex because if you are too nervous or overthink things, then you'll be really tight down there which causes pain.

6. If your boyfriend is really big downstairs, then you have to make it clear he has to take it slowly and gradually especially if this is your first time.

7. There needs to be feedback between you two as you both are having sex and that you both respect each other's words and feelings as you're having sex otherwise it is not going to be fun.

8. If this is your first time, then understand that it might not be all that good which is normal because it's going to take a couple of tries for you to find out what works for you.

9. Make sure you have access to healthcare just in case things do not turn out as planned and that you are comfortable with telling the medical staff how your issue came about (through sex).

10. Just make sure that if you encounter pain that you make that clear to your boyfriend and that he backs off it you are not enjoying yourself.

I couldnt imagine having sex with another guy, i just dont understand

great advice, but on the same page with Fritz

[Jordanchill]

If it is your first time being the receptive partner, make sure you are in control, at least until you are comfortable. This will allow you to acclimate to the sensations as well as control the pace of the situation so as to keep any pain levels to a minimum.