Do I seem desperate?

[benlodge123]

Is it normal to get a little disheartened when you can see the person you like is online on social media, but is not answering your message.

Okay, so this girl, Lorna, Is 1 year younger than me. She has been off school ill for 2 days. I knew she was ill because she told me, so during the 2 days I would ask if shes okay, feeling any better, or what shes up to? On snapchat. If she doesnt answer I leave it like 2 hours then ask again. Then she will reply, does it seem desperate if I leave it 2 hours between my messages when she doesn't answer. I understand fully she is ill and that she may be sleeping. However, I dont know how to find out if she wants me to just go. Lorna doesnt seem grumpy at all when she is messaging me, even though its hard to express emotions through a screen. I kind of dont know whether to just not ask how she is at all, and if i mean anything to her, she will message me. Or do I just continue doing what I am doing, (asking how she is, even if she doesnt open the message)

Confusing I know, I dont understand it myself!

[Leena_2003]

Unless both of you already are in the habit of responding to each other's messages very quickly, don't do it too often. Maybe just once or twice a day. I get annoyed when people text me all the time expecting a quick response, so I think she might feel the same. She will reply when she's ready to do it.

[benlodge123]

Unless both of you already are in the habit of responding to each other's messages very quickly, don't do it too often. Maybe just once or twice a day. I get annoyed when people text me all the time expecting a quick response, so I think she might feel the same. She will reply when she's ready to do it.

We were in the habit of talking pretty frequently ie answering quickly. But then she was ill and it says she's online, but then she says she's been asleep, or doing homework. So i dont know if the app we talk on is wrong, or she isnt sleeping and is just ignoring me. But she says she "loves it when I message her" and that she loves talking to me.

I am finding it hard to explain it.

[ska8er]

Continue to keep messaging her. Maybe
she has a lot of other messages and it takes
some time to answer u. She does answer u
so its not like she is dissing u.

[Plane And Simple]

As I already told you, don't send a message after one she hasn't answered. You will seem desperate unless you do it after like a day. You don't want to be pushy

[Leena_2003]

We were in the habit of talking pretty frequently ie answering quickly. But then she was ill and it says she's online, but then she says she's been asleep, or doing homework. So i dont know if the app we talk on is wrong, or she isnt sleeping and is just ignoring me. But she says she "loves it when I message her" and that she loves talking to me.

I am finding it hard to explain it.

Okay well that's good. She hasn't asked you to stop or something like that. So keep going but don't overdo it. She's not well so maybe cut her some slack. She might be logged into the app but sleeping or doing something else. To me it looks like you must give her the benefit of the doubt.

[Max the Disenchanter]

i wouldnt ask the same question more than once if ignored

[jamie_n5]

I would just keep talking to her and let her know you are there for her and care about her. So it's fine to ask how she is doing every day.

[Nikki_1]

I guess you should let nature take its course and don't try and force things along, if its going to happen it will but you may turn her completely away.