Questions about a future with a girlfriend...

[Darkslidex7]

Well... Today, actually yesterday, was a pretty bad day, school's about to end where I live, and I'm heading off to college in the US, my girlfriend will be either in Japan or Spain, depending on where her scholarships grant her to. So we've been together for nearly 2 years and we're talking that it's best we break up since we will lead different lives... But now I really fell deeply in love with her, and it's very hard to just let go like this. There are many possibilities for us to meet again in a very long time from now, and I wanted to know, if there is a way we can get back together in our adult lives, or do we have to just move on? :(

[BlackParadePixie]

Is it possible you are mistaking you being deeply in love with her...with the fact that you now realize it's almost time for you to part ways? The realization of that of course is going to make you feel that you will miss her and that you don't really want to let her go, even though deep down you know you have to.

Sure, it's possible you could meet again, but like you said...it would be a very long time from now. So I wouldn't dwell on having any sort of future with her...it's only going to cause you to miss opportunities with other relationships...and not just romantic ones.

I think it is best for both of you to go ahead with the break up and move on. Try to stay in touch through email or chat if you can, but don't count on either of you waiting for the other one should your paths cross again someday.

[NewLeafsFan]

The way I look at it is if the two of you are meant to be then at some point it will happen and you will end up together in the future. I think that being in relationship with someone on the other side of the planet only limits your college experiences.

[ska8er]

Well anything can happen from now til
the future but I would think that since
the two of u r going to b separated by
long distance I would say that sooner
or later the two of u will meet other
people and get into relationships. U
still can text or even scype to keep
in touch with each other.

[Just JT]

Not so sure I do use the word break up.
Maybe just accept that you’ll both be far away from each other and is normal to grow apart and meet new people who also make each other happy. Not saying yes or no to anything, but leaving the door open but also not thing yourself down to a very long (potential life long) wait to be together

[jamie_n5]

At this point and especially when you GF said that it would be better to break up I would say that she wants to move on and start a new part in her life. I think it best to end it as friends and go on with your lives. It's not at all unusual for people to have a few relationships before they find the right mate.