Advice?

[Cienno]

SO.... I'm gay.... I think.....anyway, I need some advice on my current situation. Back in 8th grade(he was in seventh), there was this guy I was friends with, but I secretly wanted to be more than friends(I never told him this though). It's hard to describe how I felt/feel about him because I have nothing I can think of to compare it to.(edit: maybe an ache? i guess thats accurate) He was always friendly and really nice, and he said somethings that made my heart hurt(in a good way) I had his phone number but it has changed since then. We traded cellphone numbers on a field trip, but then my parents took my phone for the past 3 years and at the first chance I had to call him, his number had changed,(this was after i went to highschool) HOWEVER!!!, before I left on the last day, he said "Wait for me at (school name)" SIGNALS?????SO fast forward to 9th grade(he was still in the 8th so we didnt see each other) and I thought that I had pretty much moved on and I wasn't expecting to see him again. !10th grade though.... Ran into each other within 10 mins of the school year starting. I remember he said "Hey! Remember me?", but me being a wimp just said "yeah" as I tried not to throw up my guts that were sitting on top of my words. Thanks to our schedules I never saw him during to school year except at pep rallies, but each grade level has a different place to be, and hes on the football team so it wasn't like I could just run up to him. Basically seeing him again brought up these feelings again, plus the added annoyance of a more mature mind. Fast forward to now. I moved... and it turns out that he lives right down the street from me now(literally 5 houses away). My current struggles:

1. WOuld it be weird if I just showed up at his house and was like"HEY!!)
2. IDK if he's gay or not and I'm afraid to ask.(especially with where I live)
3. My school environment isn't accepting(I would've came out a while ago.)
4. IDK how my dad will react.
5. WIth work I never have time(or courage) to go to his house.
6.Our schedules don't allow us to have any of the same classes, and I never see him in the hallway(except for yesterday, but I messed up and sounded like a stalker, I said "I know where you live....:()
Im literally thinking about walking around with my phone number on paper, and when I see him just giving him the paper and running lol

Help?:wub:

[mick01]

I don't see anything wrong with visiting his house to let him know how close you two live to each other and to also catch up some since you haven't really seen him much recently. That would be a good way to see if the friendship is still alive. But I would keep conversations about sexuality out of it for a while. If being gay is not very acceptable where you live or go to school, I'd play that one really safely.

[ska8er]

U don't ask him if he is gay and u don't hand
him ur phone number on a paper and run. If
he lives close then y not go to his house and
say Hi. Its not like u r strangers. Then u can
exchange telephone numbers.

[Just JT]

Seems to me you guys made some kinda connection a long time ago. Would suck if you let that opportunity pass and not act on it.

Show up say hi and see where that goes....don’t think it’ll go badly no matter what level. There’s an attraction and that’s cool, on whatever level

As far as your family and all.....take one thing at a time. You don’t need to explain jack shit to anyone about your sexuality. Let them figure that out for themselves.

You did

[jamie_n5]

I think you need to connect with him and become friends. Then things may fall into place on their own. As far as coming out. That is a decision you alone will have to make. There is no real reason you need to come out publicly. I do think however you owe it to your family to come out to them. I had a very bad and hard coming out with my family. I also live in a fairly non accepting community. People and friends will eventually accept you or not. I have had all positive acceptance so far. You will get through all this and be okay in the end. Just try hook up with this guy you like and go from there.

[ImJulia]

I would say reach out to him.

[SeansLittleBro]

Go reconnect your friendship...do it in person and get to know each other again...i'm sure you both have changed some since you were together b4, but maybe not that much...you seem to have the same feelings as you did and liked him as a friend so don't back off and get to know him...if things move forward then tht is a plus but isn't necessarily is as important as friendship....