Crush on my best friend(girlxgirl)

[Musiclover18]

I have Giant crush on my best friend.I am worried to come out for her,because im scared of her reaction.She thinks that im straight,but im bisexual(kind of,cause i love only her)I have fantasies about us all the time.Once i had a dream about us kissing and making out.Im scared of being seperated with her on other school year.im confused about everything.its that feeling creeping in that its too early too decide on my sexuality(im 14):(:what: by the way shes straight

[mick01]

I think if you want to come out to her because she is your best friend and you want to tell her, that would be ok.
But if you want to tell her because you have a crush on her and want something to happen between you, I think that would be a mistake. You can tell her without expecting anything, and then see what happens over time.

[Elysium]

First of all, it's never "too early to decide on your sexuality." If kids can determine that they're straight, there's no reason they can't determine that they're not straight just as early on.

Anyway. I'm kind of with Mick on this one. My best friend had strong feelings for me too a couple of years ago. She came out to me months before confessing her feelings, which I guess made it less surprising to me. I didn't reciprocate; she eventually got over it and is now dating someone else and we're still as close as ever. The moral of this story is that friendship, especially best friendship, is and should be strong enough that you can't go too wrong either way.

[Leena_2003]

I agree with Mick. First come out so she understands your sexuality. Take things from there and you will be able to work out if it's going to be okay to confess your feelings.

[Just JT]

I agree with all the posters here. It might be to much for her all at once. A little at a time. Come out as being whatever sexuality you feel you wana share, as being your best, and go from there.
I’m sure she’ll have questions for you over time, like who do you like.

[SeansLittleBro]

My bf has been my best friend since we were 10 but we didn't get together until about a year ago -- a little more -- It took me more than 6 years before I felt secure enough to ask him out and I know I lost time, but tbh it was well worth it...He knew I was gay since I came out at 14 and still we were just best friends...I don't know exactly wht happened but I'm glad I pursued more with him...However, with that said...you have to be sure it is more than just a crush...and that it is reciprocal...go slow but remain friends...which is as important as satisfying a crush

[FawksRunner]

I agree with all stated above, I think you should come out to her as friend and someone who will understand you.

[Miss Ophelia]

Might be worth asking about her thoughts on girl/girl relationships.


Or just give her a fun kiss one evening when saying goodnight.

[hesaidhesaid]

My bf has been my best friend since we were 10 but we didn't get together until about a year ago -- a little more -- It took me more than 6 years before I felt secure enough to ask him out and I know I lost time, but tbh it was well worth it...He knew I was gay since I came out at 14 and still we were just best friends...I don't know exactly wht happened but I'm glad I pursued more with him...However, with that said...you have to be sure it is more than just a crush...and that it is reciprocal...go slow but remain friends...which is as important as satisfying a crush

Same experience with me. We were best friends for three years but only got together relatively recently.
Be yourself and don't hesitate to ask - you have nothing to lose. If she really is your best friend, she'll still be friends with you.