Separation

[The Stalwart]

My very best friend moved away recently. I don’t know what to do. I guess I need a gf, lol. Last we were together, we were comparing our happy trails. His is much better. Grief takes many forms.

[Bpalmer02]

Is there any way to keep in touch with your friend over text or social media? Just because he moved away doesn't mean you have to stop talking to him. And I'm sure your happy trails will grow eventually dude :)

[The Stalwart]

Yeah, but social media aren’t the same.

[Bpalmer02]

True, I'm sorry dude that sucks :(. There are plenty of other people out there that want to be your friend though. But it doesn't make loss any easier I guess. It'll take time, but it will get better :)

[The Stalwart]

Well, we’ll chat, obviously. But we’ve been best friends since we were five. We were just comparing trails, and his trail is awesome. It’s dark and goes to his belly button, lol.

[Bpalmer02]

Wow, I'm kinda jealous of that lol, mines kinda light and wispy haha

[bojack]

Have you tried facetiming or any other video chat? I use it to stay in touch with friends who have moved away for college, and it works decently enough

[Princesa77]

Hi @The Stalwart (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/member.php?u=130105)

You might be able to Skype. I have a close friend who uses Skype to maintain her long distance relationship with her boyfriend. Both are in their late 20s/early 30s.

It's a means of keeping the visual as well as emaining if you have her address. Sadly when friends move away it does kind of feel like a bereavement. I used to suffer separation anxiety that linked with abandonment issues, but I am well over that now having become stronger.

As we continue growing in personality and experience, so we learn to deal with ups and downs that sneak in, but there is a tremendous support here in VT so continue being part of this tremendous forum.

-Julie

[NewLeafsFan]

I find what your saying to be very alarming. I think that you have soem things to figure out. In this thread you have mentioned twice that he had a happy trail and that you need a gf. It sounds to me like you plan on repacing him with a gf. It sounds to me like you had some form of sexual feelings for him, which can be normal. Just remember that you lost your friend since you were 5 and try to surround yourself with people that you consider friends. Don't rebound. And yes i mean that in the dating kind of way.

[ska8er]

U have to make a new buddy
to compare with. U seem to b
a cool guy so I don't think that
it would b hard.

[Adarest]

Maybe one day you could visit him when you get older, but try to stay in touch anyway, its quite hard to find close friends with that type of connection. Always be open with each other and you'll keep a strong connection, so do your best but keep the friendship strong!

[SeansLittleBro]

It''s a bit surprising that you wrote this post when you did. This past weekend, an old friend who moved 3 years ago came back to the area and we spent some time together....we did the social media thing a lot at first, then things slowed down....but still stayed in touch...we went through a lot together in elementary and jr. High pretty similar id not more than what you mentioned b4 he moved and it was amazing how easily we got back into that feeling toward each other...It hurts to loose a best friend and I understand where you are....but stay in touch ...good friends can last over distance for sure....

[Just JT]

A few months after my dad died I left where I was living. I left all my friends. 2 in particular I’ve know since I was a baby, and we all grew up together. It was really hard leaving them.

Although there about an hour or so away, it’s far enough, to far, we don’t see each other very often. But we have a few times. And the 3 of us pick up like I never left.

But I still miss the fuck outa them every day. We all keep in touch by texting and all. And that’s good. And after about 21/2 years it’s gotten easier. And I hope well all live closer someday