Where do I take it from here?

[NewLeafsFan]

I've never had a girlfriend and I'd really like to be in a relationship. There is this girl that I know and we have a few things in common. We've known each other for only a couple months. We're not really close but we have shared a few close moments and shared stuff with each other that you don't tell just anyone. And I'm not really sexually attracted to her.

I'm thinking of asking her out. I don't really like her it's just she's available and I wouldn't mind going out on a date and seeing where things go. I'm usually over the fear of rejection but having just moved to university a couple months ago I don't have any close friends and the people I'm closest to are mutual friends that know her better than I do. So I feel like if I got rejected it would be a fairly big deal and i don't want to start any rumours that I really like her and got rejected. What should I do?

[ska8er]

Ask ur friends that r friends with her
to ask her if she would b comfortable
with going out with u. First c what she
says-then if she is interested-u ask her.

[RJH98]

To be honest I think asking someone out while you don't like them isn't a particularly nice thing to do. Especially if the girls has actual feelings for you, you're giving her false hope. Maybe hang out as friends instead?

[Just JT]

To be honest I think asking someone out while you don't like them is a particularly nice thing to do. Especially if the girls has actual feelings for you, you're giving her false hope. Maybe hang out as friends instead?

I think you meant to say it is not a nice thing?

If so I agree. You’ll be leading her to believe something that is not. Now if you begin to have feeling for her that’s different. But if you only like her as a friend keep it that way

Good close friends are hard to come by these days

[RJH98]

I think you meant to say it is not a nice thing?

If so I agree. You’ll be leading her to believe something that is not. Now if you begin to have feeling for her that’s different. But if you only like her as a friend keep it that way

Good close friends are hard to come by these days

haha shit yes that's what I meant lol

[NewLeafsFan]

I think you meant to say it is not a nice thing?

If so I agree. You’ll be leading her to believe something that is not. Now if you begin to have feeling for her that’s different. But if you only like her as a friend keep it that way

Good close friends are hard to come by these days

haha shit yes that's what I meant lol

I just meant that she's a bit more conservative with the way that she acts and dresses compared to girls that I've been interested in in the past. I think I'm gonna go for it though.

[Princesa77]

@NewLeafsFan (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/member.php?u=124809) It would be good to ask her out for a meal, but mention that for the time being you only want friendship and not a relationship. This should put her at ease, as we girls do have feelings that run considerably deeper than guys.

Nurture your friendship and grow together. Is could be possible that as you two progress to grow closer, that she might begin becoming sexually attractive to you. It does happen.

Rejection is hard to take for sure, but from the outset you will be making it clear that are wanting a nice friend, and there is nothing in this to make her feel like saying "No". Ask her what food she enjoys the best, then book a restaurant that is okay with 'smart-casual' and go from there. :)