Do girls want sex?

[NewLeafsFan]

This might sound like a simple question. Most girls on this site admit to masturbating more often than most guys do. Most guys it about 7-10 times per week while its often close to twice that by girls.

Even though that's true, why do girls appear to not want sex? Why do they want to wait longer? Why are guys more likely to want to do it right away? Is this society? Is it true that there is some psychological thing where girls want or need guys to 'earn it'?

Guys can comment too if they have some form of experience with these issues but I'm more interested in the female perspective.

[ChloeF]

Yes we do want sex, we're just not so obvious in letting it show when we're rampantly horny.

[Ashwells9991]

yep we want it to

[rioo]

in my experience most girl want simple sexual activity like hard kissing, hug, touching body. something more bonding. because some girl in school still afraid to doing sex all the way.

[Leena_2003]

Personally, yes, I do want sex. But maybe this sounds a bit old-fashioned or something but I don't want to do it just for the sake of doing it. I want to to it with someone with who I'm in a stable and loving relationship. That hasn't happened yet, so until the time is right for me I will keep on "loving" myself. I am pretty sure boys and girls have much the same desire to have sex, and each person will have his or her own feelings about when and how.

[Barbara.]

Personally, yes, I do want sex. But maybe this sounds a bit old-fashioned or something but I don't want to do it just for the sake of doing it. I want to to it with someone with who I'm in a stable and loving relationship. That hasn't happened yet, so until the time is right for me I will keep on "loving" myself. I am pretty sure boys and girls have much the same desire to have sex, and each person will have his or her own feelings about when and how.

I feel the same way as you, I Couldn't have said it any better.

[Uniquemind]

This might sound like a simple question. Most girls on this site admit to masturbating more often than most guys do. Most guys it about 7-10 times per week while its often close to twice that by girls.

Even though that's true, why do girls appear to not want sex? Why do they want to wait longer? Why are guys more likely to want to do it right away? Is this society? Is it true that there is some psychological thing where girls want or need guys to 'earn it'?

Guys can comment too if they have some form of experience with these issues but I'm more interested in the female perspective.

And the trend of girls being less vocal about it is because of the double-Standard in judgement society foists upon us that causes us to lose friends, or even get I to arguments with our parents if they catch wind.


Medically there's also more consequences for girls than guys, if you don't warm-up right with the foreplay...someone might have to go to the ER. Guys can get aggressive during sex, it can easily turn into rape mid-act, and suddenly the sweet guy you just met who you decided to take a chance with and "put out for him" theoretically....nightmare come true.


So there's just more to consider when your a girl, in regards to putting out and even exploring your own sexuality.

Guys have it a lot simpler, their main worry are, STD's, the experience of having sex and their bedpost notch count, getting a girl pregnant (or running away from that responsibility, and that's really it.

[Sevro au Barca]

Think of it this way: biologically, guys are programmed to have sex with as many girls as possible, to pass on their genes as much as possible. However, women are programmed to try to choose the best mate possible and stick with him. From that, it kind of makes sense that guys would be a lot more likely not to care about anything besides having sex; not that that's necessarily the case, it's just the biological urge.

[Living For Love]

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[MissMolly]

Yes, girl's want sex. But I want it to be with the right guy, rather than with the guy right now.

Sex is as much an emotional activity as it is a purely physical one for me. A guy could have the greatest set of abs or shoulders in the world, but if we don't have an emotional connection, based on mutual love, respect, and understanding then I am not jumping into his arms. I may fantasize about it, but i won't actually do it.

There are also social issues. Slut shaming is still very, very much a thing in society. A girl has got to be mindful of her reputation. A guy can brag about his "conquests" and become president of the United States. A woman has a few relationships, and her credibility is instantly questioned even if raped.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Yes, girl's want sex. But I want it to be with the right guy, rather than with the guy right now.

Sex is as much an emotional activity as it is a purely physical one for me. A guy could have the greatest set of abs or shoulders in the world, but if we don't have an emotional connection, based on mutual love, respect, and understanding then I am not jumping into his arms. I may fantasize about it, but i won't actually do it.

There are also social issues. Slut shaming is still very, very much a thing in society. A girl has got to be mindful of her reputation. A guy can brag about his "conquests" and become president of the United States. A woman has a few relationships, and her credibility is instantly questioned even if raped.

I would totally agree with Molly:yes: And it's good advice that any girl/woman would be wise to take into consideration and most times the girl/woman will come off worst like get pregnant and then get dumped or get a bad reputation bu her boyfriend bragging or even from an EX boyfriend if they were dumped. I have seen it happen too often to girls a school, as well as other friends. Take Care Everyone And Stay Safe. X

[Claire Asteroid]

Yes I do, but I will wait.

[Princesa77]

Not all girls want sex. Some have deep feelings they want to nurture with their boyfriend or girlfriend, and this will always help deepen their relationship. Otherwise, sex can be meaningless other than satisfying each other's lusts.

[teddyxen]

Yeah girls want sex. We're usually just a bit more picky about who we want it with. I personally prefer it to be with someone I genuinely like. I couldn't just have a one night stand after the club lol.

[Brigje]

Yeah girls want sex. We're usually just a bit more picky about who we want it with. I personally prefer it to be with someone I genuinely like. I couldn't just have a one night stand after the club lol.

Yes, this girl likes and wants sex, lots.
But according to what Teddy says.

[Tori123]

And the trend of girls being less vocal about it is because of the double-Standard in judgement society foists upon us that causes us to lose friends, or even get I to arguments with our parents if they catch wind.


Medically there's also more consequences for girls than guys, if you don't warm-up right with the foreplay...someone might have to go to the ER. Guys can get aggressive during sex, it can easily turn into rape mid-act, and suddenly the sweet guy you just met who you decided to take a chance with and "put out for him" theoretically....nightmare come true.


So there's just more to consider when your a girl, in regards to putting out and even exploring your own sexuality.

Guys have it a lot simpler, their main worry are, STD's, the experience of having sex and their bedpost notch count, getting a girl pregnant (or running away from that responsibility, and that's really it.

I also just want to say yes we do want to have sex but i know like id be worried to because lots of things could happen but it will also go around the school fast because guys cant keep their mouths shut about having sex.

[Leena_2003]

I also just want to say yes we do want to have sex but i know like id be worried to because lots of things could happen but it will also go around the school fast because guys cant keep their mouths shut about having sex.

Maybe it's different when you get a little older, or maybe it's different in other places, but I can say in my school when word gets around that a young teen girl (under 16) has had sex, boys think that you are "easy" or "slutty". And the news spread fast. It's just the way it is.

[Stronk Serb]

I can say from my exoeriences that they do want sexual stuff, but not sex per se. Most of the times I had to wait and build something beautiful with a girl before we had sex. The key is in earning her trust and making her feel pretty, loved and cared for when she is with you. That and time. Even though sometimes they might be rampantly horny, they won't want sex but something more bonding like hugs kisses scratching... This is just based off my experience and it can vary. No two persons are the same.

[Triple k]

Maybe it's different when you get a little older, or maybe it's different in other places, but I can say in my school when word gets around that a young teen girl (under 16) has had sex, boys think that you are "easy" or "slutty". And the news spread fast. It's just the way it is.

very true

[Nikki_1]

I think we all want sex but i want to wait for Mr Right :)

[ImJulia]

LOts of girls do they are just not as obvious as guys are

[Lillynet]

Well we want sex that for sure but its not the same as for you guys and it depends in what community or family the girls has been raised into :)

[Beccabear]

I'm fine with being a virgin for now but there are times that I wish I had sex already. but waiting for the right person, and time is more important than just having sex to have it

[ThisGoodBoyX]

LOts of girls do they are just not as obvious as guys are

What do you mean?

Well we want sex that for sure but its not the same as for you guys and it depends in what community or family the girls has been raised into :)

How it is not same?

I'm fine with being a virgin for now but there are times that I wish I had sex already. but waiting for the right person, and time is more important than just having sex to have it

I agree with you

Yes, this girl likes and wants sex, lots.
But according to what Teddy says.

Is there connection between your answer and your signature? can you explain please?

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[ThisGoodBoyX]

Personally, yes, I do want sex. But maybe this sounds a bit old-fashioned or something but I don't want to do it just for the sake of doing it. I want to to it with someone with who I'm in a stable and loving relationship. That hasn't happened yet, so until the time is right for me I will keep on "loving" myself. I am pretty sure boys and girls have much the same desire to have sex, and each person will have his or her own feelings about when and how.

You are not old-fashioned. This is your right to enjoy as you like. I wish best "when" and "how" for you.

[ImJulia]

What do you mean?

Guys are much more obvious about how horny they are.

[ThisGoodBoyX]

Guys are much more obvious about how horny they are.

Oh, you mean girls are horny and want sex, but they hide? I think for girls it is easy to find a boy is how horny from his ... . But for us it is hard to find that you are horny and want sex.

[Brigje]

Guys are much more obvious about how horny they are.

Oh, you mean girls are horny and want sex, but they hide? I think for girls it is easy to find a boy is how horny from his ... . But for us it is hard to find that you are horny and want sex.

True, the choice is ours :lol::metal:

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[ThisGoodBoyX]

True, the choice is ours :lol::metal:

What do you mean the choice is yours? you means choose what?

[Brigje]

What do you mean the choice is yours? you means choose what?

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[ThisGoodBoyX]

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Yes, your power is that. Thank you for image dear Brigje

Another old joke that goes with that picture.
Boy: Well look at what i have.
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[hayley2003]

if a mature girl doesn't want to have sex or doesn't like it, there is likely a good reason. there are lots of girls who have bad things happen to them, and one of those things is being molested by some creepy guy... its not going make a girl in any hurry to hook up with a guy even if she likes him a lot.

not me, but i know a couple of friends who have had bad things happen to them.

[ImJulia]

if a mature girl doesn't want to have sex or doesn't like it, there is likely a good reason. there are lots of girls who have bad things happen to them, and one of those things is being molested by some creepy guy... its not going make a girl in any hurry to hook up with a guy even if she likes him a lot.

not me, but i know a couple of friends who have had bad things happen to them.

I am sorry to hear that. :(

[ThisGoodBoyX]

if a mature girl doesn't want to have sex or doesn't like it, there is likely a good reason. there are lots of girls who have bad things happen to them, and one of those things is being molested by some creepy guy... its not going make a girl in any hurry to hook up with a guy even if she likes him a lot.

not me, but i know a couple of friends who have had bad things happen to them.

molesting is so bad, I try to don't hurt any girl in my sexual life. Girls are human, they have sexual feelings and needs. But they are not sex machine for boys.

I am sorry to hear that. :(

me too

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[FawksRunner]

I think everyone would want to but just waiting for the right person to do it with

[Fritz]

Guys are much more obvious about how horny they are.

Ok ok, Julia, lets talk about this now, we are very respectful about showing how horny we are

[ImJulia]

Ok ok, Julia, lets talk about this now, we are very respectful about showing how horny we are

that is true i never said you guys were disrespectful about it

[vtismineistay]

that is true i never said you guys were disrespectful about it

It is normal that both girls and boys want sex. This is complete normal.

[hayley2003]

I am sorry to hear that. :(

oh i've never been molested, but i know a couple of girls who had some stuff done to them that they didn't like. i don't know much about what happened because they don't want to talk about it. they don't even like talking about sex stuff with friends like normal girls.

[PinkFloyd]

As I'm sure others have said, girls have the same sex drive, or an even higher sex drive, but they aren't flat-out obvious about it most of the time. I have a somewhat close female friend of like half a year who has an insanely high sex drive and tells everyone about it, she even ACTS on it too, which catches everyone off guard.

[vtismineistay]

As I'm sure others have said, girls have the same sex drive, or an even higher sex drive, but they aren't flat-out obvious about it most of the time. I have a somewhat close female friend of like half a year who has an insanely high sex drive and tells everyone about it, she even ACTS on it too, which catches everyone off guard.

I agree complete with you

[Anneki]

I would totally agree with Molly:yes: And it's good advice that any girl/woman would be wise to take into consideration and most times the girl/woman will come off worst like get pregnant and then get dumped or get a bad reputation bu her boyfriend bragging or even from an EX boyfriend if they were dumped. I have seen it happen too often to girls a school, as well as other friends. Take Care Everyone And Stay Safe. X

Then is it different and easier for you lez girls? You don't have to fear being pregnant. Or is it the same as with boys you look for just the right partner?

[Brigje]

Then is it different and easier for you lez girls? You don't have to fear being pregnant. Or is it the same as with boys you look for just the right partner?

Yes in that respect it is easier for girl/girl sex, but the same as with all friendships and relationships finding the right partner is the same.

[hayley2003]

As I'm sure others have said, girls have the same sex drive, or an even higher sex drive, but they aren't flat-out obvious about it most of the time. I have a somewhat close female friend of like half a year who has an insanely high sex drive and tells everyone about it, she even ACTS on it too, which catches everyone off guard.

i know a couple of girls at school that are kinda getting like that. i've known them since the 3rd grade and they are regular girls, but the past couple of years they have changed a lot and they started messing around with boys a lot more.

[Gvanni]

why can't we just all be responsible fuckboys and sluts alike? the world would be so much better

[NewLeafsFan]

why can't we just all be responsible fuckboys and sluts alike? the world would be so much better

You have no idea how much I agree with your statement

[Neha13]

Girls do want sx