lying to friends during masturbation

[Pika2001]

So after school, I was horny, so I started to masturbate. and in the middle of that, my friend called me, I didn't answer the call, but I texted him that I was doing a chore.

We are good friends and are open about this stuff and he knows I masturbate, but I find it weird to just tell him that I'm jerking off at that moment.

Do you do this?

Should I keep saying that I'm doing something else?

Mods, can you move this to puberty for all, since I think it's more appropriate there.

[Sailor Mars]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Puberty for All

I don’t see a reason to tell him your masturbating... I don’t see how either of you could be comfortable in that situation.

[BlackParadePixie]

no reason to just be like, "yeah I was jerking it dude" - just say you were busy.

[Barbara.]

Why does he even have to know?
Not trying to be rude but it's none of his business what your doing privately.

[jamie_n5]

Yeah just say you were unable to talk or text at that time. Your friends will understand.

[ska8er]

Really it none of their business.
U don't have to say anything.

[Pika2001]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Puberty for All

I don’t see a reason to tell him your masturbating... I don’t see how either of you could be comfortable in that situation.
When I said that we are open about this stuff, I really meant that we are comfortable taking about sex and stuff like that, not so much of saying when we jerk off

[Luke10123]

Don't tell

[pjones]

When I said that we are open about this stuff, I really meant that we are comfortable taking about sex and stuff like that, not so much of saying when we jerk off

I think you handled it well. Even a close friend doesn't need to know exactly what you're doing when you tell them you're busy

[zzzzzzzzzz]

I'd only tell the person that if I knew they would be comfy being told that.

[mick01]

I think it depends on your relationship. Obviously, you don't have to share anything you don't want to. But with my friends, we are pretty open and know that everyone masturbates. We make frequent jokes about it. I have said to friends that "I need to rub one out" or "take care of business." They talk about it too. But we are comfortable with the openness. If you're not, don't do it. But if you guys are open about this stuff, I don't see the harm in telling him. I think you guys would get closer. Just a little bit different of an opinion.

[SeansLittleBro]

I agree with most of what has been said, there is no need to come right out and tell your friend you're jerking off...I don't even to my bf, although he may say something like oh so you;re busy getting off huh, and I might joke with him and say yes, but I think you handled it appropriately. Even brothers/bf's don't need to know everything.

[teenboyNathan]

Just tell him you're busy. If you do that, you're technically not lying

[Falcons_11]

I believe that most of us are in agreement about not telling your friends that you were jerking off when he called. It all depends on how close your are to your friends to tell them something that is really personal. You didn't tell your friend a lie. After all, you were doing a chore when your were jerking off. You did the right thing. So don't worry about it.

[Turbofan explosion]

I never done that, but once my friend texted me and said he was wanking. I guess you could say you are vacuuming or whatever that sounds boring that your friend won't ask anything about.

[Hermes]

So this reminds of an occasion when a group of us, girls and boys, were chatting about various different things. At one point, one of the boys announced that he was going to go home for a wank, i.e. to masturbate. That left me wondering why he thought we should know what he would doing when he got home. Was he just really open? Or maybe he was hoping someone would tell him to stay and offer to blow him.

For all that, you know your friend better than us but just saying you're busy actually seems less likely to be misunderstood.

[NoahNoah]

Depends on your relationship I guess. If you think he'd find it awkward, don't tell him. If you don't think he'd find it awkward, go ahead and tell him if you feel like it.

[heymynameis]

Yeah just say you were unable to talk or text at that time. Your friends will understand.

Really it none of their business.
U don't have to say anything.

i agree with these two, either of them is a right approach

[ChloeF]

l dont understand why anyone would even be bothered about it.

[TessTheGreat]

I've never been in that situation but I think I would definitely not tell them what I was doing.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I would not have to lie if was one of my BFFs, as we all do it. if it was anyone else I just not answer the phone.

[Misssmithy]

I think I’ll ask them to come give me a hand we all do it every one gets horny

[kadencole]

Why say anything. "I'm busy, I'll text in a bit" kinda thing. But if I'm in the middle of that I dont stop to text or call haha.

[Curious_Guy]

So after school, I was horny, so I started to masturbate. and in the middle of that, my friend called me, I didn't answer the call, but I texted him that I was doing a chore.

We are good friends and are open about this stuff and he knows I masturbate, but I find it weird to just tell him that I'm jerking off at that moment.

Do you do this?

Should I keep saying that I'm doing something else?

Mods, can you move this to puberty for all, since I think it's more appropriate there.

Well you weren't lying in a sense, you could say masturbating is a chore. And as for me, when my best friend calls and I don't answer I message him back saying I'm jerking off but we do jerk together. But normally we both answer the phone when we call each other even if we're jerking off

[Matthew04]

I would just say I was busy, I wouldn’t tell them I was wanking same if I rang them and they didn’t answere for the same reason.

[Cangirl]

if you and him talk about it and know each other does it and it turns you on that you know he's doing it and vice versa then tell him otherwise just say youre busy and will talk later.

[Zachary G]

even though he may know that you masturbate, its really none of his business to know when you are doing it. IF you tell him that you are doing something, then he should respect that and leave it be, unless you want him to know otherwise.

[Sevro au Barca]

I've been in plenty of similar situations before, and I've gone both ways. It just depends on the friend.

[jonsnowman]

i have done that too, no reason to tell anyone what you are doing at the time, even if you are close friends and talk about that stuff

[Anniebanannie]

I'll play devil's advocate for a minute. What if you did tell him?

[jna1923]

l dont understand why anyone would even be bothered about it.

I think the same. In America, which is basically a country of fundamentalist Christians, they believe masturbation sends you to hell. In Australia (where I'm from) nobody really cares. It's so banal it's not even worth discussing.

[NewLeafsFan]

We all lie in those situations. How would most ppl feel if they called their friend and a little while later they get a text "Sorry, I was too busy MASTURBATING to answer your call!" It just leads to an awkward reaction and conversation.

[Sina-B]

my real friends know that I masturbate and I know it also about my friends

[Ashley16]

Sometimes I just answer the phone without to stop and just slow down masturbating. But I don't feel like I should tell them what I am doing at the moment

[just_that_guy]

I usually don't tell them what I'm doing, and ignore their call/text until after I'm done. Hey, I need my time

[CharlesB]

nah no need to make it awkward "sorry mate was having a wank"

just keep it to im doing chores

[MissMolly]

I don't think I would actually want my friend to tell me she was masturbating in this situation.

[Uniquemind]

So this reminds of an occasion when a group of us, girls and boys, were chatting about various different things. At one point, one of the boys announced that he was going to go home for a wank, i.e. to masturbate. That left me wondering why he thought we should know what he would doing when he got home. Was he just really open? Or maybe he was hoping someone would tell him to stay and offer to blow him.

For all that, you know your friend better than us but just saying you're busy actually seems less likely to be misunderstood.

That stuff is private. Just say "you're busy", or sorry I missed your call. It's not lying but it's also not specific.


But I think some people do just outright say something vulgar like this for the shock value of breaking the social taboo.

However it runs a huge risk of actually being sexual harassment.

Guys don't understand this as much as girls, and it's an issue stemming from the double standard.

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Any dirty talk about what you are doing with your genitals is really in the domain of a conversation topic you'd have with a significant other or other(s) where there is a clear foundation of comfort and naughty intimacy.

I wouldn't even say it's safe to say such things among close friends if that foundation isn't clearly established in black and white between people.

[Vicboy2707]

I’ve never hid it my friends and I are very open if I’m going to do it and we are talking I will just say be back later I’m going to rub one out half the time they end up joining me on FaceTime

[kimmykim]

i dont tell them what i am really doing when that happens

[urcruz]

I would be honest only if you think he would think it’s funny haha

[Beccabear]

my bff knows but I'm not sure if I would tell her right at that moment, I think I would bust out laughing if she told me if I called her

[Cassius16]

I have some friends I joke about masturbation with and some I even wank with

Others I keep things a bit more private

It really depends on your relationship with them!

[Max the Disenchanter]

you should probably describe every vein and wrinkle of your package.

[baseball1]

You don't have to tell his you were...its your business

[OldNewGuy]

I mean, its kinda weird to tell someone i couldnt answer your call bc i was masturbating. I would probably do the same as you did.

[FawksRunner]

Yeah its kinda awkward saying to someone that you re doing "that" during that time

[ChaseDakoda]

I think it depends on your relationship. Obviously, you don't have to share anything you don't want to. But with my friends, we are pretty open and know that everyone masturbates. We make frequent jokes about it. I have said to friends that "I need to rub one out" or "take care of business." They talk about it too. But we are comfortable with the openness. If you're not, don't do it. But if you guys are open about this stuff, I don't see the harm in telling him. I think you guys would get closer. Just a little bit different of an opinion.

That's very well stated, why lye? You decide to tell whoever you want what your doing..

[Nikki_1]

Its up to you what you do in your own time, its your body.

[tsman]

there are some people i would tell the truth but most I would lie lol

[scott2002]

First, does your friend KNOW that you masturbate? (Most guys don't openly admit or discuss that they jerk off, especially that they do it a lot.) Depending on your relationship, you could tell him in ways that, although truthful in your situation, might sound like just a crazy story. (Mods, PLEASE don't get mad about this next part - - I'm just giving a hypothetical example.)
Let's say you told your friend that you couldn't answer the phone cuz your sister was giving you a BJ. I bet he'd just laugh.
Or, if you said to him, "Hey, dude, when I saw it was you calling me, I was in the middle of jackin' off and it felt so good I wasn't gonna stop just to talk to you." (I bet he'd laugh, and think you were probably joking.)

[DanielleIU]

Why interrupt your momentum at all? Just call or text him later and it's probably not an issue.

[TheMagicPotato]

Ha. That actually could have been funny.

-Yo, dude, where you at?.
- I'm fapping, fam, hold on.

[Nnoki]

I do that all the time, they don't have to know

[NZPerson]

Why even be specific, just say you were busy, thats not lying. If he askes specifically you can say but no point adding more infomation than you need to turn the truth into a lie.

[Lukaszislukasz]

None of their business, just tell them your busy, no harm done.

[tsman]

my bff knows but I'm not sure if I would tell her right at that moment, I think I would bust out laughing if she told me if I called her

I'm not sure how I would react if someone did that lol

[RCT109]

So after school, I was horny, so I started to masturbate. and in the middle of that, my friend called me, I didn't answer the call, but I texted him that I was doing a chore.

We are good friends and are open about this stuff and he knows I masturbate, but I find it weird to just tell him that I'm jerking off at that moment.

Do you do this?

Should I keep saying that I'm doing something else?

Mods, can you move this to puberty for all, since I think it's more appropriate there.

just say you're busy and then if u want later in a joking way say hey you got to stop calling when im jerking off it throws off my groove