I don't want to hurt him

[User13]

Hi everyone , I am new here so I don't really know how this works but I really need relationship advice .
Well, for the past two weeks I have been dating a guy from my class and we were friends for more than a year before we started dating. I've never been in love with him but he was in love with me so we started dating . At first few days everything seemed to be right and I thought I was falling in love with him too . But , we made a rule that we shouldn't speak or hang out in school because my ex bff is now his bff and she doesn't let him spend time with me . At first it was anoying me that she is telling him what to do and he listens to her but now I know it is better this way . But the thing is that i stopped to even like him . I know that only two weeks passed but I feel like I hate him and I don't want to spend any more time with him . But he loves me so much and he also knows that I am not in love with him but he doesn't know that i can't stand him anymore . He is a great guy but he's just not for me . He is a year younger than and sometimes he acts childish . I feel so bad for him falling in love with me and I don't know how much more I can lie to him that I love him . I want to break up and at the same time I don't . My feelings are mess and I honestly don't know what I am doing anymore . I don't feel right when I am with him and I also don't want to break up because sometimes he is helping me that much that I could never help myself and he is always here for me and he wants to be with me for real . And it is not just him . I have been dating other boys earlier and I felt the same way . I know I am just 16 years old but I am now starting to feel like I will never be able to fall in love and find the right person for me . I really don't know what to do now so if anybody has some advices I would love to hear them .

[Jinglebottom]

Welcome!

Introductions :arrow: Relationships and Dating

You'll get better advice in this section. Best of luck.

[Uniquemind]

I think this is the emotion of anxiety.

You need to find out where it's coming from, and if deep inside yourself you prefer to be single at this time.

[User13]

I think this is the emotion of anxiety.

You need to find out where it's coming from, and if deep inside yourself you prefer to be single at this time.
Thank you , I 'll try my best

[BlackParadePixie]

you just need to be honest with him and try to end things on good terms. If he already knows you don't feel the same way as he does, it shouldn't be too much of a shock for him if you explain that things just aren't working out between the two of you.

[hayley2003]

i agree, be direct and sincere. i've kinda learned that guys don't understand polite hints like saying "i'm busy" or whatever. they just feel hurt if you don't return their calls or text.

my mom doesn't want me to have a bf, so if a guy starts getting too serious, i tell him that i'm not allowed to have a bf until i'm 35...lol and he can give me a call then, but in the meantime we can be friends... :)

[jamie_n5]

Most people have several relationships before they find the right person. Let him down easy but do break up with him. He will get over it.

[Stronk Serb]

It's nice to see a fellow Serb here.

I suggest you break up with him. It will hurt him less now than later, trust me on that.

[NewLeafsFan]

It sounds to me like you're looking for our permission or approval to break up with this guy. Well, you were developing feelings for him at one point so I think there's something there. I think that you need to have a frank conversation with him and talk about how you felt about him when you were starting to fall for him and what changed that. Give it a few weeks after that and see what happens.

[User13]

Thank you guys a lot , you all really helped me

[sugoiman]

Well its good u realized , but plz think before u confess , now this boy is gonna get really really hurt and he may feel ur just playing around with his life . He may even convince u in vain to keep on loving him. In my opinion watever u do is gonna hurt him but try treating him right if not love him