I like to be abused. What is wrong with me?

[HighStandards]

Being abused are one of my turn-ons. I can't understand why and I know that it's unhealthy. I want to be treated like crap and I like it. I can't stand it when a guy treats me right. This is causing a lot of stress and confusion for me. I don't know what to do.
And I am not speaking anything of BDSM.

[mick01]

I think if there is any way for you to receive counselling or professional help, you should do it. And of course, talk to your parents or someone about how you feel. This could create a really dangerous situation that you could find yourself in.

[ska8er]

In a way u want to b abused cause
u r punishing urself subconsciously
for something.

[jamie_n5]

I think if there is any way for you to receive counselling or professional help, you should do it. And of course, talk to your parents or someone about how you feel. This could create a really dangerous situation that you could find yourself in.

I see this route as the best solution too. You can't go on like you are it's not normal or healthy for you.

[NewLeafsFan]

I'm confused by what you are saying. Do you mean that you get turned on by being treated badly? Or does that just seem to be the kind of guys that you're attracting?

[wolfbuddy]

Being abused are one of my turn-ons. I can't understand why and I know that it's unhealthy. I want to be treated like crap and I like it. I can't stand it when a guy treats me right. This is causing a lot of stress and confusion for me. I don't know what to do.
And I am not speaking anything of BDSM.

I used to have the same sensation until quite a while ago, my reason was that I was used to being bullied and it felt weird to be treated nicely by others, turns out it was just because I wanted attention. I recovered from that because I found a friend who treats me like a brother and loves me deeply.

Everyone has his/her own fetishes, I think this is just a phase for you, probably you'll outgrow such fetishes and become perfectly normal.

[HighStandards]

I'm confused by what you are saying. Do you mean that you get turned on by being treated badly? Or does that just seem to be the kind of guys that you're attracting?

Both.

[Animal3393]

I think you should find a proper counseller to talk to about this, especially if you’re sure it’s not a BDSM thing. It could very easily lead to a situation that’s out of control and that you don’t want to be in.

[ImJulia]

You might want some counselling .

[NewLeafsFan]

Well, you still aren't being specific. There is a huge difference between enjoy being abused during or in a sexual setting but it is another to think "he's a really mean guy, I wish he would tell me I'm not worth it". The one seems somewhat normal even if uncommon and the other seems to be something that could require medical attention.

[Just JT]

I wana ask if abuse like from your past makes this something you desire. It’s not uncommon or unusual tbh
But it does make me wonder
So if ok answering that here might shed some light

[Uniquemind]

Cases like these aren't the norm, but they aren't unheard of.


It's not any one thing either, and sometimes it's a mix of things.


The first piece is your personal temperament and the amount of control you prefer to have in a relationship in relation to your partner.

The second piece is how you've grown up to understand what love and affection are since infancy and early childhood. This is a core piece of why abuse or extreme corporeal punishment in early childhood affects and individual's power dynamics in relationships and in sexual expression even into adulthood. It can leave ripples or echos into the future.

[Nikki_1]

I think that you should tell someone how you feel and probably get some professional help or you may find yourself in a really bad place!!

[Harrier]

I think this is somewhat common in people, most especially girls who have low self esteem. Work on raising your self worth and never ever ever ever let people abuse you or walk over you.