I just wanna talk

[cjwall03]

I’m strait (hopefully) but I make a ton of jokes about me being gay and stuff like that to friends in school, and I don’t really find many guys all that attractive, but I have posted about me having a dream about my strait friend blowing me and I can get off to gay porn, sometimes I just watch and look at gay porn, and my friends write story’s with me in them doing gay things and it’s kinda hot, but I still don’t think I’m gay, but I just wanna talk with some people...

[Justin-16]

Depending on how old you are it could just be hormones flying around making you feel like this. I'm in a similar situation, I don't know if I'm gay but more recently I've found myself looking at some of my hot mates, especially when in the changing rooms at school. Haven't built up the courage to talk to any of them about it yet but kinda wanna experiment with a couple of them

[Just JT]

Sexuality is like a spectrum. A wide range of endless possibilities. And just like everything else about everyone else, there are no two people who are the same. That includes sexuality.

That being said, I’ve said before that everyone assumes we’re straight until we come out as whatever orientation. Reality is people should make no assumptions about anyone’s sexuality. Period. If they want you to know they’ll let you know, for whatever reason

Don’t be afraid of your sexual desires or what you think you feel. It’s a part of life and growing up. Kinda like trying a new flavor of ice cream. You never know if you’ll like it till you taste it. And if you like it then you do. And if you don’t then you don’t. And move on with your life. But if you never take that first taste you’ll never know, and you’ll possibly regret it forever

Don’t let anyone make you feel this way or that way cause of how you feel about this sexuality or that sexuality. Experimenting is a part of growing up. More kids do this than care to admit it, for whatever reason. Just be careful who you choose to do something with, if you do.

[ska8er]

No matter what u consider u r
I would not make jokes about
urself to others. I understand
what u r going through but to
joke u r gay to others gives the
impression that u find it bad.

[bojack]

Like others have said, it could be hormones. When I was a few years younger I was definitely in the same place as you. Hell, even now I'm still not sure of my sexuality. So honestly the only advice I have is for you to just sit with it, and hope that it will eventually make sense

[cjwall03]

Thanks guys!

[pauly]

I'm glad you posted here. It must have taken courage to do it. And you've had some very sensible answers too.
The important thing is not to worry whether you're straight, gay, bi or curious. You're just you. And you'll change as time goes on. So don't worry about your thoughts. Everything will work out alright in the end.

[jamie_n5]

I think you are just curious about things and even if a friend and you gave each other bj's it's still basically experimenting. If you don't know your sexuality yet you will find yourself eventually. You can't become a sexuality you are born with one. Continue to have fun with your friends and you will find yourself some day and be fine. Just be happy.

[Angelrow]

Have to agree with Jamie. I have had oral with a friend and don’t consider myself gay it was on a sleep over and we did it to see how it felt. Good lol. It was a couple of years ago but we have played around since. Still don’t think am gay just like getting off

[mick01]

Hey Colin, you're only 14. You have plenty of time to figure yourself out. You say you keep praying that you're not gay. If I were you, I'd be praying that you can accept yourself no matter what your sexuality turns out to be. That's more important than praying that your sexuality turns out to be straight.

[Just JT]

Hey Colin, you're only 14. You have plenty of time to figure yourself out. You say you keep praying that you're not gay. If I were you, I'd be praying that you can accept yourself no matter what your sexuality turns out to be. That's more important than praying that your sexuality turns out to be straight.

This is so true. Just imagine not wanting to be the sexual orientation you are, so much, you live a life of the orientation you wish you were. Living a lie, not meeting or being with your soulmate and spend your life with someone you don’t really love in that way

I can’t imagine how unfulfilling that would make me feel. How empty I would feel.

Please just accept you for you and live your life in a way that makes you happy. Pray for inner peace, and acceptance of yourself.

[mick01]

This is so true. Just imagine not wanting to be the sexual orientation you are, so much, you live a life of the orientation you wish you were. Living a lie, not meeting or being with your soulmate and spend your life with someone you don’t really love in that way

I can’t imagine how unfulfilling that would make me feel. How empty I would feel.

Please just accept you for you and live your life in a way that makes you happy. Pray for inner peace, and acceptance of yourself.

Said a lot better than I could have.

[SeansLittleBro]

Sexuality is like a spectrum. A wide range of endless possibilities. And just like everything else about everyone else, there are no two people who are the same. That includes sexuality.

That being said, I’ve said before that everyone assumes we’re straight until we come out as whatever orientation. Reality is people should make no assumptions about anyone’s sexuality. Period. If they want you to know they’ll let you know, for whatever reason

Don’t be afraid of your sexual desires or what you think you feel. It’s a part of life and growing up. Kinda like trying a new flavor of ice cream. You never know if you’ll like it till you taste it. And if you like it then you do. And if you don’t then you don’t. And move on with your life. But if you never take that first taste you’ll never know, and you’ll possibly regret it forever

Don’t let anyone make you feel this way or that way cause of how you feel about this sexuality or that sexuality. Experimenting is a part of growing up. More kids do this than care to admit it, for whatever reason. Just be careful who you choose to do something with, if you do.

Hey Colin, you're only 14. You have plenty of time to figure yourself out. You say you keep praying that you're not gay. If I were you, I'd be praying that you can accept yourself no matter what your sexuality turns out to be. That's more important than praying that your sexuality turns out to be straight.


This is so true. Just imagine not wanting to be the sexual orientation you are, so much, you live a life of the orientation you wish you were. Living a lie, not meeting or being with your soulmate and spend your life with someone you don’t really love in that way

I can’t imagine how unfulfilling that would make me feel. How empty I would feel.

Please just accept you for you and live your life in a way that makes you happy. Pray for inner peace, and acceptance of yourself.


I always have so much to say but JT and Mick seem to give the same advice I would write so can't really improve on it......But as they said don't miss opportunities that come along and don't stress about any "label"...you may regret it as you get older.....Have an uncle that is gay but lived the "str8" life, married for 27 years because that was what was expected of him and realized he had to be himself.... Experience all you can in the next few years so you won't have regrets or be unhappy later in life....