#MeToo

[Anniebanannie]

A question for both girls and boys -- Have you been sexually harassed?

Tell your story here.

For me, it has been boys who don't understand that no means no. Maybe they thought that I eventually would say yes. But I didn't.

[Microcosm]

I have never been sexually harassed. I am lucky. It must be a very hard thing to experience... Being put down like that. Those boys didn't understand the consequences of their actions.

However, that is why we have law enforcement. I hope you're doing well recovering from that bad experience, but to all who experience sexual harassment, do not be afraid to contact the police. The offender deserves punishment for causing you to suffer for their own gain. If the police will not do anything, just know that everyone who harasses others will suffer punishment for their actions in one way or another.

[Just JT]

Its been a while since I spoke openly about this here. Maybe itll do someone some good if I do a bit again

Yeah, me to, was a lot more than harassment. Not sure it sounds appropriate to tell my “story” here but I’ll leave it that the statistics seem correct in my case that the offender(s) are most likely to be known, or close trusting family members.

All I can say to others in the same shoes is you aren’t alone, and talk about it. Therapy comes in many forms, and don’t let them get away with it. If you do, they WILl keep,doing it to you, or someone else.

Be brave, not embarrassed by it. Doesn’t mean jack shit about sexuality. Stand up for your rights and put a stop to this awful form of violence

[Anniebanannie]

It sounds been a while since I spoke openly about this here. Maybe itll do someone some good if I do a bit again

Yeah, me to, was a lot more than harassment. Not sure it sounds appropriate to tell my “story” here but I’ll leave it that the statistics seem correct in my case that the offender(s) are most likely to be known, or close trusting family members.

I think it IS appropriate for you to say whatever you want to.

[MissMolly]

There was a boy who would constantly want to grab my butt when I was in ninth grade.

Luckily, we eventually moved away and I will never see him again.

[Dalcourt]

I was sexually abused first as a kid age 6-7 by a family member of the foster family I lived at.

Later in my teens I was repeatedly sexually harrassed and even rape just due to the fact that other males felt that since I was openly gay I wanted to have sex with any guy.

I was always an easy victim with now stable family to back me up and from a social background where it always was highly unlikely that I would go to the police and they believe me and take action.

[KatieKat]

Yes, use to get it a lot on the way to school before I started secondary (high school?) school. Used to get the bus and older guys would always 'happen' to sit next to me so they could 'casually' rub against my leg or against my chest, even before I hit puberty. Nothing else happened, but it still always weirded me out. Glad I don't have to get that bus. Still get catcalled on the way to school though.

[Anniebanannie]

Yes, use to get it a lot on the way to school before I started secondary (high school?) school. Used to get the bus and older guys would always 'happen' to sit next to me so they could 'casually' rub against my leg or against my chest, even before I hit puberty. Nothing else happened, but it still always weirded me out. Glad I don't have to get that bus. Still get catcalled on the way to school though.


That's terrible :(

[Cangirl]

A question for both girls and boys -- Have you been sexually harassed?

Tell your story here.

For me, it has been boys who don't understand that no means no. Maybe they thought that I eventually would say yes. But I didn't.

I think what with some boys they dont get it that no means no or stop means stop and doest meant do or try something else.

[Harrier]

I think it is true when they say that harassment/rape is more about power than sex. I have been groped by girls without my permission, but never felt harassed or assaulted. because i never felt that they had power over me.

[Just JT]

I think it is true when they say that harassment/rape is more about power than sex. I have been groped by girls without my permission, but never felt harassed or assaulted. because i never felt that they had power over me.

It’s true. And it’s not always about how you feel, but it can. If they feel they have the power then they can satisfy their need they are striving for. That’s why it’s really good to not let them do that, unless you welcome it, but that’s different

[Mousey]

Ah i was sexually assaulted by my grandfather 2 years ago hes not allowed to see me or my siblings anymore so thats good ^^

[Max the Disenchanter]

Some random girl slapped me on my ass as in the hallway and she said, "nice". lol

[Just JT]

Some random girl slapped me on my ass as in the hallway and she said, "nice". lol

You find this funny?
Not trying to sound rude here but you might like what was done to you or find it funny. But there are many people (and other posters before you) who don’t and is a real life issue for themselves.
Sure if it was a friend doing something as a joke or something like that is one thing
But we’re talking about people who’ve had stuff done to them they didn’t welcome.
Not a laughing matter bro....

[sophielicious]

Yes, use to get it a lot on the way to school before I started secondary (high school?) school. Used to get the bus and older guys would always 'happen' to sit next to me so they could 'casually' rub against my leg or against my chest, even before I hit puberty. Nothing else happened, but it still always weirded me out. Glad I don't have to get that bus. Still get catcalled on the way to school though.

Same here but luckily I can walk most days, but yeah these guys always stare and some make comments

[Triple k]

Luckily the things that have happened to me were nothing more then "inappropriate" compared to what a lot of other people go through. Guys have brushed up against me and "accidently" touched my boobs and butt, I get my bra strap "snapped", and boys are always looking up my skirt.

[Max the Disenchanter]

You find this funny?
Not trying to sound rude here but you might like what was done to you or find it funny. But there are many people (and other posters before you) who don’t and is a real life issue for themselves.
Sure if it was a friend doing something as a joke or something like that is one thing
But we’re talking about people who’ve had stuff done to them they didn’t welcome.
Not a laughing matter bro....

chill bruh

[Tori123]

A question for both girls and boys -- Have you been sexually harassed?

Tell your story here.

For me, it has been boys who don't understand that no means no. Maybe they thought that I eventually would say yes. But I didn't.

Well idk if this is harassment or not but their was a guy i was dating and he kept on grabbing me and i would tell him not now but he would just keep doing it.

[rioo]

I was in junior high and inside public bus to get home. This guy touching rub my leg and saying something that I do not understand. Possibly drunk but I dont smell any. But he immediately jumping out when the bus stop in traffic jam before next stop. weird.

[Tori123]

is it?

yes it is because people have the guts to tell their story about being harassed and your being a dick.Im sorry for being rude but you should not be saying stuff like that.

[Stronk Serb]

Abused, no, but you can classify it as harassment. I was at a party and some drunk gay dude grabbed/slapped my bum. I told him to cut it out and that I am not into men. He apologized, called me to the bar and bought me a drink as an apology. I do not feel traumatized in any way but I found it degrading, just like slapping a girl you don't know on the bum for no reason.

Someone would have felt harassed and/or abused. It's all a matter of how it happened and no two cases can be judged the same.

[TessTheGreat]

I haven't ever been abused but I get comments from boys on the bus so I always try to go to school with other girls.

[ImJulia]

I have not but I know a number of people who have. It is a terrible thing.

[jonsnowman]

when i was younger, a babysitter used to touch me

[Just JT]

when i was younger, a babysitter used to touch me

Sucks when older people that are supposed to be trusting violates that trust isn’t it?

[jonsnowman]

Sucks when older people that are supposed to be trusting violates that trust isn’t it?

yes, it does

[Bhannon]

*grabbed in the crotch by a girl in gym* * tells coach* *coach calls me a fag* I really didn't care, but it still happened.

[ImJulia]

I never have but there are people close to me who have.

[PinkFloyd]

I have been. I was raped, but by a girl. I was at a party and knew her somewhat well. I didn't outright say no, but my body language and the fact I was struggling against her said it.

[HardCandyGirl]

A question for both girls and boys -- Have you been sexually harassed?


Me too... :cry2:

By an older cousin, later by my stepmom. I was too young, actually I was a child.

[NeonBlueButterfly]

The one semester that I spent in show choir, the guy I was supposed to dance with as part of the performance kept "accidentally" brushing his hand against my chest in rehearsal. The teacher at the time thought I was making too big a deal out of it, so nothing happened. Naturally, I'm not in show choir anymore.

[Anniebanannie]

Me too... :cry2:

By an older cousin, later by my stepmom. I was too young, actually I was a child.

That's a terrible thing to happen to you. :(

[KevinT]

Luckily the things that have happened to me were nothing more then "inappropriate" compared to what a lot of other people go through. Guys have brushed up against me and "accidently" touched my boobs and butt, I get my bra strap "snapped", and boys are always looking up my skirt.

Yeah there's a lot of bra snapping going on at school, as soon as a gal starts having boobs, some guys go crazy. I just look...maybe too long sometimes lol

[CuteGuy889]

I've been groped a few times in public transport, just feeling my butt, pinching, lifting my tee and feeling my tummy etc.....Twice a man opened my pant fly and felt my undies in a crowded tube.
Another time when I fell asleep in a bus I woke up to find my belt and pants undone.
In school twice a bunch of older, bigger GIRLS dragged me to a corner and pulled my pants down forcibly...they did not feel me.

I did not tell these to anyone as they are embarrasing.

[Tim the Enchanter]

A day at school wouldn't be complete without:
- having my bra strap pulled and snapped.
- having some one "accidentally" grab a boob.
- having some one "accidentallt" grab my butt.
- hearing in detail how they would like to use me.

On really special days I'll get upskirted or the trump tribute pussy grab. I've had panties that accidentally showed and had them pulled up painfully high. Trapped in a stairwell and groped.

This doesn't even scratch the surface of the staring. Some times I check myself in a mirror to make sure I'm not putting on some kind of show I'm not aware of.

Thats school. At home I'm not allowed to lock my door but I do ALL.THE.TIME. I'm pretty sure my step dad and step brother have a bet over whos going to have me first.

The problem is I like sex and I like attention but I want it on MY terms. If I wasn't already terminally horny I would probably hate guys and be a asexual hermit.

Whoa you should tell someone about this. And you have sex with your step dad and step brother?

[abcdeqwe]

I mean there was this guy that was really forceful about me sending nudes even though I didn’t want to. Technically, I never said no or that I didn’t want to so idk if that counts

[Oscar-V3.0]

I haven't been exactly harrassed nor raped, but there was that girl who insisted to go out with me and who kept trying to kiss me #CrazyGirl #WhatisNotClearWhenISayNo :/

[Naturelover]

I got once by a boy from my class a pat on my butt. He immediately received a slap in his face from me

[Connordude]

We totally support our girls etc
If a guy treats our friends badly then we make sure he knows it’s not cool
Same with that “locker room talk” BS, we shut it down

[Bobby_12]

I got once by a boy from my class a pat on my butt. He immediately received a slap in his face from me

Good he got what he deserved

[EvaNL]

If anyone tries something physical on me that I don't want, I let them know immediately by slapping or punching them HARD and embarrassing them in front of their friends and family.
People have tried and regret it ever since.
As for online harassment, I will simply ignore, block and/or report them.

[Zika]

*grabbed in the crotch by a girl in gym* * tells coach* *coach calls me a fag* I really didn't care, but it still happened.

was the coach male or female?

[Zika]

I mean there was this guy that was really forceful about me sending nudes even though I didn’t want to. Technically, I never said no or that I didn’t want to so idk if that counts

No, that doesn't count at all.

[Karalectric]

Yeah, i have also had experiences of boys "accidentally" bumping me in innappropriate places. Also my bestie and i would do some early morning jogging back in the summer and ocasionally get "cat calls" or simply feeling eyes on me. So uncomfortable!!!

[Katie2003]

I've had several boys and men shout at me while I was walking or riding my bike wearing shorts in the summer. Apparently they want to do things with fat girls........although some just say I have a nice butt.

Also had boys at school touch or smack my butt in the hallway, or while standing at my locker. I couldn't begin to count the inappropriate comments both boys and girls have made to me at school. I am already well aware that I'm a big girl, and I can say I'm fat in a joking manner, but I don't need the rest of you telling me that all the time!!!!!!

Unfortunately, all of this seems to come with being a girl. All of my friends tell me the same sorts of things happen to them all the time.

[Karalectric]

I've had several boys and men shout at me while I was walking or riding my bike wearing shorts in the summer. Apparently they want to do things with fat girls........although some just say I have a nice butt.

Also had boys at school touch or smack my butt in the hallway, or while standing at my locker. I couldn't begin to count the inappropriate comments both boys and girls have made to me at school. I am already well aware that I'm a big girl, and I can say I'm fat in a joking manner, but I don't need the rest of you telling me that all the time!!!!!!

Unfortunately, all of this seems to come with being a girl. All of my friends tell me the same sorts of things happen to them all the time.

For sure!! Commenting on bodies is never appropriate! Unless asked for. Unfortunately if we complain to someone, its just "boys will be boys". :what:

[Zika]

Unfortunately, all of this seems to come with being a girl.

I can tell you for sure this is untrue. Boys bully overweight boys all the time. And it's often much more than verbal.

[Kazuki-San]

Haven't experienced it, thank goodness. But I did see it happen to a few girls at our school. Luckily I was there and stopped it before anything could happen. It's unimaginable that people would do this, just know that they don't represent everyone and there is always much better people out there.

[Pultost]

I've only experienced direct harassment once, at the school I attended before the one I go to now. There was a boy who went "fishing" under my skirt. I gave him an ugly look, and he kept his hands to himself from then on. That's also one of the reasons why I always pick jeans or other trousers over skirts any day I can.

[arnorway]

reading some of these postings makes me sick. sorry you had to go through it

[Karalectric]

I've only experienced direct harassment once, at the school I attended before the one I go to now. There was a boy who went "fishing" under my skirt. I gave him an ugly look, and he kept his hands to himself from then on. That's also one of the reasons why I always pick jeans or other trousers over skirts any day I can.

Hey i doubt ANYONE will harass you now considering you got a teacher removed!!? #dontmesswithanita

[Pultost]

Hey i doubt ANYONE will harass you now considering you got a teacher removed!!? #dontmesswithanita

They're probably reconsider a few times first, at least. ;)

[Karalectric]

I can tell you for sure this is untrue. Boys bully overweight boys all the time. And it's often much more than verbal.

I could be wrong but i read it as Katie2003 was talking more about the sexual harrassment part of that then the comments about being overweight?

[Zika]

For sure!! Commenting on bodies is never appropriate! Unless asked for. Unfortunately if we complain to someone, its just "boys will be boys". :what:

Have you really had an adult authority person say 'boys will be boys' when you complained about a comment a boy made?

I heard that was an excuse used two generations ago. I've never heard it used. Quite the opposite, staff at school are very sensitive to any complaint a girl has.

Maybe it's location.

[Karalectric]

Have you really had an adult authority person say 'boys will be boys' when you complained about a comment a boy made?

I heard that was an excuse used two generations ago. I've never heard it used. Quite the opposite, staff at school are very sensitive to any complaint a girl has.

Maybe it's location.

No nobody actually used those exact words. You are right. Maybe that wasn't the attitude. I did feel listened to, but it just felt like nothing really changed, ya know? So I am not sure they handled it correctly.

[Zika]

No nobody actually used those exact words. You are right. Maybe that wasn't the attitude. I did feel listened to, but it just felt like nothing really changed, ya know? So I am not sure they handled it correctly.

what happened that you brought to their attention and what did they do about it? did it happen again?

[Karalectric]

what happened that you brought to their attention and what did they do about it? did it happen again?

A boy "accidentally" touching my butt. After i told someone they said they would handle it. Then later he did it again and i just ignored it and didn't tell anyone. I guess i should have. But that was jr high and so far in high school that has not happened, so that is good. That boy is at another school now. Also good!!

[Zika]

A boy "accidentally" touching my butt. After i told someone they said they would handle it. Then later he did it again and i just ignored it and didn't tell anyone. I guess i should have. But that was jr high and so far in high school that has not happened, so that is good. That boy is at another school now. Also good!!

I don't know how much later the second one was, but usually if a person gets away with something, they continue doing it. So if he stopped, maybe someone talked to him about it, but it was after the second time.

Who did you tell?

[Karalectric]

I don't know how much later the second one was, but usually if a person gets away with something, they continue doing it. So if he stopped, maybe someone talked to him about it, but it was after the second time.

Who did you tell?

Maybe??? It was... a week later?

I told a teacher.

[Zika]

Maybe??? It was... a week later?

I told a teacher.

Sounds like the problem was taken care of.

[KatieCO2003]

One of my parents used me as bait in her schemes to blackmail pedophiles. The last one was a multi-millionaire. "Her" was so determined to get the guy's money that she planned to help him rape me for Christmas. She pressured me for weeks to go along with it and started starving me when I wouldn't. Things got super-ugly and one night during an arguement, she pushed me backards over a coffee table. Then she beat and kicked me until I was unconcious, baracaded me in a bathroom, and left me for dead. I was eventually rescued and was in the hospital for a long time. I'm still sorta in recovery, but "her" is in jail and I live with my Daddy now and he's a very warm and loving person.

[Zika]

One of my parents used me as bait in her schemes to blackmail pedophiles. The last one was a multi-millionaire. "Her" was so determined to get the guy's money that she planned to help him rape me for Christmas. She pressured me for weeks to go along with it and started starving me when I wouldn't. Things got super-ugly and one night during an arguement, she pushed me backards over a coffee table. Then she beat and kicked me until I was unconcious, baracaded me in a bathroom, and left me for dead. I was eventually rescued and was in the hospital for a long time. I'm still sorta in recovery, but "her" is in jail and I live with my Daddy now and he's a very warm and loving person.

What happened to you is outrageous and far from sexual harassment. I'm glad you're safe and things are looking up for you. Having a stable living environment is so important for recovery.

I wish you all the best.

[Kazuki-San]

Hey Naturelover. Yeah, there aren't really any of those incidents anymore. Usually that only happens on a rare occasion but you are right about it being more uncomfortable I think. Replying to message

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[Ace.]

I know a girl in our class who always gets weird stares, cat calls and iirc someone harrased her. Me and my friends just basically taught her self defense then and makes sure she's safe everytime we have to go somewhere (projects etc.)

[andrea03]

Did this really happen to you?

[Maxbreak]

One of my parents used me as bait in her schemes to blackmail pedophiles. The last one was a multi-millionaire. "Her" was so determined to get the guy's money that she planned to help him rape me for Christmas. She pressured me for weeks to go along with it and started starving me when I wouldn't. Things got super-ugly and one night during an arguement, she pushed me backards over a coffee table. Then she beat and kicked me until I was unconcious, baracaded me in a bathroom, and left me for dead. I was eventually rescued and was in the hospital for a long time. I'm still sorta in recovery, but "her" is in jail and I live with my Daddy now and he's a very warm and loving person.

Oh my. That's terrible. I hope you have managed to put this behind you. And it's good that your dad cares so much

[Sailor Mars]

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