Showering with same sex if you are gay/lesbian/bi

[Harrier]

Since I am straight I was curious what it's like to shower (or even just change clothes in front of) same sex people. I have asked some people and get differing answers (not too surprising since everyone is different). I just wanted a bigger pool of people to answer.

1. Your sex
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual?
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual?
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience?
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it?
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you?
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not?
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference?

[SethfromMI]

1. Your sex: Male

2. Are you homosexual or bisexual? Bisexual[/COLOR]

3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual? [COLOR="White"]Some/a lot did, maybe the majority/ all knew

4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience? Honestly, I always viewed it as a place to change and get cleaned so I don't have to stink afterwards. Yes, I saw some guys I found attractive. But I always did my very best to not think about it in a sexual manner. Because it wasn't. They were there for the same purpose I was. Yes I would talk to people and they would talk to me. I saw them, they saw me. I didn't act any differently and so I had no negative experience. It was just a place to get clean and dressed and it still is when I find myself in that situation.

5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it? Yea I have, but I think almost all guys have. So it wasn't a big deal. I guess I thought maybe once or twice, esp when younger, if someone would say something, but no one ever did. I never made a big deal about it and kept going about what I was there for.

6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you? I was lucky to never experience that. I might have had one or two people over the years but I turned the tables pretty quick on them. People who knew I was bi knew I wasn't there to just stare at them, I was there for the same reason as they were. I acted the same around them as when they were fully clothed and if anyone had any doubts at first, they quickly realized I wasn't there to try to stare or do anything, but like I said, I was there for the same reason they were.

7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not? haha I have def seen some people I found attractive changing in their underwear or naked over the period of time. I guess to some degree I would be lying if I said I did not enjoy it at all but I have always tried to be as normal as possible and go about doing what I needed to do. As I said yea I would talk to people like I normally would outside of the locker room. I didn't do it to stare or look, I did it because that is how I normally was. So even when I did see someone I thought looked cute or hot, I kept it to myself and kept going. Not to say I never thought about them again, but as I have mentioned, I tried my best to not view that environment in any way sexual and I still try to never view it in that way.

8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? ]I understand why people would want privacy, but a lot of times it can be easier to just have the open room ,esp at school. It is not like they should so other people can see them to anything. Everyone is there for the same purpose. To get clean and get dressed. That's it. Sure it is nice when you can have privacy and if it works out that way great. I think showering with people can help sometimes get over modesty issues (I know it doesn't for everyone). So again, I think it is more important everyone tries to get clean after they been sweating. You don't want to smell all day after and other people don't want to smell you. It doesn't matter if it is open showers/changing room or private.[/B]

[benster]

1. Your sex: Male

2. Are you homosexual or bisexual? Bisexual

3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual? Some/a lot did, maybe the majority/ all knew

4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience?Honestly, I always viewed it as a place to change and get cleaned so I don't have to stink afterwards. Yes, I saw some guys I found attractive. But I always did my very best to not think about it in a sexual manner. Because it wasn't. They were there for the same purpose I was. Yes I would talk to people and they would talk to me. I saw them, they saw me. I didn't act any differently and so I had no negative experience. It was just a place to get clean and dressed and it still is when I find myself in that situation.

5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it? Yea I have, but I think almost all guys have. So it wasn't a big deal. I guess I thought maybe once or twice, esp when younger, if someone would say something, but no one ever did. I never made a big deal about it and kept going about what I was there for.

6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you? I was lucky to never experience that. I might have had one or two people over the years but I turned the tables pretty quick on them. People who knew I was bi knew I wasn't there to just stare at them, I was there for the same reason as they were. I acted the same around them as when they were fully clothed and if anyone had any doubts at first, they quickly realized I wasn't there to try to stare or do anything, but like I said, I was there for the same reason they were.

7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not? haha I have def seen some people I found attractive changing in their underwear or naked over the period of time. I guess to some degree I would be lying if I said I did not enjoy it at all but I have always tried to be as normal as possible and go about doing what I needed to do. As I said yea I would talk to people like I normally would outside of the locker room. I didn't do it to stare or look, I did it because that is how I normally was. So even when I did see someone I thought looked cute or hot, I kept it to myself and kept going. Not to say I never thought about them again, but as I have mentioned, I tried my best to not view that environment in any way sexual and I still try to never view it in that way.

8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? I understand why people would want privacy, but a lot of times it can be easier to just have the open room ,esp at school. It is not like they should so other people can see them to anything. Everyone is there for the same purpose. To get clean and get dressed. That's it. Sure it is nice when you can have privacy and if it works out that way great. I think showering with people can help sometimes get over modesty issues (I know it doesn't for everyone). So again, I think it is more important everyone tries to get clean after they been sweating. You don't want to smell all day after and other people don't want to smell you. It doesn't matter if it is open showers/changing room or private.

Is it my phone or is yellow impossible to read for everyone 😞

[pjones]

1. Your sex, male
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual? bi
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual? very few people at school know, we're still not as accepting here as we should be.
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience? For me it's about taking a shower before my next class tho I do look around discretely
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it? When I was younger I got hard sometimes but so did other boys
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you? No but probably because I'm not officially out at school.
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not? There were some boys I had an interest in so when we wound up in the same PE class i liked that I got to see them naked.
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? For me it doesn't matter, I have never been ashamed or concerned about being naked with my peers when the situation is appropriate. I'd rather deal with a few minutes of possible embarrassment than to spend the rest of the day smelling.

[Nnoki]

I have only been in locker rooms in a camp 2 years ago, so this is from that time
1. Your sex
Male
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual?
Bisexual
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual?
No
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience?
I didn't like it, even when we had some stalls where people shy (like me) changed
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it?
I am the kind of guy to pop a boner every 5 minutes, I can't imagine it in front of everyone, naked
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you?
No, as i was in the stall there wasn't any problem
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not?
I had a crush in that camp, and the closest i was to see him naked was walking out of my stall and him still changing, it happened more than one time and everytime I got a boner
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference?
I think both, so people like me (shy) have their privacy while others who are ok with it do it in front of everyone

[SeansLittleBro]

1. Your sex Male
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual? Gay
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual?I have been out since I was a freshman so yes most of my peers know that I'm gay.
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience? At the beginning I got some comments and looks of unapproval but that has stopped long ago. Most are accepting of me and have no problems with me in with them a we mostly use the shower for that -- to shower adn get clean b4 we go to class or go home.
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it? What guy hasn't at one time or another. I did when I was younger more than I do now but also most of the guys I have seen hard at sometime over the years.
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you? As I said at first some were standpoffish but never got any blatant teasing or bullying. Where I live it isn't as difficult being gay as it is wher Pjones lives.
The midwest seems more tolerant about differences.
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not? I've showered with guys I find attractive many times. I also happen to be in PE and on a team with m y current boyfriend so seeing each other is nothing new at all.
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? Since the showers are meant for getting clean I don' think that should be a concern. Maybe privacy for girls is more of an issue, but I don't know. We are all guys and all have the same physical equipment and as long as no one makes any move toward another and we get our job done than there should be no problem.

[mcdaniels]

1. Your sex- Male
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual?- Bisexual
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual?- Nope
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience?- I like being naked and seeing others naked
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it? Yeah but i kinda got used to it
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you?- no
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not?I tried with a crush and i go a boner so i stood facing the corner so i dont think anyone noticed
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? - I think we should change together

[SethfromMI]

Is it my phone or is yellow impossible to read for everyone 😞

maybe its your phone but I changed it to white

[rvale22]

1. Your sex?
-Male

2. Are you homosexual or bisexual?
-Straight curious

3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual?
-Ive never showered with my classmates but ive showered with boys and men at the gym

4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience?
-Its alright i dont really care but i did something once that was a bit awkward.(if anyone wants to know, feel free to PM me.)

5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it?
- I have and i act like i dont have it. its not a full boner either

6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you?
-No nobody cares

7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not?
- I once saw a a lifeguard who was attractive, i tried to to really look over and it was ok. he changed and left. i went home after that and had the best 5 minutes in a while after that if you know what i mean ;)

8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference?
-No, people need to loosen up because its the Human body! the Greeks were perfectly okay with nudity, i dont know were our discretness comes from!

[Just JT]

1. Your sex: male
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual?: gay, I think, maybe bi
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual?: yes
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience?:
Personally, I enjoy it. I feel it’s like a bonding thing, think it made me feel closer to the guys I was with, maybe cause we were all feeling just as vulnerable, but then just got past that?
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it?:
We all have, pretty normal and common.
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you?:
To me? Not to my face, and if they did I’m pretty sure there’d be a stop to that pretty fast. Probably behind my back, people talk. But I have seen it happen, and that sucks. Usually a younger smaller kid getting it from someone older just being an asshole. And I step in and help the kid out and do what I can to stop it.
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not?
Several times, in the lockeroom or private, was fine in all all places
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference?

I don’t think anyone should be forced to do something g they are t comfortable with. If one kid don’t like exposing himself and he feels vulnerable, there’s probably good reason. So maybe there should be facilities to accommodate that. But also, you can always wrap a towel around yourself when changing. Not sure what to say about showering. But also, I think we’re all kinda but hurt on the whole nudity thing myself. It’s iust not a big deal, to me anyways. But I also have no issue being nude or showering with anyone. But if someone feels otherwise, I think their feeling should be respected.

[JiiDozaa]

1. Your sex - Male
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual? - Homosexual
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual? - I don't shower with people for conventional reasons such as these. I've showered within close proximity of other guys when I was on Boy Scout trips. Most of them knew.
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience? - Quite fun.
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it? - Of course I have, it's understandable. I'm not really worried, I just try to hide it, you know?
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you? - Not really. I'm sure some were apprehensive, but it really didn't get spoken.
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not? - I have, yes, and holy hell was I pleased. Let's just say they were quite well endowed.
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? - I value my privacy, but I'm not too bothered either way.

[mick01]

1. Your sex male
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual? bisexual
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual? both teammates and friends know I am bisexual
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience? I don't sexualize it. We talk to each other but its normal teenage boy talk.
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it? At times, I have chubbed up but never a full-on boner. Straight guys get more boners in the shower than I do.
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you? nope
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not? I have showered with my now boyfriend before and I thought he was hot so it gave me some visuals for when I jerked off thinking about him.
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? Just do it in the open. Once you do it a couple of times, it becomes totally normal.

[azurzg]

1. Your sex male
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual? bi
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual? nope
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience? we change clothes for sports, not to be naked near other people, so no big deal
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Yes Or are you worried about it? No
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you? nope
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? tried not to stare Were you glad you saw them naked or not? yes
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? in the open

[Zachary G]

1. Your sex - M
2. Are you homosexual or bisexual? Gay
3. Do the people you shower with or change with at school (or teammates or friends) know you are homosexual or bisexual? Yes
4. What are your overall thoughts/opinions on the whole experience? Its really no big deal, there is no like sexual tension or anything like that. We are just there to change out and go about our business
5. If you are a guy have you ever gotten a boner while changing/showering? Or are you worried about it? Ive gotten semi hard while changing and showering, but so have most of the guys there. Again, no big deal
6. Anyone ever bully or tease you or say they didn't want to shower/change with you? I have had some try to be bully to me, but they were of no consequence to me
7. Ever shower/change with a crush and if so how did that go over? Were you glad you saw them naked or not? Yes. It was nice to see them naked, but it really didn't matter to me overall
8. Do you think students should shower/change together in the open or should their be private stalls for complete privacy so no student ever sees another student naked regardless of gender/sexual preference? I think having open showers and changing rooms helps to build confidence and character.