I need advice? It's an Ex bf issue

[Jamie_1769]

Hey all, I need some advice on what to do.

So I dated this guy about 18 months ago for a while, like 5 months, and at that time I wasn't ready to go further so we broke up. He's got a girlfriend, they've been together for a year now. When we talk online he says he likes me and to be honest i haven't got over him so I still like him. He said at the weekend he would cheat on his girlfriend but it seems to me that he still wants to stay with her even if he did. I don't want to break up his relationship because I respect that but I also want to be with him. When he said he would cheat I had to let him down as morally I couldn't let him cheat. But half of me wants to just be with him and ignore the other girl let him do what he wants.

Any advice on what to do??

[Jinglebottom]

Do you really want to be with a guy who's more than willing to cheat on his partner with someone else? Especially considering he's been with that person for a year, which is not a little while at all. It's not right.

[Jamie_1769]

Yeah I get what you mean. I really like this guy I can't just forget about him

[NewLeafsFan]

I think that you need to stop contacting this guy. He might be a great guy and you might really want the sex but it's much harder to get over him if he's still a friend. At least for the time being I think that you need to put some distance between the two of you.

You must have great strength of character to have said no. I'm straight and if a girl that I liked in the past wanted to have sex I would not be able to say no. Good for you and good luck.

[SouthGeorgiaTeen]

I don't think being with someone who has told you that he will cheat on his girlfriend with you is a healthy choice. Do you really want to be the sidechick?

[Just JT]

If he’ll cheat on his current girlfriend to have sex with you, then consider 2 things.
What does that say about their relationship and his true feelings for her?
Also, if he cheats on her he’ll cheat on you.

You made a decision 18 months ago for good reason. And you guys broke up cause you weren’t ready to have sex. So I guess that means he broke up with you. Now he’s saying he’ll cheat on his current girlfriend to have sex with you. Unless I’m misunderstanding something here I’d say his only intentions is to have sex. He couldn’t wait for you so he went elsewhere to get his rocks off.
He’s not worth your time

[teddyxen]

If he'll cheat on this girl he's been with for you a year, he could do the same to you. If he truly still liked you and cared about you he would leave her and start a fresh with you. He seems like a player :(

[mick01]

Like everyone else has said, the best thing you could do for yourself is stop talking to him and move on. Find someone who you could trust.

[Leena_2003]

If he wants you back, he should end the other relationship first. I am sure the cheating path is going to end in tears anyway.

[Nikki_1]

I agree with Just JT,

[Lillynet]

I think you should do anytiling like that and put your ego up and move on . becuase if he is willing to cheat his gf for you then he is a cheater and he can cheat easily....well i hope you dont mind me call him asshole because that way the asshole guys act