Am i too close with my brother?

[SannaR]

I have a brother who is two years older than me (I am 15 and he is 17).
We are used to see each other naked. We shared a room until two years ago, and also after we moved to separate rooms we kept seeing each other while changing clothes or taking a shower.
It always felt normal and no sexual at all.

Last week, I have needed to get a shower and I was in a great hurry as my friends was already waiting for me. My brother was already in the shower, since i was in a great rush it didn't think much and join him in the shower. We had seen each other taking showers, but we never done it together. I told him I am really in a rush, he was a bit surprised but didn't said anything and let me in.
Once inside I even told him to soup my body as I washed my hair.

It didn't felt wired at the time, but when I think about it, I think I over stepped there, I shouldn't have join him or ask him to soup my body.
I don't feel that anything had changed between us, but my brother was always hard to read.

Now I wander if I just made a big deal out of this, or if what we had was wrong at the first place and can lead to wired occasions?

[SeansLittleBro]

Being close to a sibling is something we all desire. I have a twin and we are super close and shower together quite often. I really don't think that there was anything wrong with you showering in the circumstance that you have told us. There was nothing sexual with it and showed that you both are comfortable with each other. I don't know where this might go but you two are close and talk it out. If he was feeling awkward would he have told you? Was there any physical excitement with him (you would notice I'm sure)? Probably just accepted it as what it was...you needing to hurry. Yes he washed you but what is wrong with that? I don't see anythng either of you did wrong.

[ska8er]

It is natural seeing a sibling nude cause
I guess it just happens. The two of u were
comfortable with it so I don't think sharing
the shower meant anything wrong but the
soaping up was a bit too much.

[jamie_n5]

You grew up that way and it's normal to you. He just washed you like you asked didn't he? Did he get an erection or play with your breasts or anything near being sexual? If not don't worry about it really even if he got an erection I seriously doubt that he would try being sexual with you. Just look at it like you are nudists and life is normal to be naked together and help each other out.

[Brigje]

It didn't felt wired at the time, but when I think about it, I think I over stepped there, I shouldn't have join him or ask him to soup my body.
I don't feel that anything had changed between us, but my brother was always hard to read.

Now I wander if I just made a big deal out of this, or if what we had was wrong at the first place and can lead to wired occasions?

The best one to answer your questions is your brother himself.
Not to make a big deal out of it, but to know if he thinks you passed the line and if he thinks it was wrong.

[Drunkenprofesser]

*soap, the word you were looking for is soap. not trying to be mean or anything but it was just bugging me ahahah

[azurzg]

Now I wander if I just made a big deal out of this, or if what we had was wrong at the first place and can lead to wired occasions?

Was he sexually excited (that would have been easy to determine)?
Were you (have to be honest)?

If "no" to both, I'd say you're fine.

[CharlesB]

personally id never do such a thing but im not as close with my sibling but if both of you are okay with it go right ahead my friend

[NewLeafsFan]

You're probably making a big deal out of nothing. I think that you are a lot closer than most brothers, especially if you washed each others genitals, but that doesn't make it "wrong". Frankly, I think people are so worried about what others think or that they are so perverted that they think of all nudity as sexual to the point that everyone second guesses themselves.

If you are really concerned, have a talk with him and make sure that he is ok with what happened. If he isn't, obviously take a step back with the nudity.

[azurzg]

... especially if you washed each others genitals ...

I don't think she said they were washing each others genitals.
I think she said he washed her back while she was washing her hair.

[Brigje]

You're probably making a big deal out of nothing. I think that you are a lot closer than most brothers, especially if you washed each others genitals, but that doesn't make it "wrong". Frankly, I think people are so worried about what others think or that they are so perverted that they think of all nudity as sexual to the point that everyone second guesses themselves.

If you are really concerned, have a talk with him and make sure that he is ok with what happened. If he isn't, obviously take a step back with the nudity.

Don't worry about what others would think, others don't know about it unless you tell them, be happy, it is something between you and him.
And when you are concerned, talk about it with him, I guess he is okay with it when you are.

[verruckt16]

I think it was fine .. the only person that needs to feel comfortable about it is you

[Cangirl]

I have a little and big brother and big sister and we all share a bathroom. So yes we'v seen each other nude in there or been in there when one is in the shower. Every house is different about nudity or even seeing in underwear and things like that so if thats how your house is then its ok.

The important thing is that you and your brother are ok with being in the shower at the same time. Ask him and see what he says :)

[ashleigh7]

I have found just talking to someone about your feelings...as scary as that can be really helps. For both parties. : )

[nwtnguy]

That's very inappropriate.