To ANYONE still questioning their sexuality

[Sean Silver]

I've had a whirlwind of experiences discovering my sexuality growing up. And now that I'm 18 and have a handle on who I am and who I want to be, I'd like to share my thoughts with you all, in hopes that maybe it will help you or a friend dealing with sexuality issues.

The big picture is: EVERYONE is different. Sexuality isn't just straight/bi/gay....it's a spectrum. Basically what that means is, we all fall somewhere along the spectrum between straight and gay, and no one is 100% anything, no matter what they tell you. I can tell you right now that I identify as gay, and that is only because I know I'll never be romantically attracted to a woman. However, I have hooked up with girls in the past, and I plan to in the future. I find women beautiful and sexually attractive, and I will express that.

I know it can be so confusing and frustrating at this time in your life, but I can tell you for the most part, it doesn't even matter. Years from now youre STILL going to be unsure of what your sexual identity is, and thats perfectly okay!

Love who you want to love, and don't let anyone tell you different.

:wub:

[Lovelife090994]

Where were you ten years ago? Hehe, sadly I am having a hard time accepting the fact that no label fits me, which is bad since I like to feel sure, and have a way to be more sure of myself. I guess that feeling is rare, whatever the word is fo wanting to feel sure of one's self.

[pjones]

great post

[Croconaw]

I agree with this. :)

[ugaboy]

yeah great post! I will just enjoy things as they happen, and try and wait to figure anything out. I hate labels anyway.

[sqishy]

I agree with it all, we're all different and words to describe us are labels and nothing more.

[Harry.]

100% agree with OPer.

[ksdnfkfr]

That was helpful

[TheBiChristian]

Amen this is such a great post!! So true! Thank you for posting :)

[Typhlosion]

To anyone questioning... keep on questioning!

I didn't get it.

[WithoutFear]

Ive come to the conclusion I'm whatever i feel like at the moment, because my sexuality varies constantly :p

[workingatperfect]

Wonderful post. It is so sad seeing the hundreds of posts here of people asking us what their sexuality is. Who cares?! And I don't mean that in a harsh way, I mean why does it matter? Why do you need a label? I don't have a solid label for my sexuality unless "mostly straight" counts lol. And I guess I've been very lucky in that I've never felt the need to define myself. Your sexuality doesn't define who you are, don't be so afraid of not knowing exactly what it is.