iamatree
September 24th, 2017, 07:47 AM
So, I come from a family of gamers. Yes, i does sound like a good thing and to be honest it is. It’s pretty cool to have parents who think like us and know what we like and all, its fun when they have the same mindset as us (parents who play call of duty? plays multiplayer FPSs with you from time to time?) , but that just makes them less responsible too (at least in my case).
My mother got hooked to an MMORPG a few years back and she has been playing it ever since. Not only that, she’s been on her phone more than ever recently and it’s really starting to affect us. I used to let it slide, I mean I know life can be stressful and all for a parent, but it’s getting out of hand.
Example?? When we’re shopping (without my dad), all she does is stare at her phone while I have to look after my younger brothers, chase after them and make sure they don’t get lost.
In a restaurant, me and my brothers wait for her at least an hour after we finish eating because surprise, there’s another game on her phone that she absolutely loves, that or she spends her time chatting with some online friends (pretty backwards family, I know. I understand why parents get pissed off when kids use their phones during meal times.).
My mom has this habit of using her phone in the car too. So when she gets home, instead of getting out of the car, she sits in there using her phone, chatting to god knows who. Just today, the kids were hungry and starving and we waited 20 whole minutes for her to get out of the car. Heck, we didn’t wait. I knocked on the door and CALLED her, and even then, she got out slowly, still on the phone.
We get less family time because of this too. I’m not sure if my mom is doing this on purpose but she usually eats out and brings back for us, so that she can head over to my room (yes, my room. I get zero privacy. My mom and my siblings sleep in MY room. she probably stays because i have a desk. MY STUDY DESK. that she uses for her laptop now and my siblings sleep there too because I’m there. Yeah, my dad sleeps alone it’s weird.) to play some nightly event in that mmorpg i mentioned. Dinner is the only time we were able to really get together and talk because we’re all busy with school and work but now even that is just my dad, me, and my brothers.
Im worried about my brothers too, because the slightly older kid is a little behind his studies because my parents never bothered to read to him or teach him much. That, and, it was a bit of my fault for not teaching him much either, but I’m seriously trying to help him now, and so is my dad, but my mom isn’t doing anything.
When trying to put the youngest to sleep, i sometimes end up falling asleep first and guess what? Five minutes later, I wake up in my completely DARK room only to find my TWO YEAR OLD brother with my mother’s phone too close to his face watching youtube videos while my mom is still on her laptop. I have to repeatedly deal with taking the phone away from him and telling him it’s not good for his eyes and it’s time to sleep but the moment I’m not there and he starts crying my mom just gives him the phone to shut him up.
I admit that all this has made me mature and grow as a person and it does teach me a lot about how to take care of kids (a useful skill) but I’m afraid there’s only so much I can do with my own life ahead of me and my brothers’ to worry about. I once had a school project that I had to stay up late to finish because my mom had some ‘important’ game event going on around that time. I’m not worried over the fact that I’m not getting any attention from my parents, (I’m almost an adult, fyi) I’m worried for my brothers and how they’ll end up when I’m not able to be there for them.
I’m worried about my family, and how this will affect our relationship with each other. I know my dad works his ass off taking care of the kids now that some sense of responsibility kicked into him once my youngest brother was born but with my mom being like this I just don’t think we can hold up much longer. Even my grandparents are worried. Everyone tried to tell her to stop but it’s just not working.
Besides, this makes me afraid of having kids of my own because I’m afraid of repeating the same thing. I just don’t think I can handle raising children anymore because I’ve been raising my brothers since I was 13. It doesn’t give me as many opportunities to go out or do the things I want to prepare myself for the future because I have to take care of brothers.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love my mom and my brothers to bits and if you dare hurt one strand of hair on their heads or make them cry I will punch you in the face, but I don’t know how to get my mom to stop this and give more attention and time to my brothers. I want them to grow up healthy and happy, with the equal amount of love my parents gave me before my mom got addicted to gaming, but I don’t know what to do.
My mother got hooked to an MMORPG a few years back and she has been playing it ever since. Not only that, she’s been on her phone more than ever recently and it’s really starting to affect us. I used to let it slide, I mean I know life can be stressful and all for a parent, but it’s getting out of hand.
Example?? When we’re shopping (without my dad), all she does is stare at her phone while I have to look after my younger brothers, chase after them and make sure they don’t get lost.
In a restaurant, me and my brothers wait for her at least an hour after we finish eating because surprise, there’s another game on her phone that she absolutely loves, that or she spends her time chatting with some online friends (pretty backwards family, I know. I understand why parents get pissed off when kids use their phones during meal times.).
My mom has this habit of using her phone in the car too. So when she gets home, instead of getting out of the car, she sits in there using her phone, chatting to god knows who. Just today, the kids were hungry and starving and we waited 20 whole minutes for her to get out of the car. Heck, we didn’t wait. I knocked on the door and CALLED her, and even then, she got out slowly, still on the phone.
We get less family time because of this too. I’m not sure if my mom is doing this on purpose but she usually eats out and brings back for us, so that she can head over to my room (yes, my room. I get zero privacy. My mom and my siblings sleep in MY room. she probably stays because i have a desk. MY STUDY DESK. that she uses for her laptop now and my siblings sleep there too because I’m there. Yeah, my dad sleeps alone it’s weird.) to play some nightly event in that mmorpg i mentioned. Dinner is the only time we were able to really get together and talk because we’re all busy with school and work but now even that is just my dad, me, and my brothers.
Im worried about my brothers too, because the slightly older kid is a little behind his studies because my parents never bothered to read to him or teach him much. That, and, it was a bit of my fault for not teaching him much either, but I’m seriously trying to help him now, and so is my dad, but my mom isn’t doing anything.
When trying to put the youngest to sleep, i sometimes end up falling asleep first and guess what? Five minutes later, I wake up in my completely DARK room only to find my TWO YEAR OLD brother with my mother’s phone too close to his face watching youtube videos while my mom is still on her laptop. I have to repeatedly deal with taking the phone away from him and telling him it’s not good for his eyes and it’s time to sleep but the moment I’m not there and he starts crying my mom just gives him the phone to shut him up.
I admit that all this has made me mature and grow as a person and it does teach me a lot about how to take care of kids (a useful skill) but I’m afraid there’s only so much I can do with my own life ahead of me and my brothers’ to worry about. I once had a school project that I had to stay up late to finish because my mom had some ‘important’ game event going on around that time. I’m not worried over the fact that I’m not getting any attention from my parents, (I’m almost an adult, fyi) I’m worried for my brothers and how they’ll end up when I’m not able to be there for them.
I’m worried about my family, and how this will affect our relationship with each other. I know my dad works his ass off taking care of the kids now that some sense of responsibility kicked into him once my youngest brother was born but with my mom being like this I just don’t think we can hold up much longer. Even my grandparents are worried. Everyone tried to tell her to stop but it’s just not working.
Besides, this makes me afraid of having kids of my own because I’m afraid of repeating the same thing. I just don’t think I can handle raising children anymore because I’ve been raising my brothers since I was 13. It doesn’t give me as many opportunities to go out or do the things I want to prepare myself for the future because I have to take care of brothers.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love my mom and my brothers to bits and if you dare hurt one strand of hair on their heads or make them cry I will punch you in the face, but I don’t know how to get my mom to stop this and give more attention and time to my brothers. I want them to grow up healthy and happy, with the equal amount of love my parents gave me before my mom got addicted to gaming, but I don’t know what to do.