I'm literally the only virgin I know in real life

[dreamofdante]

Is that bad? Tonight the last friend of mine who is a virgin told me she has been having it frequently now so that makes me the only virgin that I know in real life. I'm 18 and she's 17 so that doesn't mean that I have time to catch up with her. I've never kissed anyone or had sex with anyone and I'm literally the only one I know who hasn't. This is really bad I can tell...Isn't it?

[Plasma]

Go get a damn prostitute then, since you can't stop thinking about it

[dreamofdante]

Go get a damn prostitute then, since you can't stop thinking about it

I can't even do that.

[Hollywood]

Why compare yourself to others? Who cares what everyone else is doing?

[dreamofdante]

Why compare yourself to others? Who cares what everyone else is doing?

I feel like a pathetic piece of shit who has nothing going for him so that's probably why.

[Hollywood]

I feel like a pathetic piece of shit who has nothing going for him so that's probably why.

I'm sure you've got more going for you than you give yourself credit for. If being a virgin is one of your biggest problems, you're not doing that bad.

[dreamofdante]

I'm sure you've got more going for you than you give yourself credit for. If being a virgin is one of your biggest problems, you're not doing that bad.

It definitely isn't...

[Swagging god]

Losing your virginity may not give you the high class feeling you desire

[dreamofdante]

Losing your virginity may not give you the high class feeling you desire

And keeping it makes me feel like a fucking loser because of how hard I've tried to lose it since I was 13.

[Hollywood]

It definitely isn't...

Then don't worry about it. Focus on trying to fix the other issues you're having before worrying about something like being the only virgin you know in real life. I'm a virgin too, but I've also got more important things to focus on right now.

[dreamofdante]

Then don't worry about it. Focus on trying to fix the other issues you're having before worrying about something like being the only virgin you know in real life. I'm a virgin too, but I've also got more important things to focus on right now.

That reminds me how fucked I am.

[Lovelife090994]

I'm a virgin too. Do you really want to mess tied to random wanton sex? Or the consequence of unrequieted love? Neither are great and both can be messy. Do as you see fit but be smart about it. You are alive, you have a potential future, don't care what others have. Envy is wanting and can seem seductive but it is also captivating and blinding to sense.

[dreamofdante]

I'm a virgin too. Do you really want to mess tied to random wanton sex? Or the consequence of unrequieted love? Neither are great and both can be messy. Do as you see fit but be smart about it. You are alive, you have a potential future, don't care what others have. Envy is wanting and can seem seductive but it is also captivating and blinding to sense.

Well it's not like I'd be a fool about it and mess things up and have something I don't want but I'd really like to lose it. I'm so envious of the people I know that it hurts. Such simple goddamn things that I can't have because I'm me.

[Lovelife090994]

Well it's not like I'd be a fool about it and mess things up and have something I don't want but I'd really like to lose it. I'm so envious of the people I know that it hurts. Such simple goddamn things that I can't have because I'm me.

How do you think I feel. I envy assurance and confidence, I envy those with friends and a plan, and those who are more confident. I also wish I could experiment with some things but I am glad I didn't keep that envy. You sound like you want someone to tell you a one-size-fits-all answer, but life doesn't work that way. Just steer your mind to what you love and ignore the drama. When the time comes you'll get your chance. Do you want full sex? Are you sure of your sexuality or just wanting sex? All can be issues, all can be overrated. I guess my advice is Hakuna Matata, no worries and ignore the bullshit since it doesn't always go alway but needs to be cleaned up or left in its meant area and ignored.

[dreamofdante]

How do you think I feel. I envy assurance and confidence, I envy those with friends and a plan, and those who are more confident. I also wish I could experiment with some things but I am glad I didn't keep that envy. You sound like you want someone to tell you a one-size-fits-all answer, but life doesn't work that way. Just steer your mind to what you love and ignore the drama. When the time comes you'll get your chance. Do you want full sex? Are you sure of your sexuality or just wanting sex? All can be issues, all can be overrated. I guess my advice is Hakuna Matata, no worries and ignore the bullshit since it doesn't always go alway but needs to be cleaned up or left in its meant area and ignored.

I don't even know anymore. I have no one in my life to talk to and I don't know what you mean by full sex. And yeah I know my sexuality.

[Lovelife090994]

I don't even know anymore. I have no one in my life to talk to and I don't know what you mean by full sex. And yeah I know my sexuality.

Look no further than here, there are many here who will talk. You can talk to me if you want. You're only a virgin once, nothing wrong with losing your virginity, just be sure you want to.

[dreamofdante]

Look no further than here, there are many here who will talk. You can talk to me if you want. You're only a virgin once, nothing wrong with losing your virginity, just be sure you want to.

People have gotten the shits of me on here but I wouldn't mind talking to you. And I do want to lose it. I don't want it anymore. I've been trying to get rid of it since I was 13 but I'm never good enough.

[Lovelife090994]

People have gotten the shits of me on here but I wouldn't mind talking to you. And I do want to lose it. I don't want it anymore. I've been trying to get rid of it since I was 13 but I'm never good enough.

To be honest if given the chance I would have experimented around but probably would still be a virgin. It does and doesn't bother me. Do you want to lose it with a girl, boy, anyone? Sounds to me like the classic wanting sex scenario. And sure we can talk.

[Curious.kid]

Don't feel bad. I'm still a virgin too. It's something that's personal and things could be a lot worse

[dreamofdante]

Don't feel bad. I'm still a virgin too. It's something that's personal and things could be a lot worse

God kid you're young yet. You got nothing to worry about. You're good looking and I can tell that you're nice. I'm 18 now and I haven't kissed anyone and I know you're worried about that yourself. Don't worry about that. You're way better looking than I ever was and it's bound to happen.

[Plasma]

God kid you're young yet. You got nothing to worry about. You're good looking and I can tell that you're nice. I'm 18 now and I haven't kissed anyone and I know you're worried about that yourself. Don't worry about that. You're way better looking than I ever was and it's bound to happen.

Plenty of 18 year olds havent kissed, including me. It's a matter of chance, I think

[dreamofdante]

Plenty of 18 year olds havent kissed, including me. It's a matter of chance, I think

Most handsome and kind people do have a chance.

[Verto]

I don't think your alone in this issue and it might just be your environment. Out of all the people I personally know, I know of only maybe... 2 that *might* have lost theirs. And some of us are in our final year of university.
If this is your biggest issue, then your doing substantially better than some others. Besides, once you lose it, it's gone forever. Just give it time and work on improving yourself and sooner or later the chance will come to you if you hang in there.

[PurpleLips]

maybe you should fuck or kiss a random girl if its such a big deal for you...

[Dracarys]

We'll maybe the best things in life are worth waiting for.Who knows,maybe the wait may be worth it

[Lisa R]

Trust me your not alone I'm also a virgin . No need to rush into things and regret it later.

[dreamofdante]

I don't think your alone in this issue and it might just be your environment. Out of all the people I personally know, I know of only maybe... 2 that *might* have lost theirs. And some of us are in our final year of university.
If this is your biggest issue, then your doing substantially better than some others. Besides, once you lose it, it's gone forever. Just give it time and work on improving yourself and sooner or later the chance will come to you if you hang in there.

How am I doing better than others? Lol

maybe you should fuck or kiss a random girl if its such a big deal for you...

Nobody would fuck me for a million dollars.

We'll maybe the best things in life are worth waiting for.Who knows,maybe the wait may be worth it

If it ever happens, yeah I'd be willing to wait. But I doubt it's going to.

Trust me your not alone I'm also a virgin . No need to rush into things and regret it later.

You're wayyyyyy younger than me so I'm not surprised that you are.

[Ethe14]

You shouldn't be hell bent on losing it, might as well lose it with someone special. Even if your 40 and lose your virginity but with someone special then it will make up for that.

[dreamofdante]

You shouldn't be hell bent on losing it, might as well lose it with someone special. Even if your 40 and lose your virginity but with someone special then it will make up for that.

I'm unlovable so I can't foresee it being special.

[Ethe14]

There are 7 BILLION people on this planet, you MUST be loved by someone. It takes time that's all.

[dreamofdante]

There are 7 BILLION people on this planet, you MUST be loved by someone. It takes time that's all.

And I'll meet less than 500,000. So lower the odds. But no, I'm tainted and unlovable. That's been shown by the hundreds of women I've tried to ask out.

[Ethe14]

And I'll meet less than 500,000. So lower the odds. But no, I'm tainted and unlovable. That's been shown by the hundreds of women I've tried to ask out.

Then you've asked all the wrong ones then.

[dreamofdante]

Then you've asked all the wrong ones then.

Or maybe it's me. There's no way in hell that I can think after hundreds of women that they're the problem. It's clearly me.

[Seemyheart]

Losing your virginity IS special. No matter the circumstance. Once it's gone, there's no getting it back.

I'm a virgin, and I don't WANT to change that. Because I want it to mean something. Not just losing it because I want to have sex.

As you can see, there are others here who are also the same age and haven't lost their virginity either. You aren't alone.

[dreamofdante]

Losing your virginity IS special. No matter the circumstance. Once it's gone, there's no getting it back.

I'm a virgin, and I don't WANT to change that. Because I want it to mean something. Not just losing it because I want to have sex.

As you can see, there are others here who are also the same age and haven't lost their virginity either. You aren't alone.

There's one guy on this entire thread that's my age and is a virgin. And he's okay with it. I'm not. I've wanted it for years.

[Seemyheart]

There's one guy on this entire thread that's my age and is a virgin. And he's okay with it. I'm not. I've wanted it for years.

And you'll have sex, one day. And all this worrying and pessimistic view on it, will seem not as significant. This is just a small part of the rest of your life, why spend it seeing all the bad in the world?

[dreamofdante]

And you'll have sex, one day. And all this worrying and pessimistic view on it, will seem not as significant. This is just a small part of the rest of your life, why spend it seeing all the bad in the world?

Why do you think I'm going to have sex? The women I know in real life don't think that I will.

[samsunglover]

im 17 never kissed or had sex with a girl but had a girlfriends for 2 weeks when i was 14 but none since. Wish i had one

[dreamofdante]

im 17 never kissed or had sex with a girl but had a girlfriends for 2 weeks when i was 14 but none since. Wish i had one

I somewhat know how you feel.

[Seemyheart]

Why do you think I'm going to have sex? The women I know in real life don't think that I will.

Well who cares what they think? Why spend your time worrying about what they say...
Just live your life.

[dreamofdante]

Well who cares what they think? Why spend your time worrying about what they say...
Just live your life.

I don't have a life. That's the problem.

[Seemyheart]

I don't have a life. That's the problem.

Yes! You do. You wake up and start a day and go through the motions of each day. That's LIFE.

[dreamofdante]

Yes! You do. You wake up and start a day and go through the motions of each day. That's LIFE.

Sitting in my room by myself day after day not affecting anything for the rest of my life because I'm not qualified for any education or college or job.

[Seemyheart]

Sitting in my room by myself day after day not affecting anything for the rest of my life because I'm not qualified for any education or college or job.

Well... I'm sorry you feel like that.

[dreamofdante]

Well... I'm sorry you feel like that.

It's stone cold facts. Everything that has happened in my life has culminated to me being in over my head.

[zach2424]

It's not that bad you're only 18

[dreamofdante]

It's not that bad you're only 18

And I'll be 19. Then 20. Then 21. Then so on so forth. I'll always be a virgin.

[Plasma]

And I'll be 19. Then 20. Then 21. Then so on so forth. I'll always be a virgin.

If you're always going to be a virgin, why worry about it?

[dreamofdante]

If you're always going to be a virgin, why worry about it?

I don't want to live for more than 40 years then.

[SciMassKid]

No it's not bad.

[dreamofdante]

No it's not bad.

Are you sure?

[Plasma]

I don't want to live for more than 40 years then.

What do you hope to gain out of posting these?

[dreamofdante]

What do you hope to gain out of posting these?

I have no one else in my life. And I like this forum more than the others I've been on. I just don't know anymore.

[Plasma]

I have no one else in my life. And I like this forum more than the others I've been on. I just don't know anymore.

You can always meet people. I know it's tough, but it's do-able for anyone.

I understand that you're upset, but posting countless threads on the same thing isnt going to do much for you. You've gotten a plethora of good advice already.

[dreamofdante]

You can always meet people. I know it's tough, but it's do-able for anyone.

I understand that you're upset, but posting countless threads on the same thing isnt going to do much for you. You've gotten a plethora of good advice already.

The problem with what some people have said is that I'm worried they are sugarcoating things. People in my real life don't care and yeah most of them find me ugly. If not ugly, then unattractive and they avoid saying so. In fact, the majority of people I talk to think I'll die a virgin. And they don't know what I'm going to do with my life.

[SciMassKid]

Are you sure?

Im positive. Don't worry about it dude. I still have not had sex with a girl

[dreamofdante]

Im positive. Don't worry about it dude. I still have not had sex with a girl

How old are you?

[SciMassKid]

How old are you?

19..

[dreamofdante]

19..

Have you had girlfriends?

[SciMassKid]

Not yet. I have only had sex with other boys. I want to with a girl tho. In response to jack. I forgot to hit quote.

[dreamofdante]

Not yet. I have only had sex with other boys. I want to with a girl tho. In response to jack. I forgot to hit quote.

You know that makes you not a virgin, right?

[SciMassKid]

You know that makes you not a virgin, right?

I think you are worrying about it too much. You will find a special someone someday and you will experience sex in all its greatness

[dreamofdante]

I think you are worrying about it too much. You will find a special someone someday and you will experience sex in all its greatness

Thanks for the vote of confidence haha

[SciMassKid]

Thanks for the vote of confidence haha

Anytime.

[dreamofdante]

Anytime.

I don't believe you at all but I appreciate it.

[unknownuser]

I'm your age and never been in a real relationship or had sex... it is something I want, but I don't feel a huge need for it at the moment. I don't care about others, what they've done, what they're doing, and what they think of me. Do I feel like a loser and a failure? Yes. Do I get jealous when I see people in relationships & discussing sex? Yes. But I don't let it get to me and consume my thoughts.

I hate when people candy-coat this stuff and say that "there's tons of people out there, someone loves you, your time will come". A relationship/sex/marriage/etc, isn't guaranteed and it just doesn't happen to everyone, regardless of how hard you try. The fact that I could very well die an old virgin lady with tons of cats isn't an appealing thought, but I guess that I've accepted the fact that I could be a possibility.

You do have time ahead of you and things can really unexpectedly change. You just never know, that's life for you.

[Hollywood]

I'm your age and never been in a real relationship or had sex... it is something I want, but I don't feel a huge need for it at the moment. I don't care about others, what they've done, what they're doing, and what they think of me. Do I feel like a loser and a failure? Yes. Do I get jealous when I see people in relationships & discussing sex? Yes. But I don't let it get to me and consume my thoughts.

I hate when people candy-coat this stuff and say that "there's tons of people out there, someone loves you, your time will come". A relationship/sex/marriage/etc, isn't guaranteed and it just doesn't happen to everyone, regardless of how hard you try. The fact that I could very well die an old virgin lady with tons of cats isn't an appealing thought, but I guess that I've accepted the fact that I could be a possibility.

You do have time ahead of you and things can really unexpectedly change. You just never know, that's life for you.

This. This right here.

[dreamofdante]

I'm your age and never been in a real relationship or had sex... it is something I want, but I don't feel a huge need for it at the moment. I don't care about others, what they've done, what they're doing, and what they think of me. Do I feel like a loser and a failure? Yes. Do I get jealous when I see people in relationships & discussing sex? Yes. But I don't let it get to me and consume my thoughts.

I hate when people candy-coat this stuff and say that "there's tons of people out there, someone loves you, your time will come". A relationship/sex/marriage/etc, isn't guaranteed and it just doesn't happen to everyone, regardless of how hard you try. The fact that I could very well die an old virgin lady with tons of cats isn't an appealing thought, but I guess that I've accepted the fact that I could be a possibility.

You do have time ahead of you and things can really unexpectedly change. You just never know, that's life for you.

I seriously doubt you're going to die a virgin so don't worry about it. I'm sure men will crave for you sooner or later. And yeah I really hate when people sugar coat this and say there's someone for everyone. Christ, I could die tomorrow and then have died alone and a virgin. There's no guarantee to anything. I just really find it hard accepting that that's how I'll end up after it being what I've wanted for the majority of my life.

[unknownuser]

I seriously doubt you're going to die a virgin so don't worry about it. I'm sure men will crave for you sooner or later. And yeah I really hate when people sugar coat this and say there's someone for everyone. Christ, I could die tomorrow and then have died alone and a virgin. There's no guarantee to anything. I just really find it hard accepting that that's how I'll end up after it being what I've wanted for the majority of my life.

See, that's exactly what you're doing right there, sugar-coating it.

Just constantly thinking about it and feeling bad about yourself really isn't going to help anything (but then again, who am I to say this... it'd be hypocritical of me). Just know that there are others in your shoes and just because we've never experienced something and may never experience it, doesn't mean that we're all loosers.

Maybe you're just trying too hard and putting too much thought into this... if it comes, it'll come naturally.

[dreamofdante]

See, that's exactly what you're doing right there, sugar-coating it.

Just constantly thinking about it and feeling bad about yourself really isn't going to help anything (but then again, who am I to say this... it'd be hypocritical of me). Just know that there are others in your shoes and just because we've never experienced something and may never experience it, doesn't mean that we're all loosers.

Well I haven't seen you so I don't know. I could give you my honest opinion if you'd like but yeah.

I don't really like that my life would culminate to dying alone and a virgin having contributed little to nothing to society. Christ if that's what it'll amount to, I might as well go now. We have an over-population problem as it is. If I'm one of those guys that is always going to be alone then fuck that.

[unknownuser]

Well I haven't seen you so I don't know. I could give you my honest opinion if you'd like but yeah.

I don't really like that my life would culminate to dying alone and a virgin having contributed little to nothing to society. Christ if that's what it'll amount to, I might as well go now. We have an over-population problem as it is. If I'm one of those guys that is always going to be alone then fuck that.

There's a difference between realistic and pessimistic thinking. You sir are way too tough on yourself and speak irrationally. You are just 18, you are young, you have plenty of opportunities to take risks and chances in life, just because you've struggled for this long doesn't mean that it's always going to be like this. Yeah, I guess my overall life has been pretty sucky up until now, but you never know what life will bring and that's just one of the thrills of living, hoping that tomorrow, things will change...

[PurpleLips]

[QUOTE=jack1995;2720069]How am I doing better than others? Lol



Nobody would fuck me for a million dollars.




sucks..

[dreamofdante]

[QUOTE=jack1995;2720069]How am I doing better than others? Lol



Nobody would fuck me for a million dollars.




sucks..

Pretty much

[mrpieface2]

Jack, I dont want to lose my virginity anytime soon. I'm waiting till I'm AT LEAST 21. Losing your virginity is special. I'm don't want to lose my virginity just because I want to have sex with a girl. The only exception to what I just said was if I really, really , REALLY loved and cared for a girl. Which probably won't happen anytime soon.

[dreamofdante]

Jack, I dont want to lose my virginity anytime soon. I'm waiting till I'm AT LEAST 21. Losing your virginity is special. I'm don't want to lose my virginity just because I want to have sex with a girl. The only exception to what I just said was if I really, really , REALLY loved and cared for a girl. Which probably won't happen anytime soon.

I just read about a guy on a forum who is 27 and a virgin but he doesn't want to be. I really do not want to be that guy. It's already ruining my life. And the fact that I'm ugly and that's my reason I can't have sex is what depresses me most.

[mrpieface2]

Maybe you just haven't found the right girl yet that accepts you for who you are. They aren't nice if all they care about is looks

[dreamofdante]

Maybe you just haven't found the right girl yet that accepts you for who you are. They aren't nice if all they care about is looks

So the right girl doesn't exist?

[mrpieface2]

She exists somewhere. You just have to believe that you will find her

[dreamofdante]

She exists somewhere. You just have to believe that you will find her

Why should I? I'm hurt or abandoned by every single girl who claims to have feelings for me. No one ever really wants me. I'm just something to bide their time until they find their real boyfriend. No one truly has ever wanted me. I'm a goddamn disgrace.

[mrpieface2]

You are not a disgrace. You will find someone. The US has like what 4 billion people? There has to be at least 1 person willing to date you

[dreamofdante]

You are not a disgrace. You will find someone. The US has like what 4 billion people? There has to be at least 1 person willing to date you

How do you know? Like I said, that guy I read about was 27 and had never experienced a thing and he was better looking than me. So I'm supposed to believe someone will actually want me out there? I seriously doubt it.

[mrpieface2]

Jack, you will find someone. I'm not going to stop saying that. If you don't believe me that's ok, but I still have faith in you. You know how teens my age should of had about 50 relationships by now? I had 2, I was cheated on, and was embarrassingly dumped. I thought I wasn't worth anyone's "love" but look at me now. I'm asking someone out in a couple days and I think they'll say yes(I hope) and they would love me for who I am. That's what should matter to you

[dreamofdante]

Jack, you will find someone. I'm not going to stop saying that. If you don't believe me that's ok, but I still have faith in you. You know how teens my age should of had about 50 relationships by now? I had 2, I was cheated on, and was embarrassingly dumped. I thought I wasn't worth anyone's "love" but look at me now. I'm asking someone out in a couple days and I think they'll say yes(I hope) and they would love me for who I am. That's what should matter to you

You're not a tainted ugly fucked up mess like I am so of course you'll get this girl. It'll be great.

[mrpieface2]

Okay maybe I worded that wrong,I meant that I mean I only had 2 relationships , but that's because I cared about the person and they care abut me, not my looks, me. Well they did.. Anyways, you should really think about what's going on because it seems like you just want to lose your virginity just for the "fun of it". I'm not being mean here. I'm just saying. And I don't think I look good to be honest.

[dreamofdante]

Okay maybe I worded that wrong,I meant that I mean I only had 2 relationships , but that's because I cared about the person and they care abut me, not my looks, me. Well they did.. Anyways, you should really think about what's going on because it seems like you just want to lose your virginity just for the "fun of it". I'm not being mean here. I'm just saying. And I don't think I look good to be honest.

You look light years better than me and I can see as to why you'll find someone easily. And you're nice. I want to lose my virginity because I don't want it anymore. I've wanted to fuck around for a while now but I can't because I'm the ugliest person I've ever seen.

[Seemyheart]

Why do you keep comparing yourself to other people? Your harshest critic is yourself. Nobody will look in the mirror and be 100% happy with themselves...we always see our flaws more easily than others do. So you're focusing on those flaws and not looking for your good qualities.

[mikeygrif]

im a vergin

[mrpieface2]

Okay I understand, well, I think you will find a girl someday. Does anyone else agree with this?

[dreamofdante]

Why do you keep comparing yourself to other people? Your harshest critic is yourself. Nobody will look in the mirror and be 100% happy with themselves...we always see our flaws more easily than others do. So you're focusing on those flaws and not looking for your good qualities.

Over the years, I've just culminated everything women have told me and it's stuck with me. And now I realize more than ever that they're right and that no one will ever want me relationship wise or sexually.

im a vergin

You're 15. You're younger and in the age range where anything happens.

[dreamofdante]

Okay I understand, well, I think you will find a girl someday. Does anyone else agree with this?

I don't agree.

[mrpieface2]

You will. Don't focus on your flaws. Focus on the good things about you. Be happy, you WILL find someone

[dreamofdante]

You will. Don't focus on your flaws. Focus on the good things about you. Be happy, you WILL find someone

If I focused on the good things, I'd be focusing for like three seconds.

[Seemyheart]

the fact he (mikeygrif) is a virgin doesn't seem to bother him.

I don't know what you are expecting anymore? You don't accept anyone's words of encouragement or advice.. I'm sorry if that was rude...

[dreamofdante]

the fact he (mikeygrif) is a virgin doesn't seem to bother him.

I don't know what you are expecting anymore? You don't accept anyone's words of encouragement or advice.. I'm sorry if that was rude...

He's 15 years old. I didn't mind it that much back then either.

Because I don't believe them. It's sounds like over optimistic "you'll find someone" shtick. Why would I find someone? Just because statistics say so? I'm fucked up beyond all recognition.

[Seemyheart]

What's wrong with optimism? Why spend life being pessimistic? I don't understand.

[dreamofdante]

What's wrong with optimism? Why spend life being pessimistic? I don't understand.

I'm realistic. If I were optimistic all the time, I'd be let down constantly. Being realistic I'm at least prepared for shit to go wrong all the time. Which it does. Never does something go right for me. There always has to be something bad.

[mrpieface2]

Jack were trying to make you feel better. I want to help you. You are depressed and I want to cheer you up and think of the positive things. Please don't give up on yourself

[dreamofdante]

Jack were trying to make you feel better. I want to help you. You are depressed and I want to cheer you up and think of the positive things. Please don't give up

It's hard to cheer up when I look in the mirror and see a bloated corpse looking back.

[Seemyheart]

I'm optimistic a lot, and I'm let down... but that doesn't stop me.
I agree that in some circumstances it's appropriate to be realistic but not all the time, because it could be depressing, and it ruins life.

[dreamofdante]

I'm optimistic a lot, and I'm let down... but that doesn't stop me.
I agree that in some circumstances it's appropriate to be realistic but not all the time, because it could be depressing, and it ruins life.

And anymore I can predict how and why a girl will hurt me. This last one that really fucked me up badly I fully expected. I knew she was going to get rid of me any day and go back to her ex because he's better than me. I didn't know when the day would come but I knew it would. Tyler is never the one they want. He's always Option B.

[mrpieface2]

I can't do anything else then Jack,

[dreamofdante]

I can't do anything else then Jack,

Unless you can buy me a gun or some rope.

[mrpieface2]

Don't kill yourself. Everyone has a reason to live.

[dreamofdante]

Don't kill yourself. Everyone has a reason to live.

And mine would be so I can be one of those people that suffer nonstop for no particular reason other than because things never get better.

[Seemyheart]

Do you see the first quote in my signature? Why can't you dance in the metaphorical rain?

You are just so focused on losing your virginity and criticizing yourself...you don't give yourself room to improve or change your views

[dreamofdante]

Do you see the first quote in my signature? Why can't you dance in the metaphorical rain?

You are just so focused on losing your virginity and criticizing yourself...you don't give yourself room to improve or change your views

If the metaphor there is to find the best out of the worst situations then I really don't see one here. I'm miserable and alone and no one gives a shit about me so it's hard to see anything positive there. I wanted to sleep around in my teens and have fun and then settle down in my twenties with a nice woman and then have kids eventually. I can't see either happening because of how bad I am.

[mrpieface2]

Do you see the first quote in my signature? Why can't you dance in the metaphorical rain?

You are just so focused on losing your virginity and criticizing yourself...you don't give yourself room to improve or change your views

Exactly. Like I said, think positive not negative. And I know you can

[Seemyheart]

Unless you can buy me a gun or some rope.

Don't say that...
He's trying to help and youre asking him to do that... That's not right Tyler

[dreamofdante]

Exactly. Like I said, think positive not negative. And I know you can

I'll lose my virginity soon! *Doesn't* I'll go to college and have a career soon! *Won't* I'll get married and have kids soon! *Won't*

See what I mean? Positivity is this huge let down and it's probably why I stopped being positive after a while. After I kept being let down or broken.

[Seemyheart]

I don't know what else to say Tyler. You're not listening.. you read what we say, but you don't listen.

[dreamofdante]

I don't know what else to say Tyler. You're not listening.. you read what we say, but you don't listen.

My life is over anyway so fuck it.

[Hollywood]

I don't understand why you keep making these threads if you're just going to disregard everything everyone has to say. These people have given you some really good advice and you're completely ignoring it. I just don't get it.

[dreamofdante]

I don't understand why you keep making these threads if you're just going to disregard everything everyone has to say. These people have given you some really good advice and you're completely ignoring it. I just don't get it.

Clearly I'm a lost cause that should die. That's the only reason why I can never accept anything.

[Hollywood]

Clearly I'm a lost cause that should die. That's the only reason why I can never accept anything.

And you're the only person that is making it so. Changing your outlook alone would do wonders for you. If I could stay optimistic wading through all the shit I've been through, so can you. Optimism is the only reason I'm still alive. In other words, having a positive outlook payed off and now things are better.

[dreamofdante]

And you're the only person that is making it so. Changing your outlook alone would do wonders for you. If I could stay optimistic wading through all the shit I've been through, so can you. Optimism is the only reason I'm still alive. In other words, having a positive outlook payed off and now things are better.

What's better now that wasn't good before?

[Hollywood]

What's better now that wasn't good before?

Life in general. I'm moving forward every day while before I was making no progress at all. I was hopeless, but at the same time I envisioned a brighter future for myself. I'm not quite there yet, but hard work sprinkled with a bit of optimism is moving me closer and closer to that future, and it will for you too if you let it. Being a pessimist is destructive and it won't get you anywhere in life, I learned that the hard way but I changed before it was too late.

[dreamofdante]

Life in general. I'm moving forward every day while before I was making no progress at all. I was hopeless, but at the same time I envisioned a brighter future for myself. I'm not quite there yet, but hard work sprinkled with a bit of optimism is moving me closer and closer to that future, and it will for you too if you let it. Being a pessimist is destructive and it won't get you anywhere in life, I learned that the hard way but I changed before it was too late.

I'm afraid to be optimistic. After what has happened in the past ten years...If I was optimistic I would be crushed so much all the time...I'm scared.

[Hollywood]

I'm afraid to be optimistic. After what has happened in the past ten years...If I was optimistic I would be crushed so much all the time...I'm scared.

I know the feeling, but it's far better to be optimistic and feel disappointment when something goes poorly than to always be disappointed and expecting things to go poorly. I'm speaking from experience there as well, when I was pessimistic I was absolutely miserable, but when I decided to look at things in a different light it gave me something to grab onto. And sometimes that's all you need.

[dreamofdante]

I know the feeling, but it's far better to be optimistic and feel disappointment when something goes poorly than to always be disappointed and expecting things to go poorly. I'm speaking from experience there as well, when I was pessimistic I was absolutely miserable, but when I decided to look at things in a different light it gave me something to grab onto. And sometimes that's all you need.

I wanted to kill myself just recently over a girl I had fallen in love with. Keep in mind I was realistic/pessimistic at the time. Imagine if I were optimistic about the relationship...How bad do you think that would've been?

[Hollywood]

I wanted to kill myself just recently over a girl I had fallen in love with. Keep in mind I was realistic/pessimistic at the time. Imagine if I were optimistic about the relationship...How bad do you think that would've been?

It wouldn't have made it any worse, but instead you would've been able to rebound quickly with hope that things would be better next time around. You may think it's stupid to hope for a better future, but who knows what tomorrow holds? Or next month, or next year? I wanted to kill myself too, many times actually, but I just kept thinking: "Is this how I want to be remembered? Someone who gave up after less than two decades? Or someone who fought like a motherfucker and came out better for it?" You quit now and you'll never know what amazing things could be in store for you down the road.

[Pulp501]

Dude, 18 is still really young. A lot of people haven't lost their virginity yet.

[dreamofdante]

It wouldn't have made it any worse, but instead you would've been able to rebound quickly with hope that things would be better next time around. You may think it's stupid to hope for a better future, but who knows what tomorrow holds? Or next month, or next year? I wanted to kill myself too, many times actually, but I just kept thinking: "Is this how I want to be remembered? Someone who gave up after less than two decades? Or someone who fought like a motherfucker and came out better for it?" You quit now and you'll never know what amazing things could be in store for you down the road.

I've actually tried a lot to commit suicide. For many years now. But I just seemingly keep existing. I really wish things would go right for once. I really do.

Dude, 18 is still really young. A lot of people haven't lost their virginity yet.

Everyone I know that's my age has.

[Hollywood]

I've actually tried a lot to commit suicide. For many years now. But I just seemingly keep existing. I really wish things would go right for once. I really do.

Suicide accomplishes nothing, not a single thing. Life itself is a gift, no matter how fucked up it may seem sometimes. We only get one chance, why waste it? Why give up so soon? Other people may have it better but that doesn't mean you can't have it better too one day. But if you off yourself, then I can guarantee that you won't have it better. Things can't get better if you're dead.

[dreamofdante]

Suicide accomplishes nothing, not a single thing. Life itself is a gift, no matter how fucked up it may seem sometimes. We only get one chance, why waste it? Why give up so soon? Other people may have it better but that doesn't mean you can't have it better too one day. But if you off yourself, then I can guarantee that you won't have it better. Things can't get better if you're dead.

I'm afraid that I'll live to be 60 or 70 and it would be a life time of nothing but misery and suffering because things never went well for me.

[Hollywood]

I'm afraid that I'll live to be 60 or 70 and it would be a life time of nothing but misery and suffering because things never went well for me.

We're all afraid of failure, I know I am. But fear is one hell of a motivator, it means at the very least that you aren't satisfied with letting things stay the way they are. Optimism will get you far, but in the end it comes down to you and whether or not you're willing to take the initiative. Life is shit sometimes, it really is, but the shitty times will only make you stronger, as long as you're willing to fight through it and learn from it. I know I've learned a lot from the last few years of my life, it's extremely empowering to come out of it. Suddenly you feel like you can take on anything, if all that shit didn't stop you, nothing can. But if you give up, then that's it. There's no second chances after you die.

[dreamofdante]

We're all afraid of failure, I know I am. But fear is one hell of a motivator, it means at the very least that you aren't satisfied with letting things stay the way they are. Optimism will get you far, but in the end it comes down to you and whether or not you're willing to take the initiative. Life is shit sometimes, it really is, but the shitty times will only make you stronger, as long as you're willing to fight through it and learn from it. I know I've learned a lot from the last few years of my life, it's extremely empowering to come out of it. Suddenly you feel like you can take on anything, if all that shit didn't stop you, nothing can. But if you give up, then that's it. There's no second chances after you die.

My problem is there seems to never be any good times or happy times. It's like there's nothing but constant misery and sorrow and that nothing can ever go right. I'm so tired of being let down and hurt.

[Hollywood]

My problem is there seems to never be any good times or happy times. It's like there's nothing but constant misery and sorrow and that nothing can ever go right. I'm so tired of being let down and hurt.

That's what happens when you're pessimistic, even the good things look bad. You have to appreciate the little things, and know that your rock bottom is a hell of a lot better than a lot of people's best days.

[dreamofdante]

That's what happens when you're pessimistic, even the good things look bad. You have to appreciate the little things, and know that your rock bottom is a hell of a lot better than a lot of people's best days.

Am I going to stop being ugly and unlovable if I'm optimistic?

[Hollywood]

Am I going to stop being ugly and unlovable if I'm optimistic?

Probably. Being optimistic applies to all parts of your life, including how you look at yourself. I hate what I see in the mirror sometimes as well, but I stay positive and shake it off. You can't let shit like that get to you, just like you can't let virginity get to you. I used to get worked up about being a virgin, but then I realized that getting worked up about it won't solve anything.

[dreamofdante]

Probably. Being optimistic applies to all parts of your life, including how you look at yourself. I hate what I see in the mirror sometimes as well, but I stay positive and shake it off. You can't let shit like that get to you, just like you can't let virginity get to you. I used to get worked up about being a virgin, but then I realized that getting worked up about it won't solve anything.

Has that changed at all for you?

[Hollywood]

Has that changed at all for you?

Has what changed?

[dreamofdante]

Has what changed?

Relationships, virginity, etc.

[Hollywood]

Relationships, virginity, etc.

Nope. I have hope though, which is something I didn't have before. I'm slowly regaining my confidence which is something I had none of when I looked at things so negatively. I wish I had someone to love, someone to love me, but crying about it isn't going to change a damn thing.

[dreamofdante]

Nope. I have hope though, which is something I didn't have before. I'm slowly regaining my confidence which is something I had none of when I looked at things so negatively. I wish I had someone to love, someone to love me, but crying about it isn't going to change a damn thing.

Yeah I'm sure things will change for you shortly.

[Hollywood]

Yeah I'm sure things will change for you shortly.

Maybe, maybe not. Who knows what the future holds?

[dreamofdante]

Maybe, maybe not. Who knows what the future holds?

I'm just saying. You have a decent chance.

[Hollywood]

I'm just saying. You have a decent chance.

I'm no better than you, we're both human. That's all there is to it.

Anyways, I've said everything I wanted to say. I hope you really listened to what I said and take my advice into consideration.

[dreamofdante]

I'm no better than you, we're both human. That's all there is to it.

Anyways, I've said everything I wanted to say. I hope you really listened to what I said and take my advice into consideration.

Alright man I'll think about it...I don't know. Take care.

[sweet_girl24au]

I can guarantee you, not everyone at your age that you know has lost it. lotsa bullshitters out there