Is it OK not to cry?

[Bman116]

About two months ago I lost my grandmother. I was very close to her. Ever since then, I've felt sad, and I've felt depressed at moments, but I haven't cried. About a month after, I guess it just seemed like life went back together as it was, just without her there. Now my parents are starting to take things out of her room, and I recently got thinking about this topic.

So, is it OK not to cry whenever you lose someone?

[AlexOnToast]

Grief works differently for everyone. If you don't feel like crying, and so long as it's not because you feel pressured not to cry, then it's all fine. We all deal with things differently.

[ksdnfkfr]

There is no grief rulebook that says you have to cry. We are all wired differently and react to grief in different ways. I sometimes wonder if some people don't like force themselves to cry because they think they are supposed to, or are worried about what others might think if they don't, or end up doing it because it seems like everyone else is. You miss your grandmother - that's all that matters.

[xandyx]

Sometimes I feel like the crying part of my brain is broken and no matter what happens I can't cry. Like I've been through so much that I'm just numb or something. Idk ...I don't think one *has to* cry anytime, just feel and do what works best for you at the time. There's no rule book.

Good luck!

[JamesSuperBoy]

About two months ago I lost my grandmother. I was very close to her. Ever since then, I've felt sad, and I've felt depressed at moments, but I haven't cried. About a month after, I guess it just seemed like life went back together as it was, just without her there. Now my parents are starting to take things out of her room, and I recently got thinking about this topic.

So, is it OK not to cry whenever you lose someone?

Grief and how people react can be different for everyone - maybe its hard to speak about with the family - but yeah its ok to cry and equally ok not to.

[Saint]

No one could feel exactly how another person feels like. Emotions work in a strange way,grieving being one of them. How we deal with the process of grieving differentiates between everyone. Some people ball their eyes out to feel closure,some channel the emotion into positive things. & some take months or even years to move on,while others take weeks,if not days. If she's on your mind,you probably do miss her. so don't take not crying as a sign of not missing her,because it really isn't the case.

[Miserabilia]

I was (Like most people) a crybaby untill I was about... 8?
I haven't really cried in the last few years.