Need some quick advice about a girl

[jhv222]

Since I'm asking for quick advice, Ill try to give quick summary haha

-I like a girl
-Both college sophomores
-I rarely see this girl, she knows who I am and I know who she is since we had a class together last year, but scarcely talked (I wasn't interested in her then)
-I have no idea if she likes me at all, I sometimes think I see signs, but most likely its my mind playing tricks on me.
-When I do see her, its passing by when I need to be somewhere so I just say hello.

I'd like to hang out with her more but its hard since I don't know here really and never see her. Next time I see her I was wondering if it would be a good idea to invite her for some coffee, so we can talk and get to know each other better. If things go well I was thinking of setting up a more "date like date" of going out to dinner like the following week.

Does this sound like a good approach? Is it weird that I am asking a girl i don't know too well randomly for coffee?

The asking her part is not what I'm worried about, since if she does give me a definite "no" then I don't have to think about it anymore. The part that bothers me is not knowing which it is, and when the next time I'll even get the chance to ask her will be.


Wrote a little longer then I would have liked but wanted to give enough details haha, thanks for reading

Jay


--Little update--
Since i do not see her to much, I'm worried its hard to build a relationship since I may only see her once a week passing by. My current plan is to talk to her for like 5 minutes, like small talk, and then ask if she is busy on X day and then if she is not ask if she wants to grab coffee with me at X time. Thoughts on this?

[Tarannosaurus]

I don't think you should ask her to go for coffee until you've had at least a few conversations. It's less likely that she'll say yes if she hardly knows you. Five minutes small talk isn't really enough.

[Danagal]

Give her some compliments see how see reacts. I'm getting the impression your trying to build up to asking her out.

[Croconaw]

You should try to get to know her better. :)

[jhv222]

Thanks for the responses. My concern is that it is difficult to get to know her considering I only see her once a week for only like 5 minutes tops. It makes it difficult to build a relationship and actually talk with her. Thats why I was thinking the coffee would be a good idea so its just like a friendly get together that we can just kinda talk to each other for a bit. Then maybe from there actually start hanging out more and eventually have a relationship.

[Tarannosaurus]

Thanks for the responses. My concern is that it is difficult to get to know her considering I only see her once a week for only like 5 minutes tops. It makes it difficult to build a relationship and actually talk with her. Thats why I was thinking the coffee would be a good idea so its just like a friendly get together that we can just kinda talk to each other for a bit. Then maybe from there actually start hanging out more and eventually have a relationship.

In what kind of situation do you see her? Like on the way to class etc?

[jhv222]

She has a class in the same room as me...but not at the same time. So basically, he class gets out at 2:20, and my class starts at 2:30. So I sometime see her leaving when I am getting there, but don't see her if she gets out early, and the class only meets once a week. Which is why I scarcely see her...its also a completely different class, different professor and everything.

[Croconaw]

Can you ask her to hang out after class?

[jhv222]

Possibly. However my class is just starting, as hers is ending, so she would have to wait 2 hours on campus for my class to finish so we could hang out.

This whole thing has been bugging me cause I feel like if I could just talk with her for like an hour just hanging out together it would be easy to go from there...I just don't know how to put myself in a position to get the opportunity. I'm thinking about just going up to her and talking for a bit then just saying "I want to take you on a date, we can go to blah blah blah and do blah blah blah." (And actually take her on a date, like dinner...not just coffee).

If she says "no" then I figure she may have never been romantically interested in me..If she says "yes" then great I got a date.....But I just don't like the 'not knowing' part of what she's thinking and just having to wait it out for now.

But have been trying to figure out if this is my best option.

[Dwemer]

Short conversations try to make her notice u first in a environment she is comfrtable like school.

[goundy]

Since I'm asking for quick advice, Ill try to give quick summary haha

-I like a girl
-Both college sophomores
-I rarely see this girl, she knows who I am and I know who she is since we had a class together last year, but scarcely talked (I wasn't interested in her then)
-I have no idea if she likes me at all, I sometimes think I see signs, but most likely its my mind playing tricks on me.
-When I do see her, its passing by when I need to be somewhere so I just say hello.

I'd like to hang out with her more but its hard since I don't know here really and never see her. Next time I see her I was wondering if it would be a good idea to invite her for some coffee, so we can talk and get to know each other better. If things go well I was thinking of setting up a more "date like date" of going out to dinner like the following week.

Does this sound like a good approach? Is it weird that I am asking a girl i don't know too well randomly for coffee?

The asking her part is not what I'm worried about, since if she does give me a definite "no" then I don't have to think about it anymore. The part that bothers me is not knowing which it is, and when the next time I'll even get the chance to ask her will be.


Wrote a little longer then I would have liked but wanted to give enough details haha, thanks for reading

Jay


--Little update--
Since i do not see her to much, I'm worried its hard to build a relationship since I may only see her once a week passing by. My current plan is to talk to her for like 5 minutes, like small talk, and then ask if she is busy on X day and then if she is not ask if she wants to grab coffee with me at X time. Thoughts on this?

No it's not wierd at all. I wrote an article about it on my webstie here (http://goundy.com/?p=463). I describe how I easily and consistently get a girl to come on a date from a cold approach, even if you only have been talking to her for a few seconds. I'm busy allot of the time and allot of the time I'll be doing a cold approach demonstration for a student so I don't have long to interact with a girl so even if all I've said is 'hi, your really cute I just wanted to meet you. my name is goundy", all I do is ask her out for coffee (in the same way I describe in my article).

Your little update sounds solid. Just talk for a bit and tell her you want to meet up for coffee or something. The truth is in the absense of fear of failure, meeting women is seriously as easy as getting a glass of water. You can do it. :)

[Tarannosaurus]

She has a class in the same room as me...but not at the same time. So basically, he class gets out at 2:20, and my class starts at 2:30. So I sometime see her leaving when I am getting there, but don't see her if she gets out early, and the class only meets once a week. Which is why I scarcely see her...its also a completely different class, different professor and everything.

Could you start finding reasons to stop and talk to her, like asking her if you can borrow a pen or something, and then you'd have to find her again that day to give it back, or something like that. Asking people for favours is actually supposed to make them like like you more because they feel that they're doing a good deed. As it is I don't think you know her well enough to ask her out.

[xban]

Text message her at least first.