Ashamed of being Gay...

[Magnus Bane]

Sometimes i feel relle ashamed to be the way i am and want to change it. I try and flirt with girls and it doesnt work out. I dont know what to do. I know what i am. /but sometime i want to change. I guess what im trying to say is why was i born this way. and why does the world have to be so cruel to a certain type of people so much they sometimes wish they weren't born?

[Plasma]

Dont ever be ashamed of something that you can't change. It'll only hurt you. Try to feel some pride in it. You're not like the others, you're unique!

[Croconaw]

You shouldn't feel ashamed of who you are. People can be assholes, but you have to try and ignore them.

[ksdnfkfr]

I know what you mean. Even here where it's ultra gay friendly, I sometimes feel ashamed or uncomfortable in mentioning having a boyfriend. Sometimes it's hard not being one of the "regular guys" who likes girls only. I mean that's how it feels when they are talking about girls and stuff. And it's like if I guy says he's got a girl, it's like high fives all around. A guy says he's got a guy, it's like mumbling and acting uncomfortable.

[Dalcourt]

It's okay to feel uncomfortable sometimes as it is society that always makes people who are different feel uncomfortable and as if they don't belong. But you should never be ashamed of who you are. Questioning your sexuality is okay...but as you say it doesn't work out with girls you should accept who you are and not be ashamed.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Sometimes i feel relle ashamed to be the way i am and want to change it. I try and flirt with girls and it doesnt work out. I dont know what to do. I know what i am. /but sometime i want to change. I guess what im trying to say is why was i born this way. and why does the world have to be so cruel to a certain type of people so much they sometimes wish they weren't born?


Read your sig and remind yourself you are who you are and can be just as proud and deserve to be happy -

But yeah life and some people -- yuck

[Danagal]

I believe at our age we all struggle with some some kind shame one way are another but over coming are giving in is what shapes us. I believe also that we have to try things to determine what we want. It's my choice to decide what I am.

[AlexOnToast]

Be proud of who you fundamentally are. You can't change it and yes, hating it will only make matters a ton worse. Remember that whatever you are, there will always be haters and assholes, and the best way to go through life is to filter out the bullshit

[Magnus Bane]

Thx guys I think I was just have a relle bad night... A lot has been going on and it hasn't been working out. but thx for the support that you all gave. thank you all so much

[Fanta_Lover44]

Hey, I felt the same once, but its ok the gay. You can't change who you are so just enjoy being you. ;)

[backjruton]

Most of the people in my college are bisexual and I am too so I'm used to it and there's no hate. There wasn't in school either even though most people there were straight XD You shouldn't be ashamed of it, just enjoy being who you are

[Troye]

Don't be ashamed of your sexuality, it is something you were born with and it should be embraced! For the most part everyone who is not heterosexual will have doubt and worries every now and then about things like this, just know it gets better!

[ugaboy]

I know what you mean. Even here where it's ultra gay friendly, I sometimes feel ashamed or uncomfortable in mentioning having a boyfriend. Sometimes it's hard not being one of the "regular guys" who likes girls only. I mean that's how it feels when they are talking about girls and stuff. And it's like if I guy says he's got a girl, it's like high fives all around. A guy says he's got a guy, it's like mumbling and acting uncomfortable.

Where I am, in the Deep South of the US, it is not really gay friendly at all. I can not even mention it to anyone, except to my best friend - as we are in the same boat, if you get what I am saying. We have to be very discrete at all times. If our friends, my mom, his parents, etc ever found out - we would be in deep shit. I dont see high school being better.

We just go about our business and keep everything quiet. Not fun or fulfilling, but surely best for both of us in the long run.

[Lovelife090994]

Ugh, your story is so close to mine. I wish I could help more.

[cgtlks]

There is no need to be ashamed you are who you are if the world or people in the world don't like it or you for the matter then it's ok don't let anyone kill your shine , be who you are there's people just like you I don't even know you but I respect you just for that I'm gay hear Melrose comment .....keep on being yourself don't change for the cruel people in the world because there not changing for you :)

[ColinB]

people who hate people because of being gay are the same type who hate for color, religion, or ethnic background. Fk em bro....anybody like that doesnt deserve the energy it takes to tell them their a tool.....

i think some people just have to hate something.....which is sad and no way to look at the world....

[Wyatt 13]

Dude I was like BI until 2 moths ago. Then I just face my truth, Im gay. and tbh Im very proud of it, I tried with chicks. didn't work.

[Hermes96]

i feel like that more and more every day even though all my mate are fine with it i sometimes feel like i don't belong or i feel unnatural

[ScottishCanary]

As a straight girl I'm afraid there's not much good advice I can give rather than to say there genuinely is nothing to be ashamed of. You will grow, hopefully to become more confident about your sexuality and that's all that matters. Yes, there are homophobic people out there but they are in the wrong, they aim to make other people feel bad about the way they were born. That's pretty sad in my book! So chin up and be proud of who you are!! :)

[jeremy96]

There's no way you can change if you are gay I will be honest I was in your shoes and I felt ashamed but then I realized IDGAF and I think relationships are stupidest and I don't want to be the one in my family looked at that way so I decided that I will live on my own and never be in any relationship and all just pass the feelings that I have and not think about it

[Harry.]

You should never feel ashamed.

It's not your fault, how I view it is, it was simply meant to be.

[TheBiChristian]

aww i know the feeling dude even though I am bi. But you were made for a purpose. you are beautiful just the way you are. dont change for anybody. Stay strong :)


16 year old bi guy. Anybody who wants to chat, feel free to message me! Love you all <3

[Bolwing]

Is this thread still going? Nevermind, gonna post here anyway.

There's no reason to be ashamed. Being gay is not a choice, and, as such, does NOT make you inferior in any way, shape, or form.

Still, I can't help but feel awkward whenever I talk about something related to sexuality, gay rights, religion or even things that aren't considered traditionally masculine, for fear that someone might suspect that I am gay. I'd rather keep my sexuality to myself, when it comes to pepole outside of my family. At least for now. Too many bigots at my school.

[From Chris]

Sometimes i feel relle ashamed to be the way i am and want to change it. I try and flirt with girls and it doesnt work out. I dont know what to do. I know what i am. /but sometime i want to change. I guess what im trying to say is why was i born this way. and why does the world have to be so cruel to a certain type of people so much they sometimes wish they weren't born?

Hi there Magnus. You shouldn't feel bad about who you are, because you are you and that's fantastic! You should feel proud of yourself and be comfortable with your sexuality and it can take a long time to accept yourself but when you do, life seems like it just got 10x better! :) You shouldn't care what others think. I know that is a LOT harder said than done but it really will get better once you have the confidence to be yourself and not care about opinions. It really is sad that some people are cruel towards LGBT people and they should be ashamed of themselves. Personally i don't think anyone should feel like they weren't born because each and every one of us has so much to offer through our lives and life is a joy once you get the hang out things! There are always people just like you to be there for you and relate with you. Let me know if you have any questions, just quote this or message me! Hope this helps. :)

-Chris <3

[MechaSniper]

Dude be proud of who you are. there is only one you. and no one can be a you. your mor brave then all of us to love your own gender in a public place like this. be proud.

[HeroesAndCons]

The first thing that I have to say is that it takes time for people to come out to themselves and be comfortable with who they are.

It took me a while to accept myself as a lesbian.

Hang in there buddy, you will find your voice soon.

[ieric]

I was like that too but now I'm on my way to being happy. Just takes time to get used to yourself.