Sleeping together with cousin

[ksdnfkfr]

Okay I have a cousin who is 4 months older than me (we're both 13). Our moms are sisters and like best friends so we were always lumped together when little, including baths and naps etc. We are very close of course, but we are very casual about it and not like huggy with each other and have zero any kind of sexual interest in each other.

However... whenever I'm staying over at his place or he is staying over at mine, we sleep together. And not only that, we cuddle. Mostly it's him sleeping behind me with his arms wrapped around me. I guess you call that spooning :whoops:. He also holds me like that when I'm having an autistic meltdown to comfort me. He's just always been protective and nurturing like that. But lately we have been hearing from our folks that maybe we are "getting a little too old for that". So, whatcha think?

[AlexOnToast]

I say if you are both comfortable with it, and are conscious of what level you are both comfortable with, which you clearly are, then to hell with what people think.

[Ethe14]

If your Ok with it I don't see why not. I'm pretty close with my cousin and we do stuff like you described. It's really up to you guys.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I guess you have to ask parents just what they mean -

[Alex_3869]

If you guys both want to do that then do what makes you happy. You don't really have to tell your parents do you?

[deregisterme]

I say if you are both comfortable with it, and are conscious of what level you are both comfortable with, which you clearly are, then to hell with what people think.

Agreed with Alex. Unless it's your parents who are gonna separate you both, to hell with others. If it is your parents, and they try and split you just, let them know hoe U feel.

[Croconaw]

Nobody is forcing you to tell your parents.

[Aidoon123]

Well, you clearly sound close to each other, I see nothing wrong with it, as long as you both feel comfortable go ahead :)

[ksdnfkfr]

Well what happened is, since we don't fool around in any way, a lot of the time we have the door part way open. And my uncle came in to wake us up and my cousin was wrapped around me pretty good and we both had morning wood. And he said "we're wondering if you guys aren't getting a little too old for this". And then he walked out. And we just sat there looking at each other with our mouths hanging open like "wtf?". Just something we never thought anything about until now. We are going to bunk together tonight as usual anyways. Just wish he hadn't said that.

[Fanta_Lover44]

Well as long as you are both comfterable with it I think its perfectly ok. ;)

[NeuroTiger]

Maybe he is your 'twin brother'... ;)

[DeadEyes]

And my uncle came in to wake us up and my cousin was wrapped around me pretty good and we both had morning wood. And he said "we're wondering if you guys aren't getting a little too old for this".

Before they were thinking of it as innocent affection between two young boys, just like you do but now you are teens and he found you guys with erections so they might be worried it turned out sexual.

[ksdnfkfr]

Before they were thinking of it as innocent affection between two young boys, just like you do but now you are teens and he found you guys with erections so they might be worried it turned out sexual.

Well our dads see us with wood in the morning from time to time together or separate, they know it's just from needing to take a piss. Don't think our folks think anything sexual is going on, just that doesn't look right at our age because we are growing up. I guess. But no one has said anything since then or started looking at us weird or anything (according to my cousin, I wouldn't pick up on funny looks).

[Ben101]

Nothing wrong with that!

[ugaboy]

Sounds like you have a great relationship with a cousin who really cares for you. I think you uncle was just expressing his opinion or personal belief about you two sleeping that way. I would ignore it and continue. You are lucky to have such a caring cousin.

[Troye]

It seems fine to me really, if you're that comfortable with each other I see nothing wrong with it

[CcRoder]

If anything, I think he's like your protective twin or something. There's nothing wrong with this, and if he comforts you during a meltdown then it's obviously a positive thing; and I certainly agree that you're so so sosososo lucky to have a caring cousin like that.

[Bmble_B]

Do whatever you guys are comfortable with and what feels right. I find it very sweet that he nurtures you in your time of need :}

[SciMassKid]

Nothing wrong with that.

[pjones]

I think you are really lucky to have such a close friend that is also your cousin. hopefully the adults in your lives will not try an influence either of you to change. I have a friend that i'm really close to and we've know each other since 5 or 6 and we still wind up snuggled together in bed.

[ScottishCanary]

I don't see the problem with it at all. I don't have anyone in my family who would be into that but I guess if youa re both happy with it and nobody feels hurt by it then go right on!

[phuckphace]

I think it's cute.

[Luminous]

If you are both comfortable with it and are not attracted to each other or turned on or anything, I think it's okay.

[ksdnfkfr]

If anything, I think he's like your protective twin or something.

Haha never thought of it like that, we don't look much alike, but I guess yeah. Always just thought of him as cousin.

Had talk with dad about it. He came to me because have been bothered by that and upset over some other stuff and he could tell something was wrong. Did not quite understand but the issue was something about dependency. Because of my autism and stuff they have read boatloads of psychology stuff. But summed it up saying it was a mistake on their part and something or another going with my uncle that made him say that.
But no longer an issue apparently.

So I mean does anyone think there is an age that we should stop at?

[ugaboy]

Glad that got worked out ok.

I dont think there is really any age that you should stop doing this. As you said before, there is no sexual interest on either of your parts, it is simply a comforting thing that both of you seem very comfortable with. You are lucky! I would say keep things the same as long as possible.

[Body odah Man]

If you're ok with it stick to it. Don't listen to what folks say :)

[pjones]

bet you guys will figure out the age thing yourselves. might be next year might be in 10 years, who knows? it's really your decision

[backjruton]

The last time I slept in the same bed with someone was around 8 or 9 with my brother so I don't really know if you're getting too old for it. The only reason I stopped is because we had a spare bedroom in the house that wasn't being used; I went on a 3 day school trip and then I came back to see that my computer had been moved into the different room and I had my own bed.

In a way I'm glad I had to move room because my room is now a lot bigger (I switched with my parents because I was having problems with the space, it's the smallest bedroom in the house and they only used their massive room for sleeping which is why I took it, and currently they just sleep on the sofa downstairs because they haven't got round to sorting out their room yet... AFTER 5 MONTHS) but I don't seem to cope very well. I need to be able to talk to my brother because I don't think I would be very stable without him... I get on better with him than I do with our parents, and it just sucks that I'm not 18 yet because I often get stuck at home on my own as I'm not old enough (not for long :D) to go to the places they go to some Saturdays.

If you want to keep doing it, just keep doing it, or get separate beds in the same room. It depends if the bed is a single or a double, I would personally only sleep with someone else in a double as I like physical contact a lot less than I did back 8 years ago